Why can’t women just embrace their curves?

[Anonymous]

Just because you are curvy or thick doesn’t mean you’re fat. You don’t need to lose weights. There’s too many women and girls with eating disorders. Some actresses are too thin that looked better with weight on them. Overweight or chubby doesn’t always mean unhealthy.

Thin is SO overrated. I am naturally thin and I had an earring disorder where I almost died. After my grandma nagged at me to eat or get help, I did. I got angry at my best friend who snitched on me but later I thanked her. I wanted to be as thin as her. She was skinny and I was slim with a round butt, a flabby belly and thicker arms. When I hit puberty I gotten curvier and had all that. I started going on diets. I eat vegan food most of the day. Then I started to diet. I did it for three years. I’m thin and I prefer to be this way with a toned belly and all that. Most people said I looked better before my weight loss. I didn’t like chunky my round face was. I was a bit of a chunky kid.
My boyfriend has been complaining about me dieting and said I looked healthier before when he looked at my teen photos. Men prefer curvy women/healthy looking women, not skinny. It’s healthy to have some fat.
Anyways when I have a daughter I want her to embrace her body and curves if she gets them. Plus so many girls and women KILL for curves. Skinny isn’t healthy and it isn’t healthy for men either. Not everyone is built to be thank and that’s okay. Some people are naturally thin and there’s no need to be jealous. My best friend has always been a thick curvy girl and she did NOT look good thin. She went from 198lbs to 144lbs and she looked better curviest. Plus she’s tall at 5’9 so she can carry it well.

[TheRealPepperPotts]

Some do. I always wished I had a more boyish frame and was a few inches taller, but that's not how I'm built. I have an hourglass body and that's just the way it is.

I used to do ballet, which places tremendous pressure on us for how our bodies look, and I had a serious eating disorder, so I can relate. But the imbalance goes both ways. The key is to pursue a healthy lifestyle and toss the scale out the window. It's not necessarily about weight; it's about physical health, mental health, and lifestyle.

However, your friend you described is borderline clinically obese, unless she has an exceptionally high muscle mass. Some women use curvy as an excuse to not bother eating healthy or exercising. That's a disservice to themselves. I have seen the plus-sized models and that isn't curvy; it's fat.

There's a quote by Dave Chappelle that sums it up pretty accurately:

"I support anyone's right to be who they want to be. My question is: to what extent do I have to participate in your self-image?"

I am "curvy". I have hips, a waist and a bust. But my BMI is 21 (not the greatest calculator if you have muscle, but it's better than nothing). Most women who self-describe as curvy are not; they are fat or obese. They often have fertility issues, blood pressure issues, diabetes or pre-diabetes, and low energy levels, to name a few. These issues affect men, too, just to be clear. The male version of "curvy" is "big"; like he's some kind of Atlas...

My point is that going from one extreme (undereating disorders) to another extreme (overeating disorders) isn't the answer. If we really want to make an impact on the obesity, we would actively stop buying corporate junk foods. If no one buys the products, the companies would be forced to change tack. If we advocate for health programs in schools, eliminate junk food options, teach simple gardening, have community garden programs, have community health groups for kids and teens that teach social fitness along with empathy, we might make a dent in the problem. Obesity is a public health crisis in the US that costs 1.4 trillion dollars every year to treat. It demands support and action, similar to the drug epidemic.

I have the utmost compassion for obese people. But rolling over and trying to say that something that is a recent societal norm is healthy and acceptable is like saying that because polio happens, we need to accept it and normalize it. I couldn't disagree more. There are lives at stake.

Thanks for reading my little soapbox speech; I'll shut up now. :D

[IslaTheWitch]

healthy weight (BMI) was created to give people a healthy range for their weight based on their height...

being "chubby," or overweight is unhealthy even if people don't want to accept it... our bodies during evolution were prepared rather to not enough food than too much food, especially sugar, so our heart, joints, liver, and other internal stuff are not prepared for the amount of fat related to being overweight...

so... accepting curves is one thing, because even in the healthy weight range women still look different

but accepting not needed fat that deteriorates our health is definitely something that shouldn't happen

[ChicoFromThe305]

There is a social standard, unfortunately there's a specific look the majority considers attractive and society has made that the beauty standard, it's so overrated to the point people completely forget that people don't just find beauty or have to find beauty in just one standard but they can find it in several, women only think of this one main standard.

[sawno]

Curves is fine, fat is not. A lot of genuinely fat women use curvey as an excuse and guys call that out. But genuinely curvey where you don't have a fat belly but for example larger breasts or hips is a healthy body type and is often seen as sexy.

[itsannalee]

Curve is curve fat is fat.
They are 2 different things, self love doesn't mean we have to let our bodies grow bigger. It’s not only about beauty, but being git is much healthier than fat.

[trumpetplayerforlife]

Look at a thick girls post on how she looks she gets fat shamed by men that makes you doubt yourself no matter how confident you are if you hear it enough you believe people

[jahaims]

You guys got tricked by propaganda so you would buy beauty products. Your beauty standards come from corporations so they aren't realistic. If a goal is unachievable then you will continue to spend money trying to solve the problem.

[darkxoangel92]

Society has brainwashed us to believe that only thin is beautiful and the standard.

[Asker]

True. I wish it wasn’t like that. We are all meant to be different shapes and sizes. I used to think that way.

[PaleDale]

I don't know. They're attractive