Should I not reply for a couple days?

[Anonymous]

I was talking and going out on dates with this guy for about a month. He told me he really liked me and loved hanging with me and we had a really good time together. He left for vacation and it’s been about 2 weeks. Since he’s been gone he’s barely reached out. I texted him saying that I found it crazy he hasn’t reached out once since we had sex before he left. He apologized and said that he’s sorry if it seemed that way and it’s not his intention at all and he really likes me. I answered and each text we sent each other it took him about a day to send a message back. After I told him that I found it rude he was not texting me. He says he’s busy but how busy can you be to not reply for a full day. He sent me a text a couple days ago saying he’s thinking about me a lot but he’s just really busy. I answered and said hope everything Is going well see you when ur back maybe :)) he answers 2 days later and said I might buy a factory here !! ( like where he is ) and didn’t say anything else. I’m hurt because I had sex with him before he left and now he barely answers. I wouldn’t have done that if he didn’t make it seem like he really liked me but that’s what he did and now it’s different since he’s been gone. I wanna see him when he gets back do you guys think he will reach out. And I’m planning on not answering his text for a couple days because I honestly don’t wanna have a convo with him that’s 2 days apart each time. What do you guys think I should do?

[Blunky]

You're going to ignore his text for a couple days because you -don't- want conversations 2 days apart. I don't get it.

Some people are just incredibly aloof when it comes to communicating. He was on vacation so that probably has a huge part to play in it (I frankly don't respond to texts while vacationing unless it's specifically about the vacation or if it's someone I'm in a relationship with). There's plenty more vacations to come, I wouldn't risk a relationship over one. You seem far more invested in this relationship than he is, especially after sleeping with him. If you're that desperate to see him again then do you. And work on your communication issues.

[Asker]

Well he told me he would call and face Time me and he’s done none of that. I’m not desperate to see him. It’s just confusing when you leave off on good terms and then everything changes. I obviously wanna communicate with him but if I answer right away it’s him who is gonna leave me there so at the end of the day what’s the difference if I take a couple days to answer. I’m not the one playing games he is

[Blunky]

If he's playing games, and I'm not saying he is because there s real lack of information and communication happening here, then don't play into it. Be direct or move on. This kind of passive aggressive back and forth isn't going to get you anywhere.

[Asker]

But I already told him how I felt and he apologized and took accountability but he’s behaviour didn’t change he didn’t start texting me more or anything. He’s coming back in a couple days if he wants to see me he’ll reach out but I’m gonna keep my distance till then. I’m not leaving him there to prove a point but just keeping my distance cuz I don’t wanna be too much

[Asker]

He’s also 25 and I’m 21 shouldn’t be more mature than that?

[Blunky]

Then his actions aren't matching up with his words. You will meet -many- people like this throughout life unfortunately. And age is becoming less and less relevant to maturity these days. It's also a well known fact that women tend to mature faster than men because of differing priorities. Hence why you usually see more older men with younger women than the other way around.

[Alex-Snow]

He may really be busy but I think his interests lie elsewhere. How old is this guy? He just may have wanted sex with you and is string you along. How was the sex with him otherwise?

[Asker]

He’s 25 years old I’m 21 the sex was really romantic so I don't know what he wants from me

[Alex-Snow]

I'm glad you had some great orgasms with him. However I think the ball is in his court. If he is interested he will contact you.

[In_Trance]

Stop with the drama