Self defense strategies if I need them?

[Anonymous]

Long story short... My older brother (seven years older) used to feel me up when I was little and have me do things to him. I was too little to understand what was going on. He's currently staying here for about a week at my parent's house (where I currently live). I've decided not to tell anyone about this when I was younger, but if he were to do it again when he's older, then I would. Well, he's started doing things again. I'm not nervous that he will actually do anything, but I really don't know him like I used to... So he could. And it's better to be safe. I weight around 145 pounds, and he weighs around 270 pounds. He has muscles, and for me, not so much. I've figured that if he DID try anything, pressure points would be my best bet. I don't need tips on how to deal with him or a reality check on what I'm dealing with, trust me, I'm well aware. I just need tips on how to defend against someone almost double my size.

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+1 y

My brother hasn't felt me up or anything, don't get me wrong. The worse that he's done is make me give him a lap dance when I was... Maybe ten? He said that it "tickled" and I loved my brother, so I wanted to help him out.. but then I started to catch on that I was sitting on his dick... I also noticed that he would isolate us from the rest of my family... But this time, he was only pressing his dick against me and, well, putting me into submissive positions while I was kneeling on his PC.

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+1 y

I really don't want to resort to telling anyone or the police... Nobody knows about this. It's really not that big an issue since I hardly see him and am not around him all that much anyways. This visit, I've given him an icy cold shoulder and am being extremely rude towards him. I feel bad about it, but it leaves him with a choice. Pursue an actual healthy relationship with me, or only have me around for a rise. And if he DOES do something, I'm not holding back or giving him another chance.

[lovydoey]

Well odds are he doesn't know how to fight. And people will normally use their whole force to attack, but not maintaining balance. So u have to use that on ur advantage. I can't say what to do exactly, since there are millions upon millions of ways to defend yourself. But in this one, u should turn to YouTube and see specific moves u want to practice. Also have time to practice, there will be no point in knowing what to do, if u didn't at least practice and try it out.

Also when u give a hit, u should build up the power from the shoulder all they way to ur hands. So u kinda twist your upper body to gain force. Keep your hands as close to your body and face to protect them from any hit.

A simple self defense technique is if he is coming fast towards u, u could just do "✌" shape and poke his eyes.

Another one is if he is trying to pull you, instead of trying to pull away, u push towards him. Never back down, if he is taller than u and stronger than u, then u shouldn't be afraid to move closer.
Like if u see street fights, people will usually just back away to avoid getting hit. Well this is bad because it loses their balance and their energy decreases for the next attack. But of you move toward, then u not only surprise ur opponent, but u gain a better access to his pressure points

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[Xfitchick]

If you really need to neutralize him: a hard knee between the legs, with the bottom of an open hand punch hard against the bottom of his nose. If its really necessary: two fingers in the eyes or a fist punch on the throat (but thats really neutralizing)

[Asker]

Okay! Thank you!

[englisc]

You should really tell someone, but I probably won't change your mind there.

If he does try anything, firmly tell him no. Going by what you wrote you went along with it because you were young and naive, it doesn't sound like he used violence. Intimidation maybe. In any case, you need to let him know that he won't get away with it anymore and show him that you're not afraid to say no or to do what it takes to stop him. If he does resort to threatening or trying to force you, I guess you'll most likely be in the same house as other family members. Scream and shout, tell him to get his hands off of you and shout for help, they'll come to see what's going on. That might stop him straight away. If not, go for pressure points like you said - it will be hard for him to do much to do after you've jammed a thumb hard into his eye, hit him in the throat and/or given him a good knee to the balls. If it does come to violence (which you obviously want to avoid at all costs) be as aggressive as possible, just keep hitting til he drops or runs away, and scream. Change his mind on which one of you is the predator and which one is prey.

[Asker]

Thanks for the encouragement! This was super helpful! Thanks for taking the time to understand my situation as best you could and give really helpful advice! ☺️

[englisc]

No problem :) just to be clear only resort to violence as a last resort. Being smaller and not as strong you have to attack pressure points which in a way is more dangerous e. g. a throat punch could possibly collapse the windpipe and kill a man and should only be used if you're really in danger.

[Asker]

Yup! He's my brother, even if he's doing this, he's still family! I'm not one to resort to violence that quickly anyway 😊 But I will if I think it's the only way! I actually also just told my dad about this too!

[Anonymous]

That palm thing uppercut on the nose that women do, that hurts and obviously the balls, he's a bit big for you to just take him on physically, don't get overconfident those methods are just to wear him off, you have to have a weapon at the very least if you want to take him on one on one. I helped my girl with her kickboxing, after a few years she still struggled to take me on even though I only have a fan belt for street fighting. No, you have to me smarter, or become a true master at some self defense art. That takes time. This is real life, don't go look at movies and think you could take on superman anytime you like.

[Asker]

Thanks for the tips! And yes, I'm all about intelligence and an well aware that in a one on one fight he could easily grab me and hold me and I'd be unable to break free. He's pretty strong. I'm not saying that I'm not, but compared to him, whatever strength I have wouldn't do anything. I think I'm faster than him though, so I wouldn't let myself get cornered. If I did, I'd make it seem like I was going to dart away, but then throw my body against him to knock him down, land a good throat punch for good measure to stun him more, then make my escape!

