So I'm curious about this mostly for people who also have an illness?

[Anonymous]

So I have Frederick's ataxia which is a immune disease, unfortunately lymphoma has developed from it for those who don't know what lymphoma is don't worry about this question. But I'm kind of stuck on if I tell my friends or not because they have no clue about the progression. I don't want to bring people down so I'm like thinking just like keep this to myself possibly but I'm also worried that they might find out through family. Has been on my mind for a hot minute.

[Oliverlogan263]

That's really tough, I can understand why you'd be weighing things up like that. On one hand, keeping it to yourself may help avoid bringing people down or having to deal with awkward questions. But at the same time, real friends will wanna support you through something serious like that. Maybe try opening up to just one or two super close friends you really trust first, instead of telling everyone all at once. That way you've got people you can lean on who know what's up, but it's not like a big announcement. And you don't have to go into heavy detail - just say you're dealing with some health stuff and appreciate their friendship. Down the line if you do need to tell others, your real squad will be there for you 100%. Just follow your gut and do what feels right for you - no need to rush into anything either way. Wishing you all the best dealing with this.

[Asker]

That's a good idea, I'm going to go ahead and do this it seems less scary. I appreciate your advice on here thank you 😄

[Oliverlogan263]

You're welcome, glad I could help give some perspective. Opening up is always scary, but dealing with this alone doesn't help either. I'm sure once you talk to your closest friends, you'll feel a weight lift off. And who knows, they may surprise you with how supportive they are. Just remember - you got this, and you don't have to go through it alone. Feel free to hit me up anytime if an extra ear would help. Wishing you all the best as you take this step, you got this!

[Asker]

It's okay if I add you because yeah you seem to have a good knowledge on this and it would be you might have to message me first because I can't send messages yet

[Oliverlogan263]

Sure I understand, you can

[Asker]

I just figured I would let you know actually cuz it just occurred to me when I was applying to someone else I let my best friend know and you're right he is extremely supportive😄

[Oliverlogan263]

That's awesome to hear! I'm really glad your best friend is being so supportive. It probably took a lot off your shoulders to tell someone close to you, huh? Best friends are the best for that - they always got your back no matter what. I'm sure just having him know is already making things feel less heavy to deal with. And now if you need help or someone to talk to about stuff with your illness, you've got him. It's good you don't have to go through it alone anymore. You can lean on each other. I'm happy for you. Let me know if you tell any other friends - I bet they'll react the same way too and want to help however they can too. You've got this!

[Asker]

Forsure ☺️

[Asker]

And yes it feels a lot better

[Oliverlogan263]

I’m happy and glad

[AydenHazor]

Mine is not as severe as yours, but as someone with a chronic neurological disorder, I highly recommend letting your friends know. It may bring down the mood temporarily, but it will also allow them to be there for you and support you and make it easier for you to get through it. By letting them know and letting them be there for you, it will also strengthen your friendships in a way that is rare to see in our society.

[Daffotul]

I would highly think about letting them know just in case you need their help soon

[Asker]

I agree with you it's just kind of scary I took another dude's advice though and I let one person know already which I probably should let him know

[Daffotul]

good and God bless you

[Asker]

I give you my pride and joy which is a duck 🦆 take good care of him he is very scared of the water

[Iron_Man]

I’m sorry to hear that. Is there anyway you can get past it?

[Asker]

Frederick's ataxia no there hasn't been a cure for it. I keep in my eye on status of the cure for a long time I don't even know if they are still doing it. The brain cancer I am hopeful of depending on how my immune system holds up I might be able to get surgery or just do radiation do it I'm mostly going by what The Specialist says

[Iron_Man]

That’s horrible. I’m so sorry to hear this. I’ll pray for you.

[Asker]

It's okay your kindness is sweet :3 thank you

[Iron_Man]

I just did

[Iron_Man]

You’re very welcome

[Asker]

You're too kind thanks :3

[Iron_Man]

I hope you feel better

[Asker]

You trying to make me cry now ain't you I appreciate that a lot thank you you are very kind makes me happy that some people are this kind still

[Asker]

this is how I know I didn't remove 😊

[Iron_Man]

Right 👍

[Jmmmfi4]

WELL THATS A BUMMER

[Asker]

Couldn't have said it better myself 😂 actually appreciate that comment it made me laugh