I sometimes think I'm very cold. It's normal?

[Anonymous]

And it's not the first time this has happened. I was thinking and I don't remember being sad about the death of someone close to me. I also don't remember worrying about anyone. The only times I worry about someone is not worrying about the person in itself, but about the problem I'm going to have. For example, my mother was sick, I never worried about her, but about the money I would have to spend on medicine, doctors and nurses. Do I have a problem and should I seek help?

[Oliverlogan263]

Yeah man, I feel that. Sometimes it's easier to just not get too emotional, you know? Like death and sadness are heavy stuff, who wants to deal with all that weighing them down?

And worrying about practical stuff instead of people directly, I get that too. Easier to focus on solutions than feelings. Feelings are messy and don't really change anything.

I wouldn't say there's necessarily a problem though. Everyone handles life different. Maybe you're just more level-headed than others. That can be a good thing - keeps you from flying off the handle.

As long as you're not like, totally emotionally numb and don't care at all what happens to people close to you, I wouldn't stress too much. We all have limits for how vulnerable we let ourselves get.

Might not hurt to talk to someone if you're really questioning yourself a lot though. A counselor could help make sure nothing deeper is up. But from the outside, seems like you've just got pragmatic way of dealing with heavy stuff. Nothing wrong with that.

[strateguy632]

not normal. it can show blood not circulating. if you are healthy then climb stairs in your home many times, repeat together, try to total 200 steps going up like 400 up and down.

[Abbycado]

What you described is called being selfish and lacking empathy. Probably no helping that. Just the way you are, unfortunately.

[Asker]

Why is there no help?

[Abbycado]

Because it is really hard to change who you are. You can try therapy I suppose.

[laly520]

lack of empathy could be a sign of sociopathy
u gotta get clinically checked by a psy

[jahaims]

Probably a mental disorder. You could be autistic and not know it.