[Kolya]

Oh:) you want to handle it by hand to hand techniques or just "repellant"? Depends how violent he is, if he gets too violent then you can hit him in the knees, balls, solar plexus (middle of chest between the ribs), lower back but be careful, i would not suggest going to neck or head area unless you want him dead

[Asker]

Hmm anything helps I guess! Haha :) he's a gentle giant, so I doubt that he'd ever get violent, but I want to be prepared for anything! I think the solar plexus and stomach would be his most vulnerable spots in any instances where he might do anything. Thanks for the input Kolya!! :)

[Kolya]

No prob, if he is gentle then it is ok just make sure he doesn't get serious... at the slightest sign dont hesitate, be safe:)

[Asker]

Yeah he's pretty gentle and subtle about it, but, ya know, I'm pretty observant and smart with these things. I think he thinks that I don't know... (He's not that bright lol) but ey... I'll just have to let him know. Thanks kolya! :)

[Sojex]

Look into BJJ. It's the most complete and PROVEN self defense system you can learn. Size doesn't matter in BJJ, it's all about using whatever opening your adversary leaves open against them

[Asker]

Oh sure! That looks good! Thanks!

[sp33d]

Chances are your brother has grown up since then so you have nothing to worry about. Should he try anything, you can hit him in the head, get his ears ringing so he'll be dazed. you can also punch him in the face, it might hurt for you, but he should reconsider when his nose is bleeding.

[Asker]

Yeah, that's exactly what I've taken into account... Thing is, I'm still sure that he's... Well... Ya know... He was trying to do things last night and I got a bit shaken by that because I thought that he would've changed also. But yeah! A quick head strike would probably stun him! Thanks!

[sp33d]

Alternatively you can call him out on it and tell him to stop acting a damn fool. Unfortunately, if he doesn't get the message loud and clear, you have to seek other help, worst case scenario, the police.

[Asker]

I've sorta been subtly letting him know that I'm wanting nothing to do with him. But I realized that doing that has only made him kinda try harder... He's a lot like my creepy uncle I realized recently... So I probably can't distance myself TOO much... But if he tries anything I'll let him know right away... Throat punch or a dagger glare. It's not bad to where I think I should involve the police or anything, he's never felt me or anything..

[MimiMin]

Have something semi-sharp in your hand or pocket at all times so if you need to you can use it to gouge his eyes out. When it doubt, back out. Keep him spinning in circles to tire him out, then knee him in his family jewels.

[Asker]

Thanks!! This was really helpful :)

[Kgbmafia]

ermm you dont casually say you were molested by your brother and ask for self defence tips. you want a tip? Report that shit to the police and tell your parents.

[Asker]

That's true... But it's not what I asked help for..

[Sadly_It_Fell_Off]

OMG! Show someone this question and expose him otherwise you might never be free. You can't live in fear of him being around.

[Asker]

Thanks for the concern, but I'm not scared of him... Just a bit nervous that he's going to be rowdy or something. I will automatically defend myself if I ever feel that I need to. I'm planning on exposing him if he tries anything ever again.

[Sadly_It_Fell_Off]

I'm pleased you're not scared of him. Get something to spray at him and I hope he never does anything again.

[Asker]

That's a good idea actually! Like water, or pepper spray! Thanks for the input :)

[Berki]

His arm down infront of you your arm on his nose lifting up then your hand downpushing his head it will make everyone fall

[Asker]

This was a bit hard to visualize, but I think I get it! Thanks!

[Anonymous]

Place a knife under your pillow or near your bed so if he comes in to rape you stab him in the dark that way when your family comes running they find him in your room with his boxers down so you get revenge and proof as welk as defence.

[Asker]

I highly doubt that he would go that far, but I've considered it! Also, I've been there done that with the whole knife thing... For someone else though.. When that other person found the knife months later when it had no meaning and was simply forgotten, she was outraged and hurt me a lot. But that person is just crazy and unstable. I'm not at the point where I could resort to a knife, but if he does anything else, I certainly will seriously consider it.

[Kolya]

Knife? Then shit it serious sorry to say... you have to disarm him in any way, take knife away, call police only if he wounds you in the slightest way even by accident, you can hit neck area, jugular or everything in the face area, nose, chin if you want a knowdown, eyes, hard hit to either of ears

[Kolya]

Oh he doesn't have the knife, sorry i read wrong, no dont use knife, use pepperspray, CS type is good enough from 1m in the face, will teach him a thing or two and you won't get hands dirty

[Asker]

@Kolya aha! Thanks pal! I know where to get some pepper spray actually... The only problem would be explaining why I sprayed him in the face, but oh well. Maybe if I simply show him that I have it he'll be smart enough to back off. If I scare him away by threatening to use it.

[rakhi90210]

Best defence? TELL SOMEONE ABOUT IT

[RandomReindeer]

This.

[Anime27]

This times 1000.

[Asker]

I know... I probably should... I plan on doing just that if he does anything ever again.

[ShortCircuit]

Men have testicles. That is all you need to know.

[cupidkisses]

aikido is the best one

[Decentguy]

a kick in his balls will end him

[jman46241]

Sweep the leg.

[CT_CD]

Just let it happen.

[Asker]

You're extremely annoying. It's like you somehow find all of my posts and create a bunch of idiotic script upon them that burns out my eyes. I haven't seen you post one helpful thing on this website. The point is to help others, don't you know? There's no need to be a jerk all the time.

[CT_CD]

Most of my opinions are very helpful. I'm sorry that you do not think so. The fact that you are anonymous and I still find all of your posts obviously means that we are meant to be together.

[Asker]

Stop being a complete skeeze.

[CT_CD]

What's a skeeze?

[CT_CD]

Block me.

[Asker]

Blocked users can still post when you anonymously ask questions. I will eventually though.

[CT_CD]

I thought we were cool

[Asker]

Nope. Never.

[CT_CD]

Let's start over. I want to be friends.

[Asker]

No thanks.

[CT_CD]

Please