Getting rid of ugly self harm scars?

[Anonymous]

Please please tell me how to get rid of them. I have hundreds of them on my upper thighs and they are ruining my life. I reject every single guy that I like who also likes me because I feel so unconfident and embarrassed because of them. I will never allow myself to get into a relationship because they are EMBARRASSING and ugly and I hate them so much. They're only on my upper thighs (I still wear short shorts), but there are probably almost thousands of them. When I used to cut (I stopped like 3 years ago) I cut over every tiny part of skin that was available, and even over some scars. How the fuck do I get these off of my legs. I don't care what it takes I need them gone. I have a pretty amazing body and I'm pretty but none of that matters because I hate them I hate them I need them GONE.

[Rainie_]

Getting rid of scars is not something that can be done quickly, however there are some pretty cheap ways of getting rid of them. I got rid of my scars with castor oil. You can order a bottle of cold pressed castor oil on Amazon for a few bucks. Apply it day and night. Depending on how deep/obvious the scarring is the longer it may take to get rid of them.
For me it took about 3 weeks since the scarring was not too bad.
I also used the oil religiously for a week after I had a very bad break down and cut myself. Didn't leave any scars what so ever.

Don't listen to people who say scars only fade over the years, they don't have to. I'm telling you, castor oil is like a miracle oil for everything, but especially wounds and scars. Promotes cell growth and elasticity of the skin.

[Asker]

i'm using bio oil right now, but I will most definitely look into castor oil! All my scars are raised though, that's the biggest issue right now. Did you find that castor oil helped flatten them?

[Rainie_]

Haven't tried bio oil but I've heard it should be good... And yes your raised scars should be flattened. Castor oil also gets rids of moles and skin tags (got rid of my raised stretch marks and skin tags). A friend of mine had acne scars which were bumpy on her skin, flattened it all out to a smooth surface on her cheeks. So if bio oil doesn't work, try this oil :) Also don't forget to take a before and after photo, sometimes we find it harder to see the change in person when we don't have something visual to compare it to.

[Asker]

Ok!! I'll use bio oil for a month consistently and if I don't see a difference at all I will definitely get some castor oil! Thank you for your help!!

[Anonymous]

First of all, if you used to self harm and you stopped then you are incredibly strong, I have nothing but respect for you, and anyone who would judge you for those scars is an idiot who isn't worth your time.

I understand that they hold bad memories for you and it's fine if you don't feel comfortable showing them and you want them gone, but they don't make you ugly.

Coconut oil is supposed to be really good, and cheap as well. If you can afford to spend a little more then bio oil is very good

[Asker]

They're fucking ugly. It doesn't matter how strong I am, I am strong, but I am dealing with SO much shit right now and I just can't deal with these horrible scars right now. I hate them so fucking much, they just remind me of how horrible I feel, and they are ugly as fuck and I'm sure everyone else will judge me and I need them gone ok I need them off my body because they are horrible and they are ugly.
I've started using bio oil every night for a few nights now, I haven't seen a difference though.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm really sorry for all the stuff you're having to feal with.

However much you hate them though, those scars show you survived, surely? And someone who really deserves you would look at them and be so happy that those scars mean you're still here

You won't see a difference after just a few nights, it's going to take time.

[Asker]

Thank you. And I guess you're right, it's just, the cutting was more of a phase and just doesn't make sense with the way I am now. And you have a good point too.

[XNicholeMariex3]

-Skin lightening cream
-Mederma
-Go to a dermatologist and ask what they can do to get rid of them. They might do some procedures on you.

I don't know anything about those kinds of scars. Only acne scars. I have a noticeable scar beneath my bosom where I had a surgery done when I was only 1 week old. I didn't do anything to get rid of it though... I just got used to it, it doesn't even bother me now.

[Asker]

That sounds like a good idea. I need to ask my mom AGAIN to see if she can schedule an appointment. It's not like I have anything else to do bc my life is falling apart, I'm injured rn and I can't do the only think I actually enjoy in life so I have plenty of fucking time.

[XNicholeMariex3]

I hope the dermatologist is able to do something for you. :)

[Asker]

Thank you! I hope so too

[ak666]

You could potentially get tats over them. Sometimes there are options like laser surgery which might mitigate them a bit, but it might be hard to hide them completely. Covering them with tattoos might be easier.

