Is it just me, or does he like me?

[Anonymous]

We aren’t in the same grade, so we barely ever see each other.

We kind of first met accidentally, where I was eating lunch in a classroom and he came in with another friend, also finding a spot for lunch. I was just hanging out in my corner, but he kind of started talking to me, which I was surprised by, because I wasn’t ever expecting people to talk to me (I even had my headphones on). And he began asking me which grade I’m in, small talk in general. It was very short, because soon their teacher came in and I had to get out of the classroom.

And then probably what felt like weeks, or even a month go by. One day, I was by the water machine filling my bottle, and I heard this voice approach me and go heyy how’s it going? And I look back and it’s him, but I kind of forgot about him (that’s how long ago it was) and I just couldn’t remember where he knew me from. So I responded politely, but he started asking about where I go to school for my piano studies (prior to this, I did not tell him or at least don’t recall telling him about me being a conservatory student - but we do share some teachers like French and history, and they all know this, so perhaps that’s where he found out?). So I answered him, more small talk, and we kinda parted ways to go to our class.

(More details in comments!)

[SueShe]

Well, boys will be boys and mainly in your age group (if this is really your age group), then they will go to great lengths to try to get the attention of a girl because their testosterone dictates their behaviors.

I don't really know if he likes you for whom you are as a person or more for what potentially you can give him in terms of physical enjoyment.

So, I would be really very careful and try to find out more about that boy because his behavior raises a lot of red flags that need to be cleared up before.

[spartan55]

Soooo much unnecessary detail. He might like you, might not. If you like him I would suggest letting him know.

[Alex-Snow]

He sounds like he likes you
How old is ge? Do you like him?

[Asker]

Hi Alex, thanks for the answer. If you wrote this after reading all the stuff I wrote, thanks a lot for your time. He’s junior and I’m senior. I think I do like him, or at least want to be good friends with him since we seemed to resonate a lot, but here’s a little update: I DMed him on Insta (just a simple Hello Name) to see if I can ask him to hang out again at lunch, but he never responded. Today I ran into him again, I said hi and he said hi back with the same smile as before but we didn’t talk (he also had to take a test). Later, I was doing work around this common area and he walked directly past me twice but never acknowledged me like he did before.

[Alex-Snow]

I bet he may be new to relationships, dating or sex. Maybe try to talk to him one on one irl

[Alex-Snow]

Message me if you want to discuss it more or ask any questions for a guy near ur age

[Asker]

I unfortunately cannot send messages because I’m not 2xper, so comments will have to do! Thanks so much for the input. He’s a super popular basketball player on our varsity team, but from all my irl interactions with him he has a serious, nerdy and almost shy sort of energy, so that may be because of what you suggested. If you read through the entire story I wrote under CuriousMufuxka’s comment you’ll see that despite the connection we made with that lunch convo and despite initiating all our previous encounters, he’s not responsive to any of my initiation now, which is confusing. Do you think I might be being too pushy, or something else?

[Alex-Snow]

When u get to xpr 2 message me
But u are not being pushy. Does have a gr?
I still think he might be new to relstionships or sex

[Alex-Snow]

Follow him on socials also to learn more

[Asker]

What’s a gr?
I will try to get there

[Asker]

Well we follow each other on insta still

[Alex-Snow]

girlfriend... my bad

[Asker]

Np, and as far as I can tell no

[Alex-Snow]

Keep a positive attitude.. take care of ur life and sexualpl3asure even if it is solo. 8m sure he does the same. Ur thoughts?

[CuriousMufuxka]

Yeah it seems like just you.

[Asker]

I couldn’t figure out how to add a comment on my own post - here’s more details:

Weeks go by again. Sometimes I see him in the hallway in passing, and when we see each other he’d start smiling and give a wave. The other day, I was hanging out in that same classroom from the start, alone, again eating lunch, and he opened the door and after seeing me in it was almost going to turn away but ended up coming in either way, asking me if it was okay he ate his lunch here. So I took off my headphones and gesture Please go ahead! So he does, and he sits in a chair parallel to me with two chairs between us. I see that he opened his lunch and was starting to eat it, so I put my headphones back on and was about to do my usual work, until he started asking me how is my conservatory work going. I was surprised again (because it’s not like we even knew each other personally aside from the two aforementioned chance-meetings which spanned months), so I took off my headphones again and tried to make my response funny by kind of being honest and telling him it’s so much and I barely do my homework. He was smiling and looking at me, and then he starts going in depth, asking me if it’s just music theory class I do or what else is there. So I answer some more, talk about my classes…he had many, and I mean many other following questions and things to say, and while he was eating lunch his eyes were always looking at me, just holding the longest eye contact with me during a conversation in my entire life. And he just had this soft? Gentle? Smile on his face.

