I feel lonely and desperate what should I do?

[Anonymous]

Is it normal to lie in bed half the day and stay in your room all the time. And have no friends at all?
Im 21and everytime in my age has frnds goes out and simply has a life and a job. I have none.. and I feel sad when I see how helpless I am. Plus Im heart broken although the relationship ended 7 month ago. And Im still waiting but I know we won't get back together. Im quite sure he cheated on me too..
I dont have a very good relationhip with my parents and I feel like they are holding me down.
Any answer would be helpful thank you :)

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[Kiwedin]

Normally, my response to a post like this would be a little more heartfelt, but I didn't have the best of mornings so please bear with me in the terrible mood I'm in lol.
Everything about this post oozes with a victim mentality and that is the worst frame of mind to be in, in my opinion. Having a social life, having friends, and being in a relationship are not requirements for a fulfilling life, some people just aren't socialites and that's completely fine. However, if you are unhappy with your lack of friends, social life, and career, then get off your ass and make these things happen. So much people just sit around and complain about their lives as if all of this is just happening to them, when in reality, we make our lives what it is. Understand that you are not helpless and that you can change your own life right now. Stop waiting for this guy to come sweep you off your feet and make your life better, because to be that reliant on other people for your own personal happiness is not healthy. Your parents are also not holding you down, you're doing that yourself by staying in bed all day and doing nothing with your life. I'm sorry if this is harsh, but I just really want to stress how much power you have. You have the complete ability to change your life, so just get out there and do it.
Get 8-10 hours of sleep per night, exercise every day, eat nourishing foods, read books, get outside and connect with nature, get a job, apply for college or university if that's something you want to do, move out of your parents place, find the things in life that make you feel happy and passionate and do them repeatedly. Take matters into your own hands and be proactive about life, this planet, and the people around you. Good luck, I really do wish the best for you.

[Asker]

Thank you dear it helped me very much :)

[Sara413]

Do you often feel fatigued? Have you lost interest in activities or hobbies you once loved? Do you often feel bored but not have any motivation to do anything to quell your boredom?

If you said yes to any of those you may want to go get screened for depression.

[RobAtomic]

wow that sounds like a real bummer, the first thing I would suggest is seeing a doctor get checked out you know a physical and let her know, and I suggest that you see a female doctor, let her know that you have been feeling this way for however long... plus you hear this everywhere you go online, in books... tv... you are not helpless, if you do not like the situation you are in then all you have to do is remove yourself. You are responsible for your happiness, when we make our happiness, confidence, sense of purpose dependent on external, fragile or uncontrollable things or events then those things affect your well being and it is not a good idea... just remember... when you start thinking, if my boyfriend would just come back or if I had a body like her I would be so happy or if I had money... I would be happy... those thoughts are the problem... Good luck, oh and get outta that room... go get a starbucks...

[RasmusAiken]

I know this sounds back-asswards but the best thing you can do for your own life is to volunteer to help someone else improve theirs.
If you can pass a background check and have some skill then use it to wash windows for an elderly neighbor. Sing in a choir. Join a club you're interested in. Read to a kid. Churches, schools and hospitals know of people who need help. Be someone's answer to prayer. It may not change the world but it will change YOU.

[AidenBlue]

Good advice. If you don't value your time - give it away and you will gain a new perspective.

[Curiousness23]

i feel like shit sometimes... i want to buy a dog... i am sure it would help... even a rat or an ant just a little animal ahahah

[Anonymous]

Okay well it seems as if you're depressed. If you're religious I'd say go to your local church's college hangout that's what I did when I didn't have a lot of friends and was lonely