Guys, is being easy a turn off? If yes, why?

[little_bird1]

I noticed guys often contradict themselves. They keep complaining about girls being hard to get and how they would just love us to be more direct and more opened about our sexuality. BUT as soon as they actually meet that kind of girl, they bail. In their minds she is seen as slut and they think that she's like that with everyone. Instant turn off. Or maybe intimidation? I'm not saying every guy is like that, but from my personal experience a lot are.

[Christpaquin]

I've no issue with girls being more direct and open.

Its just that if the girl is always with a new guy.

What prove me that she is not going to be unfaithful because she like that type of life and want both?

At the same time maybe she is going to be bored over time.

If you are a douchette it's automatically the case, so you get no good guy.

If you like douche bag its almost the same thing.

If you choose your guy, I've no issue, it's even positive.

[Anonymous]

Here's the deal, women don't understand.

We love easy women... but we don't respect them.
If a chick is willing to fuck easy, we WILL do it because of the sex, but we don't want her to try and become our girlfriend or anything. She is useless outside of her holes.
The girls we stay with are ones with enough self-respect to make us wait and get to know them before giving it up.

[little_bird1]

Do you see a paradox here? So guys go for girls who turn them down (even though they're dying to dig in), and girls turn guys down so they wouldn't think of them as sluts (even thought they're ALSO dying to be drilled). Basically both parties are holding in and pretending. I'll never understand this, lol.

[Opinion Owner]

You know how women constantly shit test men to see how much he really wants her. How they say no but actually want to see how much he's willing to fight for her (to bloat her selfish ego)
When women say nothing is wrong when something is because they want to see how much the guy "cares" and she uses that crap to see if he is worth being with or not... these are all the same kind of shit tests.

Yeah, we shit test you on the idea of sex, if you give it up GREAT we don't have to try anymore or bother getting to know you. But if you make us wait, as frustrating as it may be sexually, we know you aren't an easy skank who fucks random guys, and we are forced to get to know you more while trying to play your game. We give more respect to that kind of female.

[azzntittiz]

Then you end up miserable with the ones who pretend to not be easy, just so she can trap you with her faults and now you regret it because you don't really have respect just pity so you stay, you don't want to break your promise and look like a hypocrite or hurt her feelings.

Every guy who ends up with a "good girl". Thanks in advance for your services at the strip club anyway.

[Opinion Owner]

@azzntittiz I don't get where you get pity out of getting to know someone. But if that's what you take from it. Happy Trails.

[little_bird1]

For me dating and being into someone is not a game. You're either all in (easy as fuck) or you're all out (hard to get, or better said never to get). Testing a guy to see how strong he will fight and far he can go? What is this bullshit? Same goes for guys; seduce her to be naughty with you just to test her limits and his 'fun'? The fuck?

[Opinion Owner]

Well as much as you may not believe you shit test, it's something all women do. Even something as simple as waiting for him to call you first to see if he is interested or saying "I'm fine" when you aren't.

[little_bird1]

I never waited a guy to call me first just to test him. It depends on many things if I will call first or wait for him, I just pay attention to turns. If we were on a date and he said during the date that he would like to see me again in few days (even better if he already had a time, place and activity) then I will definitely call him first to ask if we're still on. If at the end of the date I didn't say that I had a great time (and I did) I will text him later that I had a great time. If he didn't say he had a great time or if he didn't ask me to hangout out again, but I did instead, then I will wait for him to call me first. If neither one of us said anything about seeing each other again, then it depends on my mood if I call him or not (like if in couple of days I get a desire to see him again, hell I'll just ask him). If he says no or if he says he'll check if he's free or if he's not sure, then I'm never calling again first.

[little_bird1]

If we were texting and I was the first one to initiate it, then I will wait for him to initiate the next time. If my message was the last one and he didn't respond to it (maybe fell asleep or just got bored or whatever) I will wait for him to initiate it next time. It's basically all about turns.
And about saying 'I'm fine' when I'm actually pissed at him, who the hell does that? I might say I'm fine if something else pissed me off and I don't wanna talk about it, but never if it's related to him.

[ZomBGirl]

I'm not a guy just let me tell you something, being easy is what guys who don't value relationship want. You shouldn't fall for a guy like that.

[JosyJosy]

If you're easy they might think you're not taking it seriously

[AllThatSweetJazz]

Depends what you mean by 'easy.'

Easy as in being promiscuous is a turnoff. I'll be having none of that, thanks.

If you mean easy as in just agreeable, nice, comfortable to be around, straightforward -- as in easy to get along with, easy to approach, easy to feel like she's interested in me then yeah, that I like.

