How does it feel to be ignored?

[thegreenyogi]

I'm talking about situations in which your thoughts, opinions or feelings have not been acknowledged. Have ever experienced it and how does it feel?

[Zack-Bann]

I’m home visiting the family so I’m being reacquainted with this feeling for a few days


I hate it now just as I hated it when I first left


They do love me but they have this maddening tendency to dismiss anything and everything I say as the babbling of a child


Even though I’m the most educated and successful and well traveled member of this family for generations


Yet my dad would rather take his advice from my cousin for instance who’s an absolute loser that has never achieved much in life and walks around like owns the place because he’s married with kids
And his wife definitely cheats on him


(I know that sounds like jealousy but it’s more pragmatic than that: I like my cousin just fine but the facts are what they are)


So yeah it sucks to be ignored

[thegreenyogi]

I know the feeling. My brother is like your father and so was my grandfather. Always prefer and preferred the advice of strangers that are not exactly the most knowledgeable. You eventually learn to numb the frustration and not even bother attempting to express your thoughts or opinions because it's only going to be dismissed or even worse you'll be labelled as the one who can't talk because you can't possibly understand. It's why I am a very silent person. Sorry for the deviation but I guess my point is that I understand how it feels.

[Zack-Bann]

You didn’t deviate. It was right on the money
I relate to every word you said (unfortunately for both of us)

Maybe that’s just Mediterranean culture

[thegreenyogi]

It could be. I used to think that it was because I was the youngest child and so that's why I was and still am treated as a child but i have started to realise that maybe it has more to do certain family member's ego that sometimes is as big as a mountain.

[Zack-Bann]

Yeah you could be right on that as well

Im the eldest of two though and its not like that helps me

But I do think big egos run in the family and no one is willing to accept any contradicting information

[thegreenyogi]

That's also very true. I think another element to consider is that this kind of behaviour is typical in domineering individuals that don't take too kindly to their authority so to speak being challenged and so we coming along with a different opinion or different advice makes them feel out of control and so they shut it down in whatever way possible. And maybe in your case it also has to do with the fact that you left and maybe your father subconsciously resented it. I could be wrong but it is a possibility.

[Sonorous]

Well I'm not a stupid person so I've got a fair bit of insight to provide or at least am capable of having meaningful conversation if I want to. Often times I really don't care about the social aspect. I pretty much never care to make friends. I see that as futile. If someone wants to invalidate me, I will just not want to be around them. I'd rather be alone. I've got no problem being by myself. I prefer it.

[Nikki1989]

You feel like you don't matter, as if your presence is inconsequential.

[FunkyMonkee]

What? Did you say something? My attention was elsewhere.

[WonderingManII]

Everyday of my life! It makes you feel left out and worthless. You think about killing yourself, if goes on long enough.

[Shiprex]

It's demoralising and can make one turn inward and isolate themselves.

[Dongie]

Maddening! Screaming hollering profanity unignorabley loud!!

Yep.🫩

[eagle1951]

shoot it happens so much I don't even care anymore

[Anonymous]

Sometimes it feels great.

[Anonymous]

i dont care, which is usually me doing it