Is there any way I can tell my girlfriend she is getting too skinny without offending her?

[phillyboy215]

shes not anorexic or anorexic looking but she was very skinny and over the past 6 months has lost somewhere around 15 pounds so she prob somewhere between 110-115 pounds now. her boobs and butt have gotten a lot smaller but that's not a big deal to me. Its just I can pretty much see all the bones in her back and when I look at it it gives me like a weird uneasy feeling in my stomach. I mean I still think she's beautiful but I was more attracted to her before she lost weight. She is loosing weight because she never eats breakfast and she only eats lunch at work. she works 9 hours nearly every day then goes straight to bed after work. pluss she is really stressed out. I tell her she should eat at least 3 times a day but she just says she's not hungry in the morning and at night she is just too tired. I try to tell her its not healthy to only eat once a day but it just goes in one ear and out the other. I want her to be healthy pluss she had such a sexy body before she lost weight. is there any way I can tell my girlfriend she is getting too skinny without offending her?

[chondell]

You might want to consider becoming that much more involved in her life, because seriously that is dangerous, and something is wronged or has changed. Pay attention to her and you should seek a medical professional, so your beautiful girlfriend doesn't waste away or collapse or never wake up one day. When I am unhappy or depressed, I lose my appetite and will or joy for many things in my life, and I don't take care of myself as a sub-conscious self-destructive defense mechanism. Surprise her with dinner or lunch If you can. Send her favorite box of chocolates or fruit basket to her job? I am not suggesting you force junk food or Starbucks down your girlfriend's throat, but the goal is to observe whether she eats. I don't care how tired or stressed you become, If you are absolutely starving, you will eat just about anything. If you are able to, bring her favorite dish to lunch or buy her healthy snacks to take on the go to eat throughout the day, so she isn't totally deprived. Get involved that way you two are eating together, and if she does have an eating disorder, God forbid, she most likely won't display those habits in front of you, but you can use that as leverage for peculiar things that she may be doing when she thinks you are not watching her or that you suspect.

Good luck baby and give her my blessings. I wish the both of you health, love, peace, joy, and success together.

Jamaica Outttttttttt

[tohzoku]

Can't argue with the guy that said you may need to seek a professional, but have you tried making her some food to take with her? A friend of mine wasn't anorexic, but he was certainly going down the path. I started making box lunches for him on the weekend and showing him how to make quick meals, and he started eating more - he gained a little weight back and looked positively glowing and healthy after a few months.

I am a strange girl, but I guess I would honestly prefer an S.O. to just say, "Hey, you're losing a lot of weight lately... I'm worried that you're not developing healthy habits because you don't get enough nutrients". You don't have to make it about her looks - after all, you said she's still pretty, but you're worried, and that's fair.

[Hazel63]

Its best to be honest about how you feel about her weight loss. When you tell her put in a compliment, so that its not so harsh. Try saying something along the lines of, "Babe, I think your curves are so sexy, but your not eating...and they don't stand out as much. I miss your curves." Saying something like this will encourage her to eat, because we girls love for our guys to check us out. So knowing that you miss her curves will encourage her to want to gain weight. But if she continues to loose weightyou should consider asking a professional. :/

[Delaisback]

Well as you kinda look like a guido, I'm guessing she has a style and outlook similar to that of a guidette. Chances are her friends and peers are pressuring her to lose weight, and if you really think she's getting too skinny just say she's getting too skinny and would look much better with a little more weight. Be blunt.

[phillyboy215]

a guido? I'm german ha ha and so is she and in no way am I anything like a guido

[Delaisback]

IN that case... Just tell her to eat more.

[hithere3387]

This is an extremely difficult situation. While your girlfriend may not have the psychological condition anorexia nervosa (and, this has yet to be determined) she is certainly anorexic (meaning, she isn't eating). Instead of asking strangers for advice, you need to consult a professional.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like she has a problem, she may be becoming anorexic. Say it with love and concern but don't attack or criticize her.

[Anonymous]

just be honest and tell her straight up but in a nice way...dont be like " you SKELETON"