5' 11" 240 lbs. Is this too "fat" for a woman to find you attractive?

[Anonymous]

I'm a guy, used to be 290 lbs. Still losing weight, but I'm just curious if this is still too big for a woman to consider someone attractive? I've heard that a lot of women like "big" or even a little bit overweight guys, so at what point does that start (or end lol)?

Asking this in the dating category because I'm curious if my current size would be attractive to women in general, i.e. could I easily get dates now just purely judging on physical attraction? I know that I'm handsome, just a bit overweight now. Goal weight is 180 - 190.

[IveGotAQuestion]

If you're 5'11" you probably want to be around 150-170 lbs to have a healthy body mass index (BMI). Guys who are around that similar height weigh more because of different reasons, which could be a little overweight or perhaps lots of exercise and muscle building.

As for women finding your current size attractive, it's possible. Women don't always fall for what is physically attractive, however. As a man, you don't want to focus on purely physical appeal. You want to have the full package. You want a good mix of physique, intelligence, wit, confidence, and just enough mystery to keep her attention.

BUT, you should definitely continue on your goal toward losing weight. Women do also look for a man who has goals and works hard to reach them. And working to better yourself is a huge goal and something to be proud of. Keep it up!

[Asker]

Great advice, will do. Thanks!!

[Asker]

BTW, I'm not looking for women that are just interested in looks. It's just, for me, if I know or suspect that they might be attracted to me, it's much easier for me to approach them and ask them out because I feel more confident. At one time I was 175 lbs and women were all over me, but since I've gained weight I feel I've lost all my sex appeal, but am trying to get it back. I'm getting impatient though, hence the question, lol. Thanks again for the feedback!

[IveGotAQuestion]

I see what you mean. Well, hey, no need to worry. If you were once at that weight, then make it your goal and they may just come back. Don't try to push yourself, though. Haste makes waste! Good luck!