Why do girls bully ugly guys ?

[adamfk1]

They tell us we will die alone . They tell us we will never have girlfriends , They spread rumors about us , and now every girl hates me . Why are girls like this

[udolipixie]

Why do girls bully ugly guys ?

Likely for the same reason guys bully ugly gals, fat gals, old gals even if they're the same age as them, and gals in general ala b*tches/whores/c*nts/skanks/sluts. That reason being people tend to be mean to those they aren't attracted to.

Why are girls like this?

They're human beings and as in my observations it's not a gender thing to be told you'll die alone, never have a partner, or get rumors spread around you. Pretty sure there are many gals who because they're 'sluts' get told they'll die alone, never have a boyfriend/husband because guys f*ck 'slut' not commit to them, and get rumors spread about them.

[AnnieVincereVelMori]

Not all of us do. Don't generalize, stop going after girls who think they are too good for you. Are you honestly giving the "not-so-attractive" (by societies standards) a shot? Maybe you need to work out your standards as well.

Also, judging by the comments with other girls here, you seriously need to improve your self-esteem, and sadly you won't find that if you search for it from other people.

[adamfk1]

im going after girls that I don't find attractive as well as the ones I do find . I have almost no standards is what people tell me . I can't improve self esteem when people constantly tell me I'm ugly

[AnnieVincereVelMori]

Again, self esteem doesn't come from other people, the may help, but at the end of the day, your opinion of yourself is what will get you through another day.

I was bullied horribly in elementary until the end of high school, I left, reinvented myself and faked confidence for a while. Eventually, I started believing it. Now people still talk sh*t but the difference is that I don't care anymore.

[adamfk1]

im sorry you were treated that way . I really do need help

[AnnieVincereVelMori]

Don't be sorry, I'm not. How I got treated then made me who I am today.

Try talking to a professional about your self esteem issues. Reevaluate the people in your life and see who is holding you back. Pick up a new hobby where you can gain some new confidence. Maybe give the women thing a break, and don't force it.

Life is too short and you're far too young to see this as be all to end all.

[adamfk1]

a professional ? if you mean a therapist . I really can't afford it . Any suggestions ?

[AnnieVincereVelMori]

Are you in college/university? Student services usually provide social workers to their students. I know the one at my school was free of charge, but Canada is the land of free services.

[adamfk1]

i live in canada :) I'm in university . I know one which includes academic advice . I don't think there's one to my situation

[AnnieVincereVelMori]

The on-campus doctor told me about the service. Worth a shot.

[adamfk1]

ill go check it out . But thank you for your help really . I appreciate it . Better than the advice of "be happy that you're ugly " that I get . I wish I can improve like you did . Ill try to become better

[AnnieVincereVelMori]

Sometimes you have to be your own best friend, give yourself the high five you deserve and forget the people who seek only to destroy you. People are drawn to happier people. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

I don't know what girls you hang out with, but not all girls are like that.

I can tell you why children pick on other children though...they sense a weakness and being immature, they hone in on it like a moth to a flame and they pick on you for it.

[titoloco]

It's school people say mean things like that. Don't believe what they say just focus on your stuff. They just have problems in their personal lives and are thinking it out on the nearest person they can find. It sucks to be the target. Just know this. You'll grow up to proven them that their comments are wrong.

[titoloco]

thinking* Taking it out

[BboyDevs]

no I would disagree. There are plenty of women with not so physically attractive guys. I see it all the time. Actually i think i look better now then ten years ago and I can have a harder time with women. The guards are up a lot higher i've noticed lol

[KingsOfleon88]

I think people who bully others in general, whether it's physical, mental or emotional, have issues of their own that they need to be dealt with. Generally, people say things out of jealousy, ie. hating on person for their success whether it's with women or their lifestyle, but in your case the women who do that probably have a significantly low opinion of themselves that they feel the only way to feel better about their own life, is to make someone feel as equally as sh*t about their own.

[Anonymous]

They are means and self center or they secretly have HUGE crush on you! Most girls and guys don't waste time on people they don't have feeling for.

I got bullied by guys and I am girl.

[adamfk1]

it doesn't work the same from guys to girls than girls to guys . trust me , I know I wasn't bullied becuase they have a "crush" on me

[Opinion Owner]

Are you sure?

[adamfk1]

im pretty sure not. If there is somewhere private we can talk , ill give you some of the details of things they did

[Opinion Owner]

email me at [e-mail] I will give you advice if I can.

