Do guys like giving hickeys or is it because they're overwhelmed, and that's how they relieve their urge? Do y'all mark someone on purpose?

[Anonymous]

I let my ex drive me home. He's been seeing and liking other women. He even thought about dating other women again. I don't care. When he got to my house, he kissed me and started to kiss my neck.
I told him not to bite me.
He did it anyway, and I let out an ouch. I told him he bit me, and he told me he knew, and he did it on purpose.
When I got in the house, I had a hickey from what he did.
I know he's not in love with me
I just want to know from a male's perspective why you think he did that?
And is this a common "in the moment" occurrence?
The Pic is what kind of hickeys he did while we were dating...

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8 mo

I do want say before we dated I was breaking it off with my friends with benefits and my friends with benefits left a hickey. My ex saw it. He was mad and didn't talk to me until I made him. He was mad that I went back to him after our 1st date. However we been through the relationship phase and are now exes, he shouldn't of bit me in the car after I told him not to. Why, if he likes someone else?

[dwreborn]

Honestly it's not my thing to give them or receive them it's last thing other people want to see if you were at work and wherever else maybe he did it to make guys think your taken a jealous thing but if I was trying to get you back last thing I would do is do something u asked me not to do and upset you but that's just my mind

[ilistengood]

No he shouldn't have. he definitely. marked you so ghetto could brag about it? How old is he , how old when he was biting your tits? When I was a teenager yeah I did it intentionally but it was foreplay of a sort. But I realized that marking her body wasn't a fun thing in the light of day .

[Genie23]

You need to stop letting people come back into your life and treat you the way they want to. He's clearly not looking to get back with you judging by his actions. He wants other women but also think that he can come back to you anytime and do whatever he wants and you'll allow it. You asked "why?" Because he's immature. He's marking his territory. He wants to be with other women but don't want you to be with other guys.

I don't want to sound mean or something but you need to have some self control and have some respect for yourself. Don't entertain your ex and if someone doesn't take your no for an answer, just stay away from that person.

[ProbablyClueless]

It's definitely a purposeful thing. But honestly, your situation just sounds somewhat abusive. Like the guy overpowered you and ignored your wishes.

Hickeys and bite marks aren't things you leave by accident. You definitely have to make an intentional effort because of the force required.

[Anonymous]

How does a guy do that without the top or the bra coming up and off or up and over? 👀😋 Crikey yikes 😬 😬 😬

And that's terrible - consent should always be consensual. You're a 20s woman so you know, the only legal questions are if you gave consent

[Asker]

The pic was days after he did it
At that time I didn't know how to get rid of a hickeys and as you can see they were a big ones
I was 22

[Opinion Owner]

Uh okay. Lol so you mean the top, came off or he/you lifted it? Otherwise the fabric should've could've prevented skin contact just a mouth full of fabric 😋

[Asker]

The top came off
I wasn't even wearing this outfit
This is from a few days after he did the hickeys
Usually when he does it, it lasts 2 weeks

[Opinion Owner]

Oh my : crikey 😋 hehe. I'm sorry to hear though seriously about the mark - seems he must've been using teeth or got carried away - as long as there was consent and you're fine, I don't know what else to say other than - I don't know. Find a better lover. Or if you don't like what he did, it's up to you to follow your legal courses of action through courts or etc

[Opinion Owner]

Hope year 2025 treats you better

[Bricealan]

What you show, and discuss, sounds really bizarre, for any body's behavior. I cannot imagine you participating in such a stupid act

[Asker]

Can you just replace the ex with an friends with benefits or something
Every time someone mentions an ex, they call them stupid, but wouldn't mind doing casual crap with somebody else 🙄 😒

[AviatorTom]

I never did hickeys, even as a teenager, when they're pretty a pretty common way for a guy to mark his territory, and let everyone know that this girl belongs to him.

