Is it a turn off for a guy?

[Anonymous]

Me and this guy was talking about hanging out.. eventually he said he was waiting on me and I seem busy these days. I was teasing on msgs I’ll think about it and rethink seeing him… and how he also seem busy with work… he left me on read all day yesterday… and today I msged him to clarify I was just teasing and of course I wanna see him this weekend…. He left me in read again :/ I really wanted to see him… I thought we had a good banter going on that’s why… but I don't know maybe I made him insecure.. I don't know what else I can do…

[Orion84]

He thought you were playing games. Guys hate that, and almost nothing kills our interest faster.

We prefer when women are honest. You don't necessarily have to be direct and aggressive, but if you're interested, and want to see us, just say so. Pretending you're not interested, playing hard to get, and just games in general, will make us give up faster than anything.

It makes us feel like we're wasting our time, that she's not interested, and ultimately not worth it. Whether that was your intention, or not, that's how it would have come across to him, and his interest did a nosedive.

[Anonymous]

Stop playing games. You didn’t make him insecure. I don’t think k any man would be insecure about this. They’d just get tired of it and move on to a girl who’s going to want to actually be w him w out playing games. People are just these days they don’t have time to play games. So he may have moved on. Or he’s just ignoring you cause he’s mad and making you feel what he feels.

[Asker]

I wasn’t intending games. I actually think he’s a great guy who I wanna hang out. We had a good banter going on.. so I thought he knew I was just teasing… I’ve done that in the past and it has never been a problem.. but I see how it may not be okay for everyone and I can’t joke like that too early… I’m pretty sad

[Opinion Owner]

Well it actually didn’t work w past relationships otherwise you’d still be w the men you were w in the beginning.

[Asker]

No not my exes but just guys I was talking with. They usually would laugh or just joke with me back. So I get it now that it’s not for everyone

[Opinion Owner]

Well maybe because those dudes weren’t interested in you?

[Anonymous]

I would get irritated if a guy does that to me

[Asker]

😭😭😭

[spartan55]

Hmmm online messaging ruins another one... shocking.

[Panthero80]

I like it when a girl seems interested.

[Asker]

He probably thought I wasn’t interested? 😔 but I msged him today I was just teasing and I do wanna see him…. He left me on read

[Panthero80]

Good luck.

[Asker]

😭 is he upset or not interested anymore?

[Panthero80]

He probably thinks you are not interested.

[Asker]

But I msged him today to try to reassure him I was just teasing him and of course I wanna see him this weekend. He left me on read…… what’s that mean….

[Panthero80]

Maybe he hasn't seen your message. Maybe he doesn't want to play games.

[Asker]

He opened it and actively online, but no reply… 😔 so he thinks I’m playing games? What else can I do…

[Panthero80]

Give it time.

[Asker]

You’re right. He msged me saying he knew I was teasing and we’re good. He said he’s bad at msging. (We’ve only been msging on social media). Then he gave me his number as it might be easier. I’m so surprise lol.