[Asker]

Definitley not tattoos, they are all raised. Laser surgery sounds interesting, I've been researching that for a while but of course there's like no current information on it. I'll see if I can go talk to someone or something cause I'm tired of them.

[ak666]

They can mitigate some of the elevation of the scar tissue, flatten it out. It's hard to make it go away completely, but it might help it blend into your skin a bit. There's also those creams like Mederma, coconut oil, but it takes a considerable time.

You might be able to go to a skin doctor and ask about your options there.

Are you worried more about the aesthetics of it or what they say about your past, or both?

[Asker]

Both, but more so the aesthetics. It (the cutting, not the depression and stuff) was a phase, a stupid phase, and it's embarrassing. I have a great body and I'm confident but instead I have to hide and seem unconfident because I hate them and I can't even wear a normal bikini, I have to wear fucking shorts and it looks stupid and it makes me look self-conscious and I hate being self conscious and I'm sorry I'm being annoying I'm just dealing with a lot right now thank you for helping as much as you can I just my life is falling apart jesus christ I just ugh thank you sorry

[ak666]

I had a similar problem. I don't know if I was prone to self-injury but I was devastatingly brokenhearted one time during my 20s when my fiance broke up with me. I went into a downward spiral of drinking towards stupidity, and one night I found myself smoking without an ash tray nearby. Without thinking much about it, I put out the cigarette on my arm. Then another, then another, until my arm was covered in cigarette burns, the skin boiled and bubbled and made the most ghastly scars.

I had a pretty nice physique too, sixpack and the v-line torso, but this stupid set of scars on my arm. And they've been a reminder ever since of that brokenhearted time. I always wore long sleeve shirts since then, including some I custom-tailored to have one short sleeve, and was always so embarrassed to show my girlfriends my bare arm.

They never thought much about it, not nearly as much as I did. But it's a constant reminder. I've always wanted to get tattoos over it, but wife prohibits it.

[ak666]

I tried Mederma and coconut oil and maybe they helped a little bit, but not nearly enough. I've just had to learn to kind of accept it, but laser surgery might be one of the best options to mitigate it.

[Asker]

I understand ): Although mentally I'm much stronger now (although rn I don't feel very strong bc of all this shit), I was so weak back when I self harmed, and I had to stop and get better without much help. I changed my entire lifestyle and personality DRASTICALLY, so the scars just don't make sense anymore... they just are an embarrassing reminder of how weak I was and the thing is, I'm 17, I'm not looking for a husband... I want a cute boyfriend who maybe isn't gonna be perfect but I want to have fun and I can't because the guys that I like aren't the guys who are gonna not be bothered by my scars. I don't know for sure, but I imagine that they'll be kinda freaked out by them. & I run track and we wear short shorts and sometimes when Im just exhausted I'll like sit down or lay down and my shorts ride all the way up and you can see them and it's just I'm so tired of being self conscious. I still feel embarrassed every fucking day when I change in the locker room.

[Asker]

I will definitely try to schedule and appointment soon, I'm scared tho because they're just so fucking embarrassing. And I just found out I have a stress fracture in my foot (just in time for varsity track season ):) so I have all these doctors appointments and shit so its expensive and all that shit so I'll probably have to wait.

[ak666]

Mostly I think the biggest obstacles are in our head. But as an athletic girl with, what I imagine, is a nice physique, I think the last thing that will stop a man from being interested in you are some scars on your legs, even if you have thousands of them.

At least, getting crude, I'd take that over some overweight girl any day. I think a guy can even fall in love with your scars, as crazy as it sounds. It might seem like men are all superficial with these magazines, but usually the women they actually fall in love with will have their share of imperfections, and sometimes those imperfections start to become beautiful because they make you more real than some dream girl.

I dated a girl once who was gorgeous to me except she had the ugliest giant mole on her ankle with a hair growing out of it. Somehow I fell in love with that ugly mole, it became a part of what identified her to me.

[Asker]

That's actually really comforting... I guess I always assume the worst, instead of even considering that they're not as horrible as I think they are. Thank you for presenting me with another viewpoint, I really hope you're right haha
Thank you so much for all your help!

