What would you do if your SO let himself/herself go physically?

[Anonymous]

Be honest and let him/her know how you feel about it

Suggest physical activity for you both to do and start making healthier meals for you both

It would not matter to me

I'd do nothing and just hope he/she sees what's happening

Other, I'll explain

[jennifer_bloom]

When my friend who worked as a nutritionist thought I was fat, she offered to steal nutrition booklets from her boss and give them to me for free.

When my a guy from church thought I was fat, he invited me to go for a walk with him around the school and then took me to the gym and taught me how to use the equipment.

When another guy from church thought I was fat, he gave me the phone number of a nutrition business that sold weight loss drinks.

When my other friend thought I was fat, she told me I was not allowed to eat any more at the buffet or she would not give me a ride home.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

I let go in my 30s and gained 50 pounds.

In order to inspire & motivate me, my husband (then-boyfriend) participated in my "recovery" process even though he didn't need to since he was already incredibly fit.

<3 He's so supportive!

<3 Love him! Love him! Love him! <3

[bobby_bush_eater]

I live a very active lifestyle currently and love cooking simple healthy stuff as well as homemade snacks (lots of slow cooker meals, stews, soups, etc. for snacks I make lots of oatcakes, breakfast squares, banana oat bread) so this would be unlikely but if it did I'd try to respectfully and calmly ask her what's going on...

The "nothing" response would not suffice and I'd definitely press but out of concern not in a condescending way

[OptimusThyme1050]

This is what my wife did: encouraged me to eat healthy, exercise, join a gym, and go swimming regularly. More importantly, she also participated with me. We eat the same healthy meals, go to the gym together, and go swimming regularly, and it's pauing off. So it's more about bwing directly involved, than just preaching from a soapbox.

[Asker]

good for you guys

[Loner111]

That happened to me in 2017 when my dog passed away, I had issues at work with new managers, I didn't get this job I applied for and was so positive I was going to get it and more...

I learned a lot about people in life in that era... No one is going to come knocking on ur door to get to going again, people who u thought were friends will watch from afar and laugh at u.

It's up to u to keep urself going.

[Yoursweetgirl]

So true.

However I was trying to get my husband to exercise and lose weight when he let himself go. I had huge arguments when he was skipping showers or barber days. He would always get mad at me for nagging ab his appearance so eventually I gave up cause other people were telling me to leave him alone about it. Yk love him as he is and shit.

However when I started gaining weight and skipping showers, and didn't care about my clothes he was so concerned and was nagging me to take care of myself and not gain any more weight. 🙄🙄🙄

[Loner111]

That shows u both love each other equally for the both of u to show each other that.

We all go through our phases. I say it's the way we cope with our issues that makes all the difference. If you're willing to fight until u get to the light, ur all set.

Accept each other as u r and when things get so stressful that u want to just drop everything and leave, remind urself there r a lot of people in far worse conditions.

You'll be oright, everything is going to be okay.

[Finchie40]

Try to get them help and try to find out the root cause for them giving up on themselves, they might be under a lot of stress or depression so the right thing to do is to help them and support them as much as I can.

[HaleyWalker]

either they start working out again or the relationship is over at the end of the day I'm not going to be sitting there worrying if they're going to have a heart attack one day that is unnecessary stress.

[DrPepper12]

I was the guilty party and she was "nagging" until I had an epiphany and knew she was right and I needed to change. 40+ lbs lost since and became an everyday gym rat, walker, cyclist.

[strateguy632]

Suggest physical activity for you both to do together

and start making healthier meals for you both

[Anonymous]

I tried to exercise together but he never showed up. I told him how I felt about his health but it didn’t change. We sleep apart (he snores so loud I can’t sleeping the same room anymore). We eat healthy for a while but then he buys snacks and it’s back to the beginning.

I don't know. I’m still figuring out. I’m close to giving up, he needs to want it. But I feel bad about it. I guess marriage is a reason for him to become lazy (and he wanted to marry)

[OfMiceandMen]

I would get them off the couch and keep them busy doing things with me.

[Sonorous]

What I'd do would depend on the circumstance & what kind of person they are.

[jahaims]

We would have spoken about it prior to getting to that point. Not taking care of your body is a disrespecting yourself.

[Apple1996]

It wouldn't bother me unless it was causing health issues

[molonski2]

Wouldn't happen , no excuse for sloppy obese slobs , its self respect.

[dustybiker2]

We are too motivated. Even when under the weather we both do too much.

[SotiCoto]

Approve. Ladies are better off meaty.

... Not that I have one presently, nor ever will again, but my preferences are unchanged.

[Anonymous]

That wouldn't happen because I'd be all over that if she got so much as 5 to 10 lbs overweight. She knows that's not acceptable.

[clampfan101]

B. Maybe also A.

[AviatorTom]

That guy looks pregnant. 🙄

[paledreams]

I know I'd be single again by dumping her arse lol

[Anonymous]

Suggest we exercise together