Why do I matter to him?

[Engie]

He says he doesn't want a relationship as he can't be with me as a relationship should be. But then wen I wana leave him... he starts all the crap that I matter to him... he can't think of being without me. My absence makes him weak and hopeless. Now the question is does he love but afraid of committing? His got all the traits of a good boyfriend, we eat, laugh, slp, talk and spend a lot of time together.

[Nikki1989]

He's telling you he cannot fulfill the role of a committed partner for you right now, for whatever reason he has, even if his reason is vague, which it probably is, being a male. Don't wait for him to change his mind or to “get over his fear.” Life is short, move on.

[Engie]

Thank u

[bowenw]

It seems like he wants all the benefits of a serious relationship without putting his heart into it. He has even admitted he can’t give you that, which translates to you have to get it elsewhere.

[bowenw]

Thank you for the MHO. 😊

[236color]

Sounds like he's wants to keep his options open if someone better comes along. Drop his ass.

[spartan55]

He wants the free 🥧 and when he thinks you will remove that he panics.