I was in bed with my lover and he asked 'color' what does this mean?

[Anonymous]

These details are basically the title, but I was in bed with him and suddenly he asked 'color?' I was confused, so I asked what he meant, he then just said 'nevermind.' If anyone knows, what does color mean?

[slatyb]

This is a common question between a BDSM top and the sub to check in and see how the sub is doing. Typically the answers are green -- go, yellow -- I'm feeling some stress, go slow, red -- stop now!

"Red" is a common safeword, and the sub will say "red" when they need the scene to stop or pause immediately; it's not a common answer to "color?".

[Asker]

Thank you! I've never heard of this before but ill definitely keep this in mind!

[slatyb]

If you are going to play with BDSM, you need to discuss it first. You might start by asking him what he was thinking when he asked the question. I'm guessing that he has some interest, but he should have discussed it with you. It's so important to talk about your sexual interests early in the relationship. You don't want to be a year or more into a relationship before finding out that one or both of you has strong desires that the other is unwilling to accommodate.

[Orion84]

I'm sorry, but I have no idea what that means, unless it was a tic of some sort. 🤷‍♂️

[Nikki1989]

Kind of random!

The color of what?

[Asker]

I don't know! He then just said nevermind like it never happened!

[RavVid]

Other than a brain fart of "color" I have no idea.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like the most idiotic question anyone could ever ask. I would sarcastically answer: "No, I still have an old black and white TV that I still watch"

[itsannalee]

Maybe he just curious about color

[BruceWayne32123]

Never heard that in my life

[Asker]

My boyfriend isn't younger than me so I don't even know if its like slang or anything.

[BruceWayne32123]

Yeah that is super weird I don’t get it

[BruceWayne32123]

The only color I care about when it comes to bedroom stuff I can’t say

[Anonymous]

Was he smoking something?