When he bit you, you should have kicked him where it hurts. 😏

[Asker]

I was in the car and his hand was around my neck leaning me back.
And it was my ex, not a regular guy
I don't feel the need to hurt him like that

[Lliam]

Hickies are an adolescent thing. They are a way of marking ownership of proving that you got intimate.
There is nothing pleasant about giving or receiving. It's not sensual or erotic.

[Stevepro68]

Gotta tell you not a fan of giving any hickies. For whatever reason my girl has a biting thing she does it and loves it... especially at the right moments. I only like it because it turns her on so I can take or leave it but happy to oblige.

[OneViewpoint]

No that is not normal behavior for an adult male. That is 15 year old behavior.

[Jennz6]

Her boobs were slapped repeatedly, I know that feeling

[Asker]

Nah, he was sucking & biting them

[Jennz6]

Ohm but it looks like what happened to me when I was slapped really hard

[Asker]

It was definitely from his lips
A couple of days earlier, it was light purple like regular hickeys
Most of the time, his hickeys stayed for 2 weeks and changed into that

[Jennz6]

I’m jealous of her

[Asker]

That's me. why? my situation sucks

[Jennz6]

I would love someone sucking on me

[Kaneki05]

I mean it's hot, and yes I have many times though on the neck

[MJVillarama]

Some guys like giving hickeys on purpose as a playful or intimate gesture; others do it in the moment when things get heated.

[es20490446e]

Wasting time on exes.

Either you date, or you don't.

[Asker]

I'm not trying to date him again
He offered to take me home since he lives close to me

[es20490446e]

While eating your boob.

[Asker]

No, that was when we were dating, but that's how hard he usually does the hickeys
Most of the other pics, it looks red, but it changes colors like this
I just don't have evidence of that

[es20490446e]

I prefer to bite, and only if I'm really into the woman.

[Asker]

Oh ok

[LiamS95]

It's a juvenile thing reserved for teenagers to give hickeys. He must be very immature.

[Alex-Snow]

For me it was more of a high school thing kinda a badge of honor and something to brag about

[Virgo42]

For one they look ugly and I wouldn’t make them because they look better without and I would trust my partner and that’s just me but she would look better without those marks

[EBoyXx]

Damn thats a big ass hickey 1st of all lol. I used to leave them on my ex bit on her neck. Its marking system to show others to back the cluck up. I think.

[Richardjd]

I love giving hickeys leaving my mouth marks all over a girl

[StevenMcGarrett]

He definitely wants you. Your tits are amazing and he definitely wanted to suck on them.

[dudeinohio]

I despise hickeys and find them low class and trashy.

[Bklynbadboy12]

I've done it before in the heat of the moment but now on purpose what was doing to me just felt so good and I did it so I could keep quiet

[RedInnocent69]

You poor thing! Occasionally for fun, but I learned fast to lick not suck

[beefcakebradybatson]

Must be because I'm old, but I didn't think hickeys were still a thing.

[Anonymous]

I never did it.

But I actually know some girls who like giving hickeys.

[BadApple69]

He was marking his Territory. Very immature.

[Nikki1989]

Abuse is never attractive.

[slatyb]

We like to leave marks.

[WonderingManII]

I wouldn't do that to girls.

[TonyMetal___86]

I don't like it but it happens...

[shortster]

He doesn't want you to see other men.

[Jennifer40]

我认为男人在女人的胸部或脖子上留下吻痕是因为他们占有欲强，想让其他男人知道你只属于他。

[ilistengood]

Yeah, what she said

[CheapTrills]

You need to stop this

[Jmmmfi4]

I think hickeys are hot

[spartan55]

So fucking trashy...

[jahaims]

Trash

[Asker]

Dang I never knew how many guys don't like hickeys, so this isn't something a guy does when he's overwhelmed
He just did it on purpose all the time?

[In_Trance]

Gnarly

[MasterKS]

Its a passion.

[Asker]

Passion?

[MasterKS]

@asker giving a good sex stamp.