Girls, older brother figures?

[madewithingredients]

So I have two questions, really: do women (adults, not literal girls), actually want older brother type figures in their lives? And would you be disappointed if you later found out that they were into you? I’m taking like, ten+ year age gap.

reason why I ask is I saw a Reddit post about a 50 year old man asking if this 25 year old woman (coworker) is into him. Of course, everyone was like, “no.” He also wrote that he agreed but he provided details and I honestly see why he would think that. Someone responded saying, “if you ask her out for coffee sometime, as a date, she might be extremely disheartened if she thought of you as an older brother figure.”

I see that’s a possibility but I also think that if a woman isn’t into you, she wouldn’t be acting exactly the way she was, even considering the huge age gap.

so my second question is if you were 25 would you behave in a way towards a 50 year old man in the same way you’d behave towards a guy who you want him to ask you out, but not worry about your behavior because you think the age gap is a clear enough reality for the guy to know that there’s no way you’re actually into him, rather you just see him as an older brother figure? I guess I have a third question: would you be extremely disappointed if he ended up saying he had feelings for you?

[SueShe]

I have an older brother and our relationship was not always the best, mainly in view of the fact that he wanted to rule over myself and my little sister. He is 2 years older than me and 4 years older than my sister. Being the first born and a male, made him think he could do with us girls whatever he wanted. It peaked when I was about 10 and my sister 8.

Once, a dinner, he tried to mob my sister as he usually did and I leaned over the table and gave him such a whack in the face that he remained silent, totally taken aback that I dared to whack him in front of the entire family. I paid this gesture very dearly as he would not speak a single word with me for 2 full years; not a "hi", not a "happy birthday", nothing.

In the meantime, things have changed and I love him dearly. The entire story to tell you that no, I don't want an older brother figure in my life nor would I want a person with an age gap of more than 3 years (older).

But I am fortunate enough not to have to worry about that situation since I am not interested in dating.