Do fit girls have a strong preference for fit guys?

[soxfan94]

A lot of girls work extremely hard to stay in great physical shape (and I mean athletic shape, not just being skinny). Lately, I've noticed a lot of them dating guys who could care less about exercise or being in shape.

Do girls who work hard on their fitness prefer guys who also have a healthy state of mind, or is it not a factor?

[Anonymous]

I'm the girl who said I wouldn't date someone who wasnt fit. I can't leave a comment so I made another answer..it's not shallow to want to be attracted to your partner, and to want a partner who cares about looking good for you. I work hard to keep my body right and I can't see myself with a guy who thinks its not a priority. If he gets to be with a nice looking person if I say so myself lol why wouldn't a nice looking girl wanna be with a guy who cares about his looks also? I never said that was my only priority but it is one of my standards that I have when choosing a date. I shouldnt be called names because I have standards that may be more stringent or higher than others. Ask most guys if their ideal choice would be a sloppy girl, I bet they'll tell you the same thing.

[soxfan94]

Don't worry, I'm with you on this one.

[skycat]

It depends on the girl, some A. are kinda shallow and one-dimensional, or B. like to have more things in common with some one, and then would choose a similarly fit guy.

Some choose to go more by other forms of compatibility, example, fewer things in common, he may not be fit, but he has a thrilling sense of humour, is very caring, and has a decent intellectual/sexual chemistry with her, she may go for a less fit guy if it so happens.

It's kinda up in the air. I think this is more about a girl's personality and not solely her physical fitness that decides what kind of man she'll choose.

[Anonymous]

I am not fit by any means but I have lost 50 pounds. I went from moderately obese to chubby and I'm still working on it. That being said, I would not be interested in a guy that was sloppy, really unhealthy and did not care about being fit. I'm not saying he has to have some perfect athletic body, but no couch potatoes that eat nachos everyday either. Why? Because I don't like that lifestyle, it doesn't get you anywhere so I would be more attracted to someone with the same viewpoints as myself.

[HelpaGuy23]

Do you relate to this? I started weight lifting and dedicating my life to fitness for the past 3 years. Over time I’ve lost about 40lbs. I feel amazing, inside and outside. Being with someone who doesn’t value my current lifestyle and have the same lifestyle scares me because I feel like I might backslide through being around them. When I spend time with unfit family members, I see how they eat and just being in their homes makes it difficult for me to maintain my lifestyle. You become who you are around and it’s easier for people to bring you down than for you to bring them up.

[pumba22]

Ohh yes! When I care a lot about that. I go to the gym everyday for a few hours, and I am quite athletic. In my opinion, I would only date a guy who works out also, or is into body building. I like my guy to be built, and not tubby. =D

[soxfan94]

Apparently some tubby guy didn't like your answer haha :p

[pumba22]

Hah! well sorry, that's only my opinion right. lol

[voodoochild]

Staying fit shows character.

That you can actually dedicate yourself to self improvement and maintaining.

Proper diet, regular workout etc all show a high level of self discipline which can also be found in EVERYTHING else you do...hence it shows allot about yourself and people will be attracted to that (as in, the disciplined, structured life style and goal mentality)

[LuisDC21]

I tend to look for girls that are in shape

[MissFelicity]

I'm a cross country runner and get a great natural high from running...I'm not ultra-fit and my boyfriend isn't either but he sees the rush it gives me and it encourages him to do more sports. I guess what I'm saying is if 'fit girls' enjoy the exercise energy rush then they might have difficulty understanding a guy who preferred a more sedate life on the sofa!

[skycat]

^ This girl falls under category B.

[Anonymous]

Yes if I keep my body up why would I waste it on someone who obviously doesn't care about their looks?

[skycat]

^ This girl falls under category A.

[soxfan94]

Skycat - I like your answer above, but this answer doesn't necessarily place the answerer in the A category. She didn't say it was her *sole* factor, just that it was a required one.

[skycat]

She fits in category A. because she considers it "wasting" her worth on someone who isn't as fit as her. Implying she is above those who aren't fit as her. She also only mentioned that it was about "looks" putting her, imho, in the "shallow and one-dimensional" category. Because that is what shallow is, pretty one-dimensional, i.e- it doesn't get too deep. Sure, she may want a guy who's nice, funny, etc. but only if he looks good enough to deserve her highness. Shallow. One-dimensional.

[soxfan94]

I completely disagree. I imagine that most people have at least one thing which is a basic requirement for the person whom they date. Most commonly, I'd assume that it would be something like humor, intelligence, fitness or politeness (although here are many other possible). I doubt that there is anyone who has *no* steadfast quality which they need in their partner. Using fitness as that base category is not shallow, as it indicates the person's motivation and mindset, not their natural looks.

[twilightfan123]

I like to keep myself in shape by going out for runs and play sports but it's not something I automatically look for in a guy as well, so no it wouldn't be a factor for me.

[skycat]

This girl proves my third type.

[Anonymous]

Some of them probably do.

[Anonymous]

Yes i love a guy that i can go to the gym with

[Anonymous]

Yes! I want someone I can go to the gym with!