I would want a prenup too. But the thing you have to realize is that very few people own a home without the help and support of a spouse. The majority of women work now of days too, so it's not just the man working to pay the mortgage. So that house really isn't just your house unless you have paid for it before she comes into your life or if you don't have her pay for anything. And even then, it should be an arrangement between you two. She works, just maybe not for money. Taking care of the kids and the house while managing other things is a full time job in of itself. I would say she should be entitled to at least some things or some percentage of the assets.
I often think people think and say that their ex spouse took all these things away from them. But I've heard a very different side of some of these stories. I've heard people who said they GAVE their ex girlfriend, spouse, ex boyfriend, etc... the house, or the car. Sometimes it's not about the monetary value. But about getting away from that situation. Some people truly like to cut their losses.
Plus you don't know someone's situation 100%. A buddy may say that their girlfriend or wife took them for a ride, but you don't know if that is in fact true. Just because a friend says that, doesn't mean it's fact. Everyone is guilty of elaborating stories and lying about things and leaving out important details to make themselves appear better.
When people are hurt, they want people on their side. They will say things to make you want to take their side. Remember that next time one of your friends calls their partner crazy or mean. What was the other side of the situation?
I know I would personally hate it if I worked hard for something, helped to support my future husband and helped pay for the mortgage and bills and painted the walls by hand and cleaned the house on a regular basis, helped to pay maintenance of the house. And then have a guy say that I am trying to take HIS house. Well if we are both paying the mortgage, then it's not just his house. It's our house, and we will have to figure out an arrangement that works for both of us.
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Depends on whether you currently have a house or money but if we got together before that then whatever we will have we will have built together and both deserve an equal share, depending on who is going to be keeping the kids deserves to keep the family home at least until the youngest is raised then it should be divided equally or one buys the other out. Its also very important to recognise the real sacrifice a woman makes by bringing her partners child into the world, plus the sacrifice she makes if she chooses not to work. If a woman has three kids thats nearly tens years minimum she gives up if she decides to become a stay at home mom until the youngest is old enough for school, a ten year career break and loss of earnings is a lot for a woman to consider if a man wants her to sign a pre nup. It would be my worst nightmare for me personally to sign a prenup and have my future husband's kids only fot him to dump us and leave us homless for a younger woman, if I were to marry I would need to be assured of my future husband's commitment more than an expensive diamond ring.
I wouldn't like to get married without a prenup either! It's not because it's saying we won't last, it's not because the guy doesn't trust me etc. I want the marriage to be about love, not material goods and that's the proof - prenup and man, you're guaranteed I'm not marrying you for your money and things you have.
I can't stand those men claiming that marriage is only good for women and guys are basically in deep troubles if they get married. No, they are not if they are clever and sign the prenup! It's a proof the woman doesn't marry him for his money.
And although I am a very positive person, I was taught by my experience with my fiancee that anything can happen. Always plan for the worst - that's my life motto.
Before I'd say yes, but no. I would not. I'm sorry, a prenup is basically you admitting we won't last. On top of that, you don't trust me. I get it, women are gold diggers blah blah blah. But if for the whatever years we know each other and date before even getting engaged aren't enough proof for you to finally let your guard down, trust and love me, then we can sign endless amount of papers but it'll never happen.
Sorry but no.
This is why I date poor guys, even prefer them or unemployed guys, they're not going to question me why I'm with them, they're more likely to trust you, and you cannot have love without trust. You can't.
I've said this before and I'll say it again, prenups are useless, get tossed out and not 100% secure. Your best bet is just not getting married in first place. Even in a long term relationship/de facto/living together for 2-3 years, a woman can legally still screw you over the same way like in marriage if she gets a good lawyer.
Ohh yes my friend you don't have a choice when you get in to relationships/commitment with a woman... these feminists know what they're doing and they got us by the balls. Why do you think MGTOW exists? a lot of men are pulling out and would just rather get laid, sleep with whores, friends with benefits and have short term relationships becuase its our only option feminists have left us. Any right minded individual or decent guy would boycott commitment with women when they realise we are discriminated by toxic feminist laws.
MGTOW was created becuase of feminism, otherwise it wouldn't exist and I wouldn't be a part of it.
I would insist on a Prenup. Men, check with an Attorney where you live to find out how effective they are in your area. There is a wrong way and a right way to get a Prenup.
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Women initiate divorces 70% of the time. He will loose 50% or more of his assets in the divorce.
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No, by wanting a prenuptial agreement he is conceding to the probability of divorce in his mind.
Before my husband and I married we both agreed that "Divorce is not an option, Ever!" We believe that taking divorce out of the rules of engagement that it lessens the chances of divorce being a final outcome of our marriage. Now, if there were some sort of no divorce clause, up to and including Seperation with counseling I would sign that.
Divorce is too easy and acceptable in today's society, only when couples put their foot down and say (and mean it) Never in our house, will things ever begin to change. Naive? Nope, I just love my man with all my heart.Depending on what is in the prenup. Obviously, anything that is yours prior to the marriage should def stay with you no questions asked, but if it's things that were purchased during the marriage that should def get split up, but at least you don't lose your ass on a greedy bitch.
I absoluetly would and wouldn't be offended, because I know that if things went sour (say a cheating husband, would def irk my last nerve) I would go after everything they new and loved. That being said, I would totally agree to protect themselves, from me lolNo, just because I don't feel comfortable with that idea of getting married with divorce in mind.
