Does your crush choosing someone else make you question your attractiveness?

[Anonymous]

This has nothing to do with personality. When you first meet someone, it's about how they look and represent their self. Your crush or ex says you're cute, then falls for another person after you saying theyre cute as well, but you don't agree. Do you have this feeling that you're not as pretty as you think? He was willing to be with this other person who's a 3 in your book. Does that make you a 3, too? He boasted about her body, which isn't something he talked about when it came to you.

[Melody90]

It can, especially when you genuinely like someone and hope they’ll feel the same way. Rejection can make you question your attractiveness or wonder what the other person has that you don’t. However, attraction is subjective, and someone choosing another person doesn’t mean you’re less attractive or worthy of love. Not everyone will see you the way you see yourself, and that’s perfectly normal.

[tiredpanda]

Nope. I’m not that insecure… also someone can be three to you and 10 to someone else. It’s subjective

[Asker]

Yea that's the point of the whole question...

[spartan55]

What do you mean, you don't agree. You don't get to decide how hot someone else is compared to you. That makes zero sense.

[Asker]

Im not telling him that he should change his mind, but that doesn't stop the comparison that he thinks that we're both attractive to him.
My thing is im grouped in with her at a level where we share the same guy. In my eyes, i don't think she's attractive. How does that make me feel about my own attractiveness. That's my post

[spartan55]

It doesn't if you think she is less attractive. HE is deciding, not you.

[Anonymous]

I watched my husband get with every woman but me. Made me very neurotic. Are my boobs too small? Am I not pretty enough? Am I too short? Would he like me if my ass was fat?

[Nikki1989]

Damn, how insecure would you have to be?

[Anonymous]

Depends. Some times men settle for lower quality woman because they can’t get / keep their dream girl

[Asker]

Well in this scenario he's Boasting

[spartan55]

Thing is OP isn't his 'dream girl', he has no idea she is even interested.

[Opinion Owner]

How do u look vs her

[spartan55]

Huh?

[Opinion Owner]

@asker how do you look vs the girl. Why is she a 3 in your books

[Asker]

I don't think she's attractive as me as a whole, but i have some cellulite on my butt and she doesn't and he talks about hers while he knows im insecure about it and im trying to fix it.

[Opinion Owner]

How did he see the cellulite on her but. That’s not the reason. Why is she not as attractive as u?

[Asker]

He definitely saw it. They were doing some things... im just basing it off my looks and her looks
You can say im biased, but it doesn't change the original question.
It's a comparison between the other person and yourself.

[spartan55]

How does he know you are insecure about it if you've never even talked to him?

[Asker]

I've talked about it to him several times

[Opinion Owner]

Oh can i know how you look? Like what attributes make her so low on your scale

[Anonymous]

That varies too much from person to person. Don’t overanalyze it.

[HollyK21]

I don’t think so Chels.

[spartan55]

Lol...

[HollyK21]

This is just going to be another man she stalks, obsesses and fixates on.😩