“A man who fears being seen as feminine is a man who fears being treated the way he treats women.” Do you think this is accurate?

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VIVANT · Accepted Answer

Many men fear being perceived and treated the way he sees women perceived and treated, culturally. This is not a glitch, this is a feature of society. Men are trained to feel this way bc of the reality of the situation where women no matter how much men may “love” them are not presented to men as intently worthy of respect as competent capable human beings, rather more like a favorite pet.

Just about the worst insult people seem to have for men is “he’s acting like a woman” — which is in reality an insult to women with the guy being used as the vehicle but not the actual target point. In this insult the guy is “acting” it’s shameful but with effort it is something he can be seen to overcome, he can stop “behaving badly” behaving like the worst thing possible, a woman.

Whereas for a woman, well, she has no hope of escape bc she IS a woman. She is not “acting” indeed no matter how she acts, she will never undo the damage of being born a woman. This is her lit in life…

There is a swath of information being communicated to both men and women when a guy gets called “feminine” that it is undesirable, unfortunate, shameful, laughable, something to be “handled” by others and overall a lamentable fate, a punishment even.

of course everyone has feminine and masculine traits and with that this we would be unable to function. You need to rise to an occasion but able to show restraint when needed. If you can’t rise or if you can’t stop, both are dangerous. The balance is essential. Like the Sun and Water. Try living without one. Forever.

Most people fall fairly evenly in the middle, with very slight leanings more one way or the other, relying more heavily on some traits or other traits adapting oneself depending on what the situation and what is called for…with a tiny fraction of society falling into extremes.

despite this, many men are raised to believe they can not be men without looking down on women they it is there job to handle and possess women like you might domesticate a wild animal, Whether the form is benevolent soft covert control or tyrannical overt control, violent form in both cases the view is women are not quite human to be respected but are rather a problem that needs to be solved.

so understandably, if one sees themselves as not already inherently amongst those wretches, cast to a life of tragedy and tribulation living in that predicament and, if one feels you they have the option, one would of course choose to have absolutely nothing to do with it and you might go to extremes to ensure their security from being targeted as that unfortunate “other.”

Stands to reason.. if you are such a person seeing the world in such a way. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Sexism isn’t just ignorant and idiotic, it hurts everyone. Not bc it’s “mean to women” bc it is a pathological condition creating an intractable state of despair rage and fear the confines which a human brain can not maintain health sense and reason living within.

It is damaging to both sexes, more so internally for those who are more vulnerable to it personally, but everyone has to deal with the consequences whether affected directly or indirectly.

JSkye · Accepted Answer

I don't think it is because of him being afraid of being treated how he treats women, I think it has more to do with his social status with other men. A man who doesn't live up to masculine standards by other men is judged by other men... Kinda like a woman who is too sexually liberated is judged by other women. Same kind of thing.

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

I think that it depends on the situation. I definitely think some men who act like this are projecting who they are on others. They want to seem masculine and strong, they accuse men of being cucked by their significant other, and the list goes on. Just to find out later on that his wife was the one having a affair in some cases even finding out some (if not all) of his children aren’t his. But he was the one shouting from the rooftop what a real man he is and all about how men are beta cucks.

It does depend on your definition of feminine though if a dudes wearing dresses or something that’s a little odd to me I mean it’s his business but. If someone’s dressing their son as a girl that also doesn’t sit right with me. Things like that…

I really don’t understand what men get though from marrying a woman whose useless and really cannot do anything. I guess it’s a power control thing but those kind of women tend to be who makes men miserable. Some people do deserve one another though I’ll say that is for certain.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Accepted Answer

Question of  treatment is interesting but  I don't know really because... The way I see it, it's all about  fear of non-conformity . In that case conformity to (what is perceived as) manhood. Just like conformity to be feminine for a woman, conformity to be a black person among a black population, a white person in a white population etc.  Going away from conformity, in any group, is going to be socially punished,  we all learn that through experience, no matter the area, this is  integration/rejection dynamics .

Makeushiver · Answer

No I actually don't. I think that men who act hyper masculine or try to eliminate the Yin from their personalities completely is an indication of a man who is unsure of his own sexuality. Despite our gender we all have characteristics that are considered masculine and some considered feminine. Both genders. UI think what often happens is that a man who is homophobic is afraid of his own feminine side.

petitedollbabee · Answer

Yeah somewhat. There’s a reason why those same straight men hate being hit on by gay men. They don’t want to be treated like a piece of meat by someone that they’re not attracted to, the same way they treat women.

Apple1996 · Answer

Not exactly this but something similar is those men at gender reveals when they are devastated and crying to find out they are having a girl because really they fear their daughters will end up being treated the same way he treated women

silvermoon84 · Answer

I don’t think it’s accurate. Maybe with the fuckboy douchey bro types but in general I think that it’s more about status and social pressure among other men that makes them fear being seen as “feminine”. I worked in bath and body works one summer in college and witnessed a guy walk out of the store and get made fun of by a group of guys for shopping there even though he was only there buying a birthday gift for his mom (I knew that because I helped him pick out the gift he bought her).

llorando · Answer

This is highly inaccurate. Not wanting to be seen as feminine has nothing to do with how a man treats his woman. Plenty of very masculine men treat their women like queens.

Intheclouds00 · Answer

Most likely they have a feeling of inadequacy or something I would guess.

disappoint3d · Answer

These seem like two totally unrelated aspects of male psychology honestly...

EnjoytheDay777 · Answer

Yeah, I'm a sub so women have their way with me

Babygirl_S · Answer

Inaccurate because men who like being masculine don’t necessarily treat women poorly and I have seen many feminine guys who are ruder.

SolitarySolace · Answer

More ways to attack men. Thanks

MrGSpotHer · Answer

Never thought about it

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

Nope

Uoeae · Answer

Sounds like a lot of bullshit

Yannae · Answer

No these are two totally different things.

Slim57 · Answer

No I don't care

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