Polls: Guy's Behavior

My mom would always mention that this guy I’m attracted to gives good hugs and he smells good.

The story is my mom goes to her boyfriend’s church and her boyfriend wanted to find me a boyfriend. I never had a boyfriend or really got male attention… my mom on the other hand had many love stories… her boyfriend bought her roses every Wednesday when she 16…. Whenever she told her MANY stories I would get sad. She is more attractive. I don’t really look like her…

So he recommended a guy at church… he’s very attractive and a lot of girls like him… he has brought women to church…(I live away but I come visit from time to time)

He has been close to a woman in her 40s at church.. he was into her. my mom is in her 50s..

But I was so excited bc I thought he was attractive and I would dress up … whenever I talked to my mom about him she would get quiet. She also said that I should wait until I get my weight down. I remember “talking back “ to my mother before going to a church picnic to see him …she said “he deserves a girlfriend who is respectful “ … I didn’t go… I felt self conscious and decided not to like him

I do remember finally being introduced and he did glance back at me before walking out the door.

My mom is more attractive so…

im going to get some work done

He actually called me after he ghosted me and played me…(weeks later) I told him that it was weighing on my mental health… that’s the only reason

but his closure did not make me feel better…

Men who watch trans 🌽…. Are they closeted or gay even if they pursue/ date women… I don’t understand that dynamic at all

He follows a tranny that lives in the same city and the trans post rated r explicit content

this dude had the nerve to play me/ ghost me and he looks at that? Lmaooo comedy

Long story short..

I talked to a guy and let him know in the beginning that I wasn’t looking for anything.. I told him my emotional wellbeing is a priority and that I’m not looking for sex or a relationship BUT we could talk until he moved… I was guarded and kind of wanted to push him away… I also post sexy pics…

I gave him a hard time but I felt he was logical and patient.. he wanted to know the safest way to talk to me and he said he didn’t want the whole placeholder thing… he said more sweet nothings like “I shouldn’t punish everyone for someone else’s sin”

I told him I was willing to take things slow… and that’s when he pulled back and I confronted him.. he said he was being careful..

He admitted that he felt that I was unstable before the date but it wasn’t in a rude way…we went on a date it Flopped a bit … we both could have done better.. I could have talked more and explained my situation more and he talked about my pics and just said things that hurt a bit… asked when I was last intimate. He just didn’t seem that interested and I wanted to wait until marriage for sex

he ghosted me

I asked this guy if “Craig” was his real name before going out… I didn’t feel like it was… on the date I asked him what’s the name his mother gave him… he’s not American… he said “we do have American names in our country “…. I asked him again and he told me…

So that wasn't his real name…. Is that worrisome? He didn’t want to tell me/ didn’t plan on telling me.

He didn’t even want me to know his real name
So he asked me what I “wanted “ relationship wise… I wanted to know what he was going to say so I let him go first. He said he wasn’t ready because he’s not where he wants to be career wise. So then he told me to go and I said the same thing.. because it was kind of true and I actually mentioned it prior…

He said..” noo you're just summarizing what I said “ and seemed a bit fustrated that I said it …

But what did he want me to say? What did he want?

Because to you it's just an observation and has nothing to do with liking the other girl more?

He made an indirect comment about the pics I post but yet he wasn’t ready for a relationship….. so I don’t understand why my pics even matter

I like this guy. He told me when he was drunk he likes me. He misheard my reply and thought I rejected him. I didn’t stand my ground and left it. We briefly spoke about what he said but nothing became of it. He’s been super flirty ever since. I don’t usually play games this was accidental. The story is more in depth too so I can’t just lay my feelings out like I would normally do and I would love to do it. He has to make the first move and until then I’m waiting and it’s hella frustrating