Girl best friend lashing out From depression?

[Lc4700]

Needing some help with my best friend who suffers from depression she has recently started lashing out at me over the smallest things (example) the other day I could tell something was wrong as she was somewhat being standoffish so I asked her if I had done anything to upset her, in hindsight I shouldn't have steered clear of asking that but basically innocent question? She totally bit my head off accusing me of making it about me and now not talking to me told me she wants to be left alone, I apologized to her , we are very close , talk everyday close and just a day before this she was so joyful with me bringing me lunch to work and all kinds of positive conversation, is this typical with depression , should I give her time and let her reach out?

[RiJox]

Ask her to open up.


When I’m sad, I act up. All I want is, whoever is around me to just feel me and actually respect my pain and not talk shit like “ stop acting like that”


I am acting like that for a reason the only thing that helps is showing support and understanding.
Some though love too if needed, the truth needs to be said to help and heal. Not to kick someone down.


Try different approaches that might help your friend. Let her complain but also enlighten her into finding solutions.

[Lc4700]

Thank you for your advice, do you think I should give her some time and let her contact me? Just don't want to push her cuz as she said she felt smothered I don't believe I have done that but I if that's how she's feeling I want to respect her she's already dealing with enough, I care for her very much , don't want her to think I don't care

[RiJox]

Yes, give her space.

Tell her that you’ll always be there but right now you’ll respect her decision.
Also bring up the fact that you really care about her and that she doesn’t have to go through that by herself.

Tell her that you understand that being in depression is embarrassing and nobody wants to be seen at their worst but tell her that she can be herself around you and they she has nothing to be ashamed of. She’s human and we have difficult times.

Check up on her as often as you can without making her feel upset.
Also don’t allow her to mistreat you because your not at fault and that if she acts like that being alone and loosing people is not the way. She needs to respect that she is part of your life too and you might need her.

Stop by and give her a hug and leave.
Just so she can kind like stop being so dramatic as well and let’s hope she stops and actually puts energy into changing what’s wrong.

Good luck 🍀