Is it weird that I'm afraid to lose all the weight?

[Anonymous]

Hear me out... I know I need to lose weight. God knows I know I do. But I fear being small. I fear the attention I'm going to get when I become small. I've always been fat so I don't know what it's going to be like to be small.

I weigh over 250 right now and I know that's a lot of weight and I need to be at 110 to 118 for my height of 5'3.5".

So far I've lost 26lbs and it's great that I'm losing the weight and fast too (I'm on week 5). But I just have this fear that people are going to treat me different and expect more out of me.

Is my fear valid? Even though I know I need to get healthy and not worry about what will happen once I am at a healthy weight, I still have that fear of being treated differently.

And I know the attention should be a good thing but I'm not the type of person that likes a lot of attention. I'm used to being in the background.

[exitseven]

You will be treated differently. You will not be ignored because you are not fat. It may be just the opposite. I was a fat kid growing up. I was only about 50 pounds overweight but I was usually left out if most social functions I school and ignored by all thr girls in my class. I started dieting and working out. I was not really treated much differently maybe because to everyone I was still that same fat kid that everyone picked on. Things were different for me when I went away to college.

[Asker]

That's what I'm not looking forward to. I like being invisible and in the background. I don't want the spotlight to be on me.

[exitseven]

Do not worry about that. As you lose weight you will feel better and you will feel better about yourself. Your attitudes may change.
I really wish you a lot of luck with this. You will have setbacks along the way but do not let them derail you

[Asker]

Thank you. I won't!

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[Asker]

You're welcome!

[BoopBoopBeep]

Yeah they'll treat you different. They won't assume you're a lazy slob anymore. I was fat before getting in shape and it's a much nicer life now.

[Asker]

Well that's one stereotype I'll be glad to be rid of. I'm not a lazy slob. I workout but my eating hasn't been the best. Now I'm cleaning it up and losing the weight. I'm just nervous of the treatment I'm going to get once I lose all the weight. Don't get me wrong I want to lose it all because I'm tired of being a statistic and fat but I don't know if I will be able to handle all the positive and negative reactions. Some people are going to love it but my family will probably not love it because they are all obese. So they will call me names like you're too skinny or you look anorexic. I'm just not ready for that.

But overall I know it will be a nicer life for me like it is for you. So I just need to get over it I guess.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Well then F their opinions because they're just a bunch of lazy slobs :P

[Billlewis]

I think plus sized women are very attractive, and I hope you maintain your present weight.

[Asker]

Thank you but I need to be at a lower weight for health reasons.

[slatyb]

Can you get counseling? Have you had understand attention in the past?

[Asker]

No I can't afford it.

[Pohjolan]

Look this is extremely easy to reverse if you don't like the outcome.

[Asker]

I certainly wouldn't want to reverse it once I am small. That's a lot of work to put in to just go back to how things were before and not to mention unhealthy.

[Pohjolan]

We'll there you have it.