How to feel sexy after significant weight loss?

[Juicyred921]

Is there any tricks or ideas on how to feel sexy after loosing over 100lbs? I know it sounds like it should be easy, but after loosing weight your body and confidence is still not where you wish you could be. If you loose a lot of weight, your body sometimes doesn’t go back to looking like the original package.

[RealMarek]

Congratulations on the weight loss. You need to allow time to get used to the changes. Also keep in mind that people tend to be their own worst critics. You’re appearance is no doubt much healthier looking clothes on or off, regardless of a bit of loose skin around your belly, and a healthy figure is attractive. You can take confidence from that. Believe me, if someone gets as far as getting to see you naked, I doubt that person is going to focus on the bit of loose skin like you do. There is a lot more to take in than that.

[Carolus]

Probably because you haven’t gotten to your desired weight, so don’t give up, keep working towards that goal. Self-acceptance is when you accept all aspects of yourself, positive or negative and never feeling ashamed of your weaknesses.

Can you love someone? Love yourself first - self love and appreciate or celebrate minor victories. Look forward to nudging/ changing your dress code, lingerie, a new perfume, jewelry etc.

[Juicyred921]

I’m past what my original goal was. I used to be 250 lbs and now I’m 140lbs. My original goal was 150. I try to dress nice. Form fitting. I’m not sure how to dress sexy or cute. I’m not sure about wearing lingerie sense it shows a lot of skin.

[Potteplante]

For me - my self confidence came by accepting how I looked, with flaws and everything.

I started that self acceptance while I was still obese - I quit trying to lose weight and just loved myself & my body, with flaws and everything.

[Juicyred921]

I’m glad I lost weight. But I thought I would look different. With clothes on, not too too bad. But when I’m changing, I can’t even look in the mirror. It’s just so hard to feel confident and sexy when I’m repulsive to look at.

[Andres77]

First, congratulations! I know it’s a long and hard journey. But it’s a big deal. Well done.

Second, there’s so much more to the person than appearance. I know, easy to say. But having done what you did should give you cause to be proud of yourself. Your skin will adjust. Just stay on the path. Hold your head up.

[SlothySlob]

If it's a quick change, like through surgery I understand why.
If it's gradual, like through exercising, I really wouldn't understand why you'd loose confidence. Especially through all that pain and suffering, the gradual achievements of goals. That's literally dopamine after dopamine.

[Juicyred921]

No surgery. Just two and half years of changing habits. But I’ve always been chubby my whole life. And after my kid and an abusive relationship I just gained more. But now I’m close to my target weight. But I still don’t feel good about my body.

[SlothySlob]

You lost 100lbs in 2 years? It's still a time period. So it's not that you've lost weight, it's that something about your body isn't as you expected it? Such as?

[Juicyred921]

My body didn’t go back the way I thought it would. In some parts of my body the skin is no longer tight. Especially my belly. Loose skin. Not to the point where I have a flap like the movie click. But I still hate the way it looks. I need surgery but there’s no way I can afford that any time soon. And my face thinned out so much, I almost think it looked better a little more plump.

[SlothySlob]

Have you talked to a professional about this? I know there are exercises that you could be doing that would tighten your core. As for your face... well that's what loosing wait means.

[loveslongnails]

If you want to "feel" sexy, then "think" sexy. There are volumes and volumes written on the subject by women who have been in the same position as you, and by others who know their stuff. I suggest a visit to the library and find a few, then see which one works best for you.

[Pyrofox]

Probably the first big step is cycle in probably smaller and cuter outfits that now can fit. Into ur wardrobe.

[Juicyred921]

Oh I definitely do try to do that. I’ve never really been that good at buying clothes. But I try to look nice. I’m not really sure what consistent of a cute outfit though.

[OnTheLevel]

I think the trick is learning to be comfortable with your new body (I know, easier said than done). Be proud of your weight loss and know that your partner is proud of you too.

[CuriousMufuxka]

Lose not loose! This answer is for informational purposes clearly!

[Juicyred921]

My bad. 😬

[Twalli]

Most people feel better after losing weight. You generally feel like you have more energy

[Bklynbadboy12]

Are you kidding me look at yourself your gorgeous 😍

[Alex8736]

work on muscle mass so your skin don't sag

[Juicyred921]

It already has. I dono if muscles will help now.

[Alex8736]

crunches, squats, sit-ups, lots of sex 😇

[Erron_Black]

you can dress sexy.

[Anonymous]

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