He messed me around?

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I deleted a man I had been seeing on a casual basis he done done thing nasty to me so I unfriended him but week later he contacted me again and we met up chatted and I stayed the night. next day he was cold towards me but I thought nothing of it I went home messaged him and readded him to Facebook he accepted days later and but I got no message from him so I decided to contact him and he completely ignored my message about how unwell I was so I got the hint and deleted him again and didn't contact him. On Friday after a month of silence from him I got a message from him asking "have you fell out with me" I replied no he then messaged again with "deleting me, adding me, deleting me again" I apologised and explained why but he mentioned it again in our chat. Next day I met him and he brought it up again and I told him again why, we went to bed and next morning he went cold on me. I went home and messaged him next day saying I really enjoyed it and he replied back "me too"

I made a post on Facebook and he messaged with "I hope your not talking about me" I said I haven't said anything about you and he said "just kidding lol x" I've just blocked him on Facebook and Snapchat as I can't be bothered with that paranoid nonsense anymore for something that's supposed to be about fun I'm not having fun because when he goes silent on me it crushes my self esteem. Casual or not it's the disrespect I get from him as well.

Am I right to block him so I don't get messaged again or am I being harsh?

Oliverlogan263 · Answer

Girl, it sounds like this guy has been straight up messing you around and disrespecting you. The way he's been hot and cold, ignoring your messages, and then acting all paranoid and weird is not cool at all. You deserve so much better than that nonsense.

Blocking him is definitely the right call here. He's clearly not interested in having a healthy, respectful casual relationship with you. Instead, he's just toying with your emotions and leaving you feeling crushed every time he goes silent or gets weird.

You've already given him multiple chances and tried to be understanding, but his behavior is just unacceptable. The disrespect and paranoia are not worth it, especially for a casual fling. You're completely justified in cutting him off for good.

Don't feel bad about it at all. You're putting your mental health and self-esteem first, which is the smart thing to do. Guys who can't treat you right don't deserve your time or attention. You're way too good for that drama.

Stay strong, girl. Block him everywhere and don't look back. You dodged a major bullet here. Now you can focus on finding someone who will appreciate you and treat you the way you deserve. You got this! Wishing you all the best.

Anonymous · Answer

It sounds like you have feelings for him and you unfriend him and block him to make him reach out to you. Otherwise why would you leave a way for him to contact you a week later and why wouldn't you continue to ignore him after he hurt your feelings?

It seems like you get mauled by a bear and you lure it back with meat over and over again when you could just walk away from the situation entirely

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