Girls, why do you tell your man he completely satisfies you when he doesn't/didn't?

[Communicationisking]

I get the ruining his ego thing etc. But F him and his ego because if you feel he should have satisfied you and he didn't and worse yet didn't know, I feel like it should be communicated or you will have to be unsatisfied regularly and he will never improve if he didn't know he didn't get you there.

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Guys that know this has happened to you, how did you feel you had been lied to knowing full well that she didn't get there

[RavVid]

It isn't that hard to tell a woman has orgasmed because of vaginal spasms and other indicators. We all know that audible responses can be faked.

For me it hardly fails to happen but I can count a few. More the question is how good the orgasm was for her because that is harder to tell.

I think it is good to have after action reviews though a lot of girls don't seem to like that. If you don't tell your sex partner what really excited you/pleasured you than your are forcing them to rely on intuition and they may intuit wrong.

So yeah old fashioned communication but I don't agree with the F approach. It is better to be positive. "I really like you doing x. I'd love more of that"

[Communicationisking]

Agreed the F approach probably sounded a little harsh but I meant well by it as I feel it is better for the guy to know than to not know so his ego out the window and just give it to straight, it will be better in the long run for both.

True bout what you say about the spasms etc. but I have been with a few girls that spasm like they are orgasming and they even cum/squirt but doing a debrief after reveals that they came/squirted but didn't orgasm IKR had me fooled but if it wasn't for the chat after I wouldn't have known.

Your last bit of your last sentence should be part of every ongoing sexual relationship from both or all if there is more than two :)

[RavVid]

Interesting what you said about spasms but no orgasm. I've always thought of spasms/came/orgasm as synonyms. Did you get any inkling on what the difference was for them? Could it be they are used to having bigger orgasms and describing minor one as having came but not orgasmed? With a regular partner a couple of times I felt a very weak spasm and on inquiry she wasn't sure if she had orgasmed describing it as a funny one.

Diverting for a moment, have you noticed any difference with clit size as to how readily women orgasm? Curious.

Couldn't agree more there should be debriefs but some girls - especially Asian girls - are reluctant in my experience which is unfortunate if so.

I took the F approach as more being emphatic by the way.

[Shiprex]

I'd say if you need or demand someone else be responsible for getting YOU off then YOU'RE not engaged enough in the act.
Your mind is elsewhere.
Since the brain is the most powerful erotic organ in the body, it's essential that IT is tuned in and turned up to 12 so as to get you off when you decide.

Laying the burden on another for "giving" you the gratification they're able to get because they are in the erotic zone is entitled.

[Shiprex]

To be honest if she says nothing and doesn't express need or longing then that's on her to be open and communicative.

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

In this case, I fully agree with your username. Grown adults actually communicate, even in the bedroom. I understand the not wanting to crush his ego sentiment, but it's better off long term to just talk about what is working and what isn't.

My partners and I are really good about that and never take it personally as in being hurt by it. We always want to improve and please each other. Everyone should communicate better and we'd all be better off.

[Communicationisking]

So true and well said... the ego crush is only really that when communicated poorly, constructive criticism is healthy

[msc545]

Probably because she figures he will do until someone she thinks is better comes along...

[Communicationisking]

True but it is exactly what I am saying though ie. he could be better if he was told the truth and he would try or should try to do better next time but if the guy thinks he has satisfied his partner then he really doesn't have any idea what he is doing wrong or what he should do more of etc.

For example I bet most guys here have heard "oh your so big or oh your so deep" when you know you totally aren't either of those or if you are big/long and not even half way in you just know they are I don't know that's what I'm trying to work out. Like what's the point of it? I just let them go for a while then the truth comes out when you really reach pound town.