[OrdinaryGentleman]

hmm there is scar cream in walmarts or cvs stores https://www.wikihow.com/Get-Rid-of-Scars
you can also go to your GP and get a referral to a good doctor that specializes in skin repair.

[Flex4Ever]

I'm not sure that anything will get rid of them completely, but you could cover them with tattoos? It's the only permanent thing that will cover them I can think of.

[Asker]

Eh they're raised so I don't think tattoos will help, but thank you for your suggestion!

[detlef]

Speak with a dermatologist.

But I've known girls who had self-harmed and I never thought badly of them. I was just glad they had stopped. Most (thoughtful, caring) guys won't mind at all.

[Asker]

I hope so... but it's really really bad scarring. Like, REALLY bad.

[detlef]

I think there are treatments for that, if you want to go that route. Like laser treatments. And I've seen some bad scarring.

Honestly most guys (and any genuinely desirable guy) will not be put off. As long as you're living in a healthy way now.

Good luck. :)

[Asker]

Yeah I can cope with my depression and anxiety in a very healthy way now, plus I have a great body cause of track so hopefully guys will just ignore the scars and focus on everything else haha

[detlef]

Very cool. :)

[Jack_S]

Thet won't ever go away, only fade over years. Coconut oil maaay help speed the process. You may hate them, but many men do not see them as ugly.

[Asker]

Are you kidding? Of course most men will see them as ugly. These aren't just a few scars - it's THOUSANDS of them. All over the tops of my thighs. They're fucking hideous. It looks totally out of place on me. No guy that I like will ever love me because of them. Ever.

[Jack_S]

You dont need most men to accept them. Just one. I've dated girls with these types of scaring. I've been fine with it.
But you do make a fair point. Its not just the men you are thinking about, but your own perspective of them, which is enough reason to want them gone.

Goodluck, in any case

[Asker]

Thank you /:

[DarkHumorRUs]

You'll eventually talk to your future boyfriend about your past so if he likes you enough he won't mind those scars.

[Asker]

I sure hope so

[DarkHumorRUs]

Well... yeah.

[nohomobrah]

I have a lot of scar tissue under my eyes and a couple scars here and there. I just wear em with pride.

[Asker]

These are different, they're thousands of scars obviously from cutting and they are embarrassing as fuck.

[nohomobrah]

Talked to a doctor or dermatologist

[Asker]

Yeah I'm gonna try to do that /:

[nohomobrah]

stop cutting yourself brah u so young.

[Asker]

I stopped about 3 years ago haha

[nohomobrah]

Alright brah.. it's all good. Come in for bro hugs.

[Asker]

Haha I could use a hug right now ):

[nohomobrah]

come right on brah

[Asker]

*hug* lmao
I'm just so frustrated I just found out I have a stress fracture in my foot and I'm going to have to miss the whole first half of track season and I'm on varsity and it's my first year in varsity and I've been training SO HARD and of course this happens. I think I'm cursed lmao

[nohomobrah]

Lol.. I wrestled in high school and herniated my disc my first year of varsity sophomore yet. Couldn't compete till senior year and my senior year I ended up going CIF. Was out for a good while.

Was doing security.. worked at the playboy mansion.. here's some proof.
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Big ass samoan dude knocked me out cold in a fight lol. Deviated my septum.. Can't breathe through my right nostril now.. Knocked my jaw a little to the left. My shit is all asymetrical now lol. Insurance covering two surgeries..

On top of that I have a bunch of bodybuilding injuries.. lol. So a stress fracture is literally nothing.

[Asker]

Ouch ): That sounds pretty horrible. And Ik it seems like nothing but track is all I have tbh, its the way I deal with my life. The season is so short and I've been looking forward to this season ever since like 7th grade and now it's here and I'm missing most of it. I'm not like all those other high schoolers who have tons of friends and are always out doin shit, track is my life.

[nohomobrah]

Literally nothing matters in high school. lol was the biggest fricken nerd in hs despite playing sports.

[Asker]

I really wanna run track in college though. So this injury that's making me miss half of track season is not good for my future goals at all. I wanted to go to region, maybe even (but probably not this year) state but I run hurdles so even though I will be staying in great shape, I'm gonna get behind everyone else who can consistently run hurdles.