And when you say "direct and more opened about our sexuality," again it depends what you mean. I *don't* want to hear about a long list of guys you've banged. I *do* want to hear about your interest in me.

Making sense?

[Anon09]

if she's easy to get it sometimes feels like you're not special to her as she probably had lots of guys similar in your situation and you are not anything new to her. Plus it also feels like you can easily be let go of because she's probably broken up lots of times

[little_bird1]

See this is what I don't get about guys. Why do you automatically think that if a girl easy with you that she's easy with everyone else? Did it ever crossed your mind that she's easy because SHE LIKES YOU? Why do you always assume the worst...

[Anon09]

Because most guys dont think they're special enough to literally be liked and only liked by a girl. Our pride and ego is high but most of our self worth is quite low. We would think "if she likes me she probably likes that other guy who is better/smarter/better looking than me"

[Savreth]

We do not naturally want to assume the worst.
But you need to understand that there is a difference between being "easy" and being interested in sharing something with a person you genuinely like. There's nothing wrong with you being sexually open towards the guy or girl that you want to be with, but when that changes into being sexually open and "easy" to convince into intimacy, that is where many men are scratching their heads like "Do I really want a >serious< relationship with this person".

For that same reason, I would never date a girl that breaks off her previous relationship for me. If that happens, it'll be possibly happening to me as well. It may not, but the risk is there and sadly men (and women) have been burned often enough to not be cautious.

[HikerDude]

A lot of guys don't have the sexual experience to satisfy a woman who is overtly sexual and experienced. So they want a woman to come to them, but a ballsy woman also throws them off and spooks them. So they run away. This is why dominant and socially confident guys like me get so much sex. We're the only guys with the balls and experience to take on strong girls who just want to get their girl rocks off.

[JoeyStrait]

Dont be easy but dont be hard lol, guys like chasing to see how far you will go. How far we can push women before she gives in, but dont make it easy to where the games are too easy for us to win it gets boring, its like modding on your gmaing system, exciting and thrilling for a bit, then boring and you wanna throw it out

[little_bird1]

For me dating and being into someone is not a game. You're either all in (easy as fuck) or you're all out (hard to get, or better said never to get).

[ChapizCholo]

Yes it is a bit off a turn off, but mainly because women play harder to get and when one throws herself at you, you can't help but wonder what is wrong with her. Lol

Just goes against the norms, but it's ok.

[serious]

You mean a woman who is easily available and never plays hard to get? never pretends to be busy? never plays any sort of mind games? right?

If that is what you mean, then " NO" it's not a turn off.

[Mexicoman101]

Depends on how easy. If she's like a very soft touch who appears to act like she'll fuck anyone i'll be very worrried about my likelihood to contract an STD from her. Otherwise, no it isn't really a turn off, & is far preferable to her being a prude.

[geeky_stoner]

For me personally if it clicks, it clicks time has nothing to do with it. I also don't have problems with so called sluts, as long as they aren't cheaters they just have strong sexual appetites and there's nothing wrong with that.

[Yayeet]

It's not difficult to understand. We want a girl that is open about hee feelings towards us, a girl that doesn't play games, not a girl who will fuck any guy that calls her cute.

You do know you can be straightforward and not fuck everyone, right?

[martyfellow]

You're right about most guys. They are afraid to take a chance on someone who spontaneously likes them. They want a contract, just like many girls.

[Like-Me]

Most men and women just spew bullshit.
They say one thing but actually want the other.
In this case, no one wants a sexually 'liberated' slut.

[little_bird1]

Then why sexually flirt with her and then change your mind when she actually reciprocates?

[Like-Me]

Flirting doesn't means he wants to marry you.
It's just fun.

[Imranahmedch2010]

Its a difficult world. It's not about easy or hard to get it's about who you are that turns on a man. Just be yourself don't act and right man will come your way

[SirNewhallian]

For me, it’s not a turn off. Its reassuring really.

[nasty4fun]

No it's not that. If we looking for ltr and you throw it at us we will take it and leave you hanging because you weren't who we wanted but we always want pussy. So we take what we want and go.

[es20490446e]

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[NvN001]

I think, you just need to him feel that its just him that you're easy with and nit with anyone else.
Once he gets that you are into him, he'll definitely notice if the feeling is mutual

[DrTruth]

Not looking for a relationship. I love sluts and one night stands.

[Decentguy]

not at all. i prefer her to be easy and straight forward, then playing games hard to get, which is a very big turn off

[DamnMan]

For me, depends on who she's easy for.
If it's for me only, then it's a turn on.
If it's for everyone, then NOPE!!!

[RedThread]

Nah as long as she takes proper precautions there's nothing wrong with it in my opinion.