Why is having male friends so confusing?

[Anonymous]

I have this male friend, and we agreed to keep it at this level after telling him I liked him. Keep in mind he mentioned not being attracted to me in that way. I've moved on with my feelings, but interestingly, he gets jealous about me being around other men. Like when we are in a social setting and I am talking to a guy, romantically or not, he interjects himself in the conversation. Or even when I talk about my other male friends he visibly gets jealous and disinterested. Its weird because he's in a relationship but acting like this. You would think being my friend would mean encouraging me to explore romantic options and letting me talk to other guys. I understand male friends could be protective but there's a difference between being protective and being jealous. So am I being dramatic or is it possible he may be attracted?

He doesn't like you at all

He does like you

He obviously doesn't know what he wants

[ProbablyClueless]

He doesn't know what he wants. But honestly, this kind of thing is exactly why I firmly believe that most men and women can't actually just be friends.

[Asker]

I can agree with that first part. But I have had genuine male friendships where nothing was weird, or confusing.

[ProbablyClueless]

Well sure... everyone knows that genuine platonic friendships CAN happen between men and women; they're just extremely rare.

[Asker]

Thats true

[spartan55]

@asker
Every last one of those guy friends would have sex with you.

[LiamJHayden]

Sounds like he might want to keep you as a backup plan. Probably a good idea to disassociate from him, at least for a little while.

[Asker]

Yeah I suspected that too, I just didn't want to believe it since I genuinely enjoy being his friend

[Nikki1989]

This man is toxic. Most men are not like that.

[spartan55]

He is attracted enough to fuck you. If I were you I would just ignore him or laugh at him when he pulls that childish crap.

[Decoded93]

Run, he’s toxic

[strateguy632]

He found you attractive.

[RedInnocent69]

It has to do with their genitals and hormones. You can’t overcome biology.