[Asker]

Then at some point he told me he saw my history class notes on the whiteboard the other day, told me that our mutual history teacher complimented my handwriting, and he said, “I know this might sound weird but …I really like your Ts”. Then he started asking me for everything from college plans to when I visit family not in the US as an international student and the languages I spoke and having perfect pitch as an innate ability that he found impressive. He was responding to and making connections with everything enthusiastically, and at some point he turned around in his chair and faced his entire body towards me while leaning in. He also said that he would love to talk to me about all these for hours, but unfortunately he needs to hurry up with eating because he still has a test to finish at the 30 minute mark of the hour. Then we bonded over things like shared thoughts on the curriculum, literary works, and the lack of creative liberty in text interpretation in English classes. We bonded so well that at one point he leapt from his chair in joy saying “now I know we’re on the same page!”

When it was like 12:32 or something he had to leave, so he packed up, got to the door, said goodbye but then came back and walked over to stand right in front of me and asked (this is the funniest part) What’s your name? Because we actually never knew each other’s names. After I told him, he repeated it, and then told me his name, and then held out his hand for me to shake. I started laughing about how oddly professional this seemed, he started laughing too, and finally he left.

[Asker]

After that, I wanted to reach out to him some way or another. I also did some research on a really cool theory he mentioned about a correlation between a person’s native language and their ability to have perfect pitch - which was always considered to be innate rather than learned - and found a huge study proving his theory totally right. I found and followed his Insta account before writing a hello note in DM, before the system told me he wasn’t accepting new messages from everyone. I felt kind of stuck. So the next day comes, and still no follow back. But I thought of a new solution, which was to write him a note and share that article through an email to his school account, in which I kind of apologized for writing an email since I didn’t know how else to reach him and put a link to the article, saying that his theory was absolutely genius and that he should check this out. Around 30 minutes after that email, he followed me back on Insta.

The next day, I ran into him again across the corner in the hallway. He looked like he was in a hurry to get somewhere, but once we saw each other he stopped, we both looked surprised and stood face to face. I was like “Hii” and he hii-ed back and he was smiling in a way that his eyes were squinted, and then before I could say anything said I saw your email! I read it but I didn’t get to read the article yet. And I was like It’s a really great article! It’s basically exactly what you said! And he was like Awesome I’ll read it and write back! Then we said See you and parted ways.

[Asker]

Later in that afternoon, I was walking towards another campus for my next class, and I saw him standing with one of my best friends from a lower grade. As I walked up to them, he saw me and turned towards me before smiling and silently raising a hand to wave hi to me while I silently waved hi back. My friend was talking with someone, so she didn’t sense me, so I played that trick where I tapped her on the shoulder away from me and she whipped around towards him, confused. He too whipped around and started laughing at this, and my friend finally saw me once she turned over. We gave each other a big hug, and he was on the side watching. Then, I told her that I learned this from a teacher in my elementary school years, asking her if she knew him, but she was like huh? But then he leaned in towards us and raised his voice excitedly like “wait Mr. ___? The one from elementary school?” I’m like Yeah! He’s like “What about him?” I’m like “he taught me that!” But then he said “wait you were at school in elementary school?” Then my best friend was like “yeah she’s been here since fourth grade!” And then we were kind of walking into the campus, he was last, walking right behind me while my best friend is in front. But then he had to go in another direction, but I wasn’t looking behind me so I heard a soft “see you, (my name)” from him before I finally turned and realized he was gone.

This is all of our interactions for now.

[CuriousMufuxka]

No offense, but I'm not going to read the manuscript you sent. Life and love will suck a lot more than the limited beauty of wonderful. Use every moment to escape the unknown.

[In_Trance]

it's just you

[Asker]

Sorry, I didn’t know how to add comments to my post. I wrote out all the details afterwards in the form of comments to the user CuriousMufuxka. If you could check that out I’d really appreciate it.