Do women find it annoying when men don't feel like they are attractive guys?

[ManOnFire]

I've heard some women say they hate it when guys don't think they're good-looking dudes. Is this really true?

[Anonymous]

Well it’s the whole thing about the amorphous description about “confidence”.

Men are constantly having mixed messages thrown at them. We hear about annoying and/or creeping guys hitting on women and most guys don’t want to come off like that.

Also women can be unpredictable about what they do and don’t find attractive at times. When I was younger I’ve interacted with women who thought without a doubt would find me comparatively attractive (they were so so themselves) only to be rejected.

Then I’ve encountered women who felt out would be out of my league. I figured I had no chance, so I didn’t even try only to find out later (when it was too late and they were now taken) that they thought I was cute and were disappointed I didn’t approach them.

Right now I have been messaging a much younger woman who is very attractive on a dating app (and I know she’s real). We are supposed to get dinner tomorrow.

Now even though I look young / good for my age, I am still wondering if she just wants a sugar daddy. But I’ve encountered those types in the past. So far she hasn’t given me any of those negative signals. She did like and message me first.

Now considering she doesn’t flake out on meeting up, should I be “confident” about my looks despite being 15+ years older? I will be, but definitely not the same way I was at 25.

[ManOnFire]

15 years older? Jeezis that's a lot.

[Opinion Owner]

44 and 29 is a huge age gap?

[ManOnFire]

Yeah kind of. I couldn't imagine dating someone in their 20s, the thought makes me cringe. But hey if it works out for you then go for it.

[NerdGuy89]

To the any women who say yes. Maybe make a guy feel better about himself then. Most men don’t get compliments from women. And i know there will be women saying things like oh i do that or some other thing. You know what else you can do? Not laugh at men when they ask you out or make joked about how they look. Its all women's fault.

[DishLady]

Depends.

Some guys are nice looking but just don't know they're nice looking, so they don't have that weird affectation of guys who act like they're God's gift to the universe. These guys are endearing.

Some guys have that Eeyore energy... "ho-hum, i'm bad looking... no one wants me... so sad... " and that IS annoying.

Some guys are nasty bc they want a gal to feel lower than them (in terms of self esteem) so they feel justified in talking to the girl. Those guys are past annoying.

Lastly are the guys who think they are God's gift to the universe but then complain that they're still single. No mystery there, but there's no knocking any sense into those losers.

My policy is to hang out with the first type of guy (the "Keeper") and to walk away from the rest.

[sage2021]

Some guys have reasons to make them feel like they aren't attractive - like if they are bald. But it doesn't matter to me as much as it matters to the guy.

I think they just want to see if she will accept him and let him know that he's attractive in her eyes and that's all that matters. (If they are dating etc) Then they both can relax about it once they've talked about it.

[sage2021]

Thank you for the MHO 🙂

[Gobbyjobby52]

Never heard of this but i imagine that a lot of women would think he's being silly or melodramatic. If the guy saids it sarcastically when he knows inside that he is good looking and the woman is dating him then yes she'll probably hate it and see him as hording sympathy and validation.

[SimonK56]

To be honest, I've never really considered myself an attractive guy, I'm just me, but I have had at least one girl tell me that she thinks I'm incredibly cute, her words not mine... lol... but I'm not going to argue with her about it... lol.

[Shiprex]

Men aren't conditioned to fall into the vanity attractive cliche dramas of women so inherently downplay their self appraisal.

[queenofcardio]

You know my opinion on this 😏 😉

[ManOnFire]

Yes I do😂

[queenofcardio]

Haha I had to double check who was asking because we literally talked about this 😂

[ManOnFire]

That's why I posted it lol

[BCRanger10]

I'd guess more true than not.

[FenixG45]

I don't know. My girlfriend thinks it's cute.

[robocop666]

thats me. I look good but dont act it.