[Anonymous]

Every girl doesn't hate you.

They just don't give a sh*t about you.

Learn the difference, because one is objectively true and the other is just another verse of the WHA-WHA-WHA EVERYONE PLEASE PITY ME chorus.

People don't think about you, and don't care about you. That's because you're a stranger to them. They have their own lives to deal with. They don't waste the mental energy thinking about you, never mind hating you.

[adamfk1]

but they don't treat the attractive guy who they don't know thesame way

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, that's attractive guys. So what?

That still doesn't mean they HATE you.

Or did you have some sort of delusion that people would treat you the same as the good looking stranger that they attracted to?

Grow up.

[adamfk1]

youre probably blessed with good looks that's why you don't care .

[Opinion Owner]

I don't care because I don't know you.

Were you not paying attention before? Most people have their own sh*t to deal with and they don't care about the problems of other people.

I see a girl above tried to help you out with good advice, and you just blew her off.

No one likes a negative nancy - you need to work on your personality, big time.

[adamfk1]

you mean she told me just wait for some desperate girl to settle for you / how is that help

[Opinion Owner]

No, she said to make friends with girls first. You dismissed that as being too hard, because you're unwilling to work on being funny or charismatic.

That's just laziness on your part.

[adamfk1]

youre either born funny and charismatic or not . Its not something you work on like your body . I work out yet girls still hate me

[Opinion Owner]

Bullsh*t. They are skills, learned by anyone who is willing to make an effort.

You're just too god-damned lazy to make the effort.

[adamfk1]

youre angry

[adamfk1]

listen you probably were blessed with good looks and all that other stuff . that's why you don't care . Just like people don't care about their eye sight unless they become blind . Learn how to be polite , even if this is the internet

[Opinion Owner]

Oh shut up you whiny baby, and listen when people are actually trying to help you.

I wasn't blessed with good lucks, and I had to work on getting a sense of humour and how to be charmisatic. I got damn good at it, too.

Stop being so lazy, and do the damn work. Even a whiny bitch can become a hit with the ladies if he works at it - I know because I was that soldier.

[adamfk1]

how does someone improve a sense of humor then and become charismatic ?

you sound like an expert

[Opinion Owner]

Sarcasm gets you nowhere.

[Cottoncandydreams]

I would never pick on an ugly guy. He probably already has enough time finding dates. So why add bullying to the batch.

[adamfk1]

wish there were more people like you

[PonyCar]

Because they can get away with it. That, and they're a$$holes with big egos and low self-esteem.

[shadysworld]

Thats cold. Not all girls are like that, either they're immature or have issues.

[Anonymous]

What girls are you talking about? Middle school cheerleaders?

[adamfk1]

high school and first year university

[Opinion Owner]

Uh well I don't know any college girls that would go out of there way to tease someone but I doubt its all girls at your school. Just stop talking to them.

[Opinion Owner]

And if its a matter of them just turning you down then stop trying till you know Forsure if a girl likes you. If she likes you she'll make it pretty obvious.

[adamfk1]

19 and never had one girl interested

[Opinion Owner]

Well apparently that's a lot of guys problems on here. Either figure out how to make yourself more attractive or wait. Those are pretty much your options.

[adamfk1]

guess theyre right , girls only care about looks and I'm going to die alone

[Opinion Owner]

Nah they only care about looks at 16-20 after that they also care about money. What's your major?

[adamfk1]

accounting , pretty good grades and I'm continuing masters and CPA . but why can't ugly guys get any girlfriend . I've tried with everyone ,and they all hate me , even with girls I didn't find attractive

[Anonymous]

thats why you pull out the baby powder and start pimp slapping bitches

[Anonymous]

Not every girl is like this. There are mean girls though. But that generally in middle school and high school...

[adamfk1]

im in university and they are a bit nicer but they tell me I'm too ugly to date

[Opinion Owner]

Then stop asking out the same type of girl, bitches will always be bitches. Why don't you try to friend them first then ask them out, after awhile.

[adamfk1]

who said I'm going after the same girl + making friends with females is just as hard as getting dates for ugly guys who aren't funny or charismatic

[Opinion Owner]

Okay then don't.

[adamfk1]

wow you're help

[Opinion Owner]

You've already made up you mind that you can't get a girl.

[Moloch]

Don't listen to them, that's all.

[Anonymous]

we don't