But recently I came across an article by religious person who actually said that it's better to do so/ the pre nup.
I was a bit shocked.
But anyway, I am still trying to understand it better.
I recently learned prenup is actually a marriage contract, correct me if I am wrong.. and by that I mean in the contract you can put your conditions that you both agree to.
So yeah, when I started to learn more about it, I kind of eased in to the idea but not to the point where I am perfectly okay with it.
When I see or hear marriage I think of nikah/the way we do it instead of the court marriage etc.
So in our way of marriage, all the things are already made clear; the procedure of divorce, who has to give what etc.
The scenario you gave, in that case it does sound like a good idea to have a prenup but eh I don't know.You'd best do more research. A prenup is basically worthless. Women have no problems getting them thrown out. All she has to do is say she didn't understand it or she signed it under duress, and poof, it's gone. And you refusing to marry without one counts as her being under duress.
In fact, research why you, being a man, shouldn't get married. When you see just how the System, it's laws, and female nature are all against you, chances are you'll rethink marriage. Assuming you have any ability to use reason and logic, of course. Some men don't have the capacity.I would have absolutely no problem with a guy wanting a prenup. If I were going into a marriage with assets I wanted to protect, I would want a prenup for myself. Sure, it's unromantic, but it's practical and only in place for worst case scenarios. You can't predict the future and being safe now is always better than being sorry later.
yeah I would.. I don't see a problem with it.. of course marriage should be for love but we don't know the future.. and who knows how it might end.. so if he wants to protect his money then why not.. it's his money not mine.. I'd do the same with my money.. and people who say it's about trust and blah blah should really think again because if you're signing a prenup.. it basically makes sure one's not marrying the other for money.. hence there is more trust..
I wouldn't marry him. Not because I want his money at all but because he's already decided we'll end up divorced and I don't want to live with someone who's that negative about me. Why stay with someone or marry someone you don't trust?
No. Your already self prophecizing the end of our marriage. I dont need my spouse to be negative. Relationships already end because people see divorce as a thing that could happen.
You want a prenup that's cool but you aren't for me and you should find someone who is ok with it.I would marry him, and I do understand why a prenup is a clever thing to do. Many people don't believe they get divorced, but the end up doing it anyway. That is what makes marriage very tricky. But I still believe marriages can work, as my whole family is still married.
How I feel about prenups... it's clever, but I wouldn't appreciate it if it was my man's decision. I would never ever do these terrible things to my guy, and wanting a prenup sounds to me like he doesn't trust me enough.Yes, because he is entitled to keep what he has worked hard for. Refusing to sign one would suggest that the woman in question is bargaining on taking some of what's rightfully yours.
any guy without a prenup is a fucking moron of the highest order.
women initiate 70% of divorce. women are favored in divorce 7 to 1 (in USA and similar in Europe, australia, etc.)
nuff said... you shouldn't even get married but if you do, for fucks sake be a real man and protect yourself AND YOUR ASSETS.I would. Although i would be kinda hurt, because if he really does know me, he would know that I'm incapable of tricking him like that and leaving high and dry. He would also know that I'm not after riches. So that would make a prenup unnecessary if you're marry ing me.
I can understand where a guy may be coming from considering a lot of women nowadays do marry for money. I'd be a little upset and probably hurt he'd think I'm just marrying him for money and stuff. I don't know what I'd do unless I was in that situation.
Do you now what a prenuptial agreement is? It is a simple contract.
How much do you think it costs to defend a prenuptial agreement when it is contested in a court of law? No contract is iron clad, and yes they often are contested when large settlements can be found.
Don't believe me? Ask Ivana Trump.
Most attorneys will advise against a prenuptial agreement under most circumstances except where significant assets require it.
Just my opinionAs a future lawyer I have no problem, I would eagerly do that.
I agree, It is somehow as if we already plan to divorce, but that can have its pluses for us and our children.(If we have one)
I do not marry to get my husband's property, thus it shouldn't be a problem.I would and wouldn't take offense to it either. If a woman is offended by it then her heart isn't all the way in it and she doesn't respect you or your wishes and is looking to grab what she can if things go sour. Its good that you want to protect what's yours and on a side note keeping different bank accounts is always good too.
Seems fair to me. I've never understood why divorces dont already work like that. If you had something before the marriage, you should get to keep it. Maybe your future wife also has things that she wants to keep. Of course you would never assume divorce is going to happen, but there is nothing you can do if the other person wants one so you may as well protect yourself
Yea i would.. Id feel bad about it coz thats a sign u dnt trust me or u see a failure somwea along our marriage but am sure my love wld b strong.. Anyway, id also b a rich wife too so while you saving yourself incase of anything, ud also b saving me..
I'm not entirely sure. On one hand the idea makes me kind of uncomfortable, not because I want to take what isn't mine but rather the lack of trust I think. There's no way I would take my partners hard earnings like that. I think if I did get divorced, something that I sincerely hopes never happens in my life, I would rather discuss it and split everything fairly after the relationship ended, rather than during.
The only woman I would marry without a prenup is my ex-fiancée. She was a wonderful woman with a huge heart, and she was a hardcore devout traditional Catholic (pre-Vatican 2) for whom divorce was absolutely not an option that would even pass through her mind. There are a lot of Christians-in-name-only, but she was the real deal.
The only reason we broke up was because I fell away from Catholicism, and she couldn't compromise on anything, because she was so serious about her beliefs. She honestly should be a nun, but she wanted to marry and have children.
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