Why do people keep telling me to story trying to lose weight?

[Anonymous]

My family doesn’t want me to lose anymore weight. Even my two close friends said I don’t need too and I look so good tall and curvy.
I’m 5’10, pear shaped, I went down from 220lbs to 190lbs. I wanna get down to 130lbs but I don’t think my large bone structure will let me. My family criticizes me about it and said my body isn’t built to be slim and reminds me that I’m 6ft tall and I shouldn’t be losing too much weight and I’m not petite. My family keeps saying I’m 6ft but when I correct them, they don’t respond or ignore me.
It’s like tall women aren’t allowed to lose weight but short women get support.

[itsannalee]

190 is too still too much in my oponion, i think the more ideal is about 160/150. But just enjoy it, do more exercise and cardios and don’t do any extreme diet.

[Asker]

Thank you

[Sonorous]

Probably because you're aiming to far too low of a weight. I think that would be unhealthy to be 130lbs at your height.

[Asker]

Why not? What if it was a 5’10 small built woman? So large built has to weigh more? I’m sick of being heavy

[Sonorous]

I don't know what else to say besides: If you don't feel like it's too low for you then go for it & don't listen to what your family says...

As for the why, many people don't like feeling intimidated or like they're not doing enough in life. They don't like the feeling of being left behind, forgotten about, one-upped, etc. So when we try harder to be better versions of ourselves, others close to us may see our ascension as a threat since we may not be able to benefit them in the same ways. What those ways are depends on the person. Could be as simple as them being afraid that they won't be able to relate to you as well.

Also, feel free to ask me about any weightless tips because I'm currently (routinely) losing weight right now & I've gotten pretty good at it. Especially since I used to be a big back.

[power_wolf]

190 is too much but 130 is too little. I think you should be around 145

[Asker]

145 isn’t too bad

[EnjoytheDay777]

They're jerks. You're fine.