Over-achievers...why do some people hate them so much?

Question

I will admit that I have some "over-achiever" in me.

Simply put, whenever I do ANYTHING, I aim to seek improvement. I'm not condescending about it...that's just how my brain functions.

I have noticed that some people tend to really REALLY dislike, or even hate, people who strive for the best (not just aimed at me).

This fact is difficult for me to understand, cause I don't get why anyone would want to be stagnant in anything in life.

Shouldn't doing well and aiming to be the best (w/ a good attitude) be a GOOD thing? I don't see how this is a negative thing if done with a good attitude.

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Please give your insight. Why do you think some people dislike or even hate those who strive for excellence in almost everything?

Use personal examples (yourself as well as situations you've seen or heard about), if you wish.

Thanks for your input, everyone! :)

animalwithin · Accepted Answer

Because we represent what a human can be if they had the passion and dicipline necessary to make their goals come true.

Its shocking to me as well how many people are willing to settle for a less than stellar life simply because they can't seem to push themselves to work or to think creatively. Everyday I meet people who tell me, "Oh my dream job would be X, but I have to do so and so which is really hard, so I don't think I"m going to do it. I'm just going to do something else." I can't understand that. My brain can't comprehend dream job and its too hard in one sentence. You're letting the difficulty of something stop you from a potentially perfect life for yourself? I guess people are fine with that.

That is why they hate over achievers. That's why people hate really successful people. Those people took the steps (or are taking the steps) necessary to create a life for themselves most dream about. They possess the discipline, work ethic, and mindset that is required to create an amazing life. Yes its very difficult, which is why we don't have hundres of Michael Jordan's or Donald Trumps.

I'm studying to be a doctor right now and its a tremendous amount of work, and I get a lot of crap for how much of myself I've put into making all my hard work into a career. Meanwhile, I watch people give up on something they've wanted to do for a long time the minute they run into adversity. There are a few things that separate those few who are destined for greatness and the masses who will never taste success and one of those is that the masses of people simply aren't willing and disciplined enough to put in the hard work.

ladsin · Accepted Answer

because most of those people are stuck up as well, and give off an "im better than you aura" and many people have been turned off by that so they begin to dislike all "try-hards" as opposed to just the douche ones. its easier, to group people together

jennyv · Accepted Answer

The problem I have with overachievers, is that a lot of the time (there are exceptions of course), they would be perfectly successful if they didn't need to overachieve. Especially in school, an overachieving kid who gets a 95% in Chemistry could easily get a 93 or a 90 without having to put in all that effort. So why put in a ton of effort for that extra couple percent? Albeit there are many people who put in a ton of effort because they don't understand concepts and they get pretty good grades because of that, I don't have a problem with that.

It just bottles my mind that people would want to spend that extra effort into something when it isn't necessary for them to do so. They could be doing something adventurous and fun instead, living life. Personally, my life isn't about getting the highest test score, and I don't relate to people who feel that way.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

They tend to be annoying to be around, self centered and sometimes self absorbed, randomly talking about themselves, their achievements and what they want to achieve. Overall, they can just be really annoying to be around. It's not that that hate them, they're just irritating to be around and sometimes they think they're better than you or act and speak like they are. It's not that others want to be stagnant in life. It's that over-achievers can be pains in the ass to hang out with and sometimes they take themselves so seriously that they can become boring or drain a good time of it's fun. I've also noticed that a lot of over-achievers are deeply insecure and it's like they're trying to use their achievements to feel better about where they lack. It just kind of gets really old and aggravating being around them.

sweet_18 · Accepted Answer

Well some people just take it way too far. Like my professor told me that some girl decided to retake his class because she got a B in it. Like WHAT THE F***? F***ING PLEASE.

And then there's the people who get an 89% on a test and cry about it. Jesus f***ing christ.

Usemyname · Answer

Really, it's not a bad thing if it's done with a good attitude. People just get jealous of people who do better than them, especially if the other person feels like they put in more work and got a lesser result. I can sympathize, I've been on both sides of this ordeal. Ordinarily on the over-achieving side however. But with things I'm not good at, chemistry for example, I try at LEAST 23x harder than anyone else in my AP class to get a better grade, and I am still ALWAYS the one with the lowest grade. I get jealous of the others when they hardly study and still get A's in that class effortlessly. I try to hide it so they don't know and don't feel bad about being better at something that I'm not good at, but the jealousy is still there.

katylaura · Answer

some over achievers are really arrogant about it, and so no one really likes them. other over achievers are really modest about it, ad so only people who are jealous of them dislike them.

lucky24 · Answer

i don't mind over-achievers if they are modest

i hate them when they can't shut the ____ up about how great they are

but I hate under achievers just as much

cause they quit before trying anything so I'm just an all around hater

anthony8x · Answer

Two simple words, jealousy, and envy.  Any other excuse is just a lie.

LoveLayne · Answer

lol people dislike when others are succeeding while they go down hill.

Anonymous · Answer

They're jealous,  Some people just don't have the initiative to strive harder.  Or some people are not jealous they're just content with their lives.

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