My ex hasn’t posted in weeks, which is super weird for him. He used to post daily. Do you think he’s okay or is this a mind game guys play?

[Anonymous]

My ex was always posting daily selfies, story updates, or even memes. Lately, though, he’s gone completely silent. He hasn’t posted anything on Instagram or TikTok in 2 weeks , which is very unlike him. He’s still following random girls (even a few new ones recently), so he’s clearly online. We haven’t spoken in months, and I haven’t shown him any signs that I still care—but I’m wondering: is he trying to get attention, move on quietly, or going through something? Would love a guy’s honest take.

[SueShe]

What is it with you guys that are posting 24/7 on social media?

If he does not post anything, then there are reasons for it that we don't know. He could be away, sick, dead, have lost his mind or simply gone off those social media that are, let's be honest, a total waste of time and that brings nothing in terms of intellectual satisfaction.

Perhaps he has grown up and realized that those social media are no longer interesting and that he is better off doing something constructive. But he may also seek validation since you are reacting exactly the way he wants. He wants that someone realizes that he has changed and that he has perhaps moved away from these childish posts and that he has become an adult.

[Asker]

Here’s a response you can post that directly references your ex (without naming him) and keeps it honest but insightful:

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That’s a fair take, but with my ex, it’s a bit more complicated. He used to post constantly — selfies, club nights, story replies — all just for attention and validation. Now it’s been almost 3 months of total silence. No stories, no TikToks, no likes. But he’s still following new random girls, and I know he’s been out — people have seen him. So it’s not like he disappeared from life, just from social media.

It doesn’t feel like he “grew up.” It feels more like he’s playing a silent power move — like he’s trying to make people (maybe me) wonder where he is or what he’s doing. He’s always needed control, and I think the silence is strategic, not mature. If anything, it’s part of the same validation-seeking cycle — just a quieter version. and he’s admitted this to me before he said “didn’t u notice i disappeared for -,- months i wasn’t ok “ like he says shit like this for attention and he’s like so many people asked about me blah blah

[Anonymous]

I think you should consider that you do care a lot, you are watching his actions from afar and somehow think its about you

[Ariesman81]

He's probably dealing with a super sexy Brazilian who is taking up all his time and energy.

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

It probably has nothing to do with you.

[Asker]

You’re right, but the only thing that’s making me think like it does because when he came back to me before he mentioned that he was doing the stuff to get my attention you know what I mean like even though we broke up a while back you still posting stuff about me. You’re not trying to get my attention and stuff but like he hasn’t messaged again like the last message I didn’t reply to it and he never messaged again so that’s why I’m hacking like this is his way of fucking trying to show me like a I became a better person I changed or something like that so we can make me feel like left out