Anyone gotten over low self esteem, what have you used/done?

[Anonymous]

what books, what ideas, thoughts have helped you gain confidence

[Starsite]

I started to look at the world as a whole. There are so many different types of people in our world yet the main focus of what's attractive is Hollywood and that less than 1% of the population. As I got older I realized that all those times I was nervous or felt not pretty was more about me and being insecure. Once I stopped caring what people think ( the ones that are judgmental ) life became a lot better. Everybody has different tastes and you never know what the other person thinks so go for it if you find someone attractive. If they turn you down it doesn't mean you're not attractive or good enough, it just means you aren't their type. C'est la vie, and oh well, on to the next! 😉

[Anonymous]

Yes. How? I just stopped giving a damn what others thought about me... took some time but its worth it in the end.

[Asker]

yea but what do you tell yourself so that you don't give a damn about what they think? you can say you don't care but then when your around a group of 5-8 people want their approval. you know what I mean

[Opinion Owner]

Actually no i dont know what you mean. I dont seek others approval, thats what leads to low self esteem. You need to just tell yourself that it doesn't matter what others think. Because in the long run thats the truth... its not other peoples opinions that matter, its your own!

[Asker]

I feel like I really don't care what people think, but if im in a group of people I find myself caring and afraid to say something stupid. but if I really think about it I don't care what they think really. I don't know just need practice.

[Opinion Owner]

Practice makes perfect...

[Scrambled]

I highly recommend No more mr nice guy-Robert Glover. It tackles nice guy syndrome head on and it shoots for shy/nice guys. Then go to a webpage called Centre for Clinical Interventions. It's a DIY psychology website in Australia that has these workbooks to go through. There is a self esteem module as well as other ones that may useful. Have you ever lived by yourself? Away from the parents and any room mates. I find that's a good lesson in finding yourself and boosting your esteem

[Asker]

thanks I will look into that

[blueberrybaby]

1st and foremost always always be positive. cancel out any negative comments to the point where it doesn't affect you. Compliment your self in the mirror every day and Say that you're beautiful because you are. And think i am instead of i wish. ;-)

[Asker]

good advice, it just seems like I got to one step where im confident more. but im having trouble breaking through to the next stage where I can say im a confident person.

[blueberrybaby]

One Step is step closer. Just keep climbing to you reach the top. You'll come along and at the end you'll be able to yell out loud "I'm confident!!"