Would you marry a guy who's a manwhore?

[Anonymous]

Do you think he would change? Or still contact his hoes?

[Ozanne]

I think this is the same question to a guy who would ask, "Would you marry one of your hoes?" - Because that is essentially what it would be if you ask this as one of his girls. No, I wouldn't even think of accepting any proposal from a guy like this until he's no longer a manwhore. Why should I sacrifice my self-respect and allow him to have all the fun, which is what you're allowing him to do if you agree marrying him is what you want. You are just letting him know you're accepting his behaviour, even through marriage.

Unless you are interested in a marriage full of hurt, or you are not bothered in the least by your man being with other women, then the answer is likely no - not a good idea. A guy like this usually does not change until he sees the best thing walking away from him. And if he simply can't give up other women, you are obviously not the "one" but "one of many" and if you're alright with that, that's your choice. Getting engaged or married doesn't change that. You have to let him know before he proposes that you need to see the man you will marry. Divorce is complicated and expensive, and until you can see what you're in for with him as a husband, there is no guarantee marriage is going to make him take your relationship seriously.

Usually when guys are like this, it's basically because it's habit-forming and he enjoys the attention from many women. But if the woman of his dreams were to come along and make him forget them, it's then he decides whether or not he wants to be a better person because of how he feels about her, wanting her to see him as the best he can be. If he's not doing that, then, I'm sorry, you're only one of many. :( Good luck and I hope he gets the message really quick that other men could snap you up for being loving and loyal.

[Asker]

Yeah you are right.
A few days before he got engaged he texted a girl saying 'thinking of you turns me on'

What do you think of that?

[Ozanne]

It means he's not respecting you and selfishly going ahead and doing what makes him feel more important, your feelings be damned. If he's having thoughts of sex about other women then he's not committing to you like a man should be when marriage and monogamy are to be expected. He's just not showing you he's going to change. This is the time now, being engaged, that he's supposed to step up and be proving to you and everyone that there is no one else. He's not just dating anymore, he's in the next step of commitment and he's not taking it seriously. He's probably found a great thing in you he doesn't want to lose it, so he thinks asking you to marry him will keep you from going somewhere else, but doesn't want to give up other women. He just doesn't want another man to have what he has in you, which is - again, selfish. He sees your value, but isn't working at keeping you. I think he believes marriage will solidify that.

[Asker]

Well when he got caught he texted the girl saying it's sorry it was a mistake, and that he wants to move on with his wife now.

Would you believe him after that? Or is that just a cover up? Cause why did he not apologize before he got caught?

[Asker]

*hes sorry

[Ozanne]

Because it's habit-forming, like I said and there's a chance he's trying to overcome the problem on his own before being caught. Trouble is, it's addicting being given attention like this so easily online or in texting. People have all the guts in the world to say this sort of stuff and the person on the other end has guts to say things back. His addiction to wanting to be admired by other women is keeping him from really working on things with you. Once he's caught, yeah, now he knows he's got to pick it up and work on himself. But has he? If you know he's still out playing around then it shows he still feels like a little boy who needs validation that he's attractive to women and needs their attention in order to feel more like a man. He's not getting that all he needs is you.

[Asker]

He deleted his Facebook to appear more convincing.

Would you allow him?

[Ozanne]

"To appear" more convincing isn't convincing. It just doesn't sound like this guy has learned his lesson, if he's just doing things to make you think it's what you want to see. Also, new FB profiles can always be created under different names. He could have lots of profiles out there of himself on many sites and many chat programs that you may not know about. I think it would be interesting to see if he's willing to just stay offline altogether for a while until it's sorted out with you. If you're satisfied with what he's doing, you're the best judge of character, so if you feel it's right then what do you think?

[pr3ttybr0wn]

I laugh at dumb hoes who knowingly date a manwhore and think he's gonna change. its like watching a pimp and his bottom bitch. he will do the same thing he's been doing

only way id marry a manwhore was if he was rich and I could golddig off his money. other than that there is no benefit to the situation

[Anonymous]

No, I'm not interested in someone changed. If I wouldn't even consider dating him, much less would I want to marry someone with such different sexual values and standards.

[TheNewClassic]

Hell no, never!

I would never be interested in a guy like that even when he claims that he has changed. Its a big turn off.

[Anonymous]

a ring won't tame a man whore. trust me i've been there

[SadLolita]

Uh no. I would never talks to one, let alone marry one

[Niceguyscumlast]

No don't do it a ring will not tame his thing

[PinkSnowConez]

That would be a big no thanks.