The question is simple. Would you date a married man who is elder to you?
Think of it the other way round. No matter what these feminists say, it is a man's world and it is a man's job to provide. A man needs more than one woman. Polygamy was practiced is many cultures. In modern times still men need love of an extra woman. Would you like to be that extra comfort woman knowing the fact that the modern laws don't allow him to marry you.
I am not talking about being a mistress. I am talking about a respectable girlfriend status from him and probably his family/wife?
The feminist IS CORRECT. Humans aren't naturally made for monogamy. In the ancient times, men HAD MULITPLE WIVES and it was the accepted norm. Or he had 1 wife then had kids with many other women. A lot of married people find themselves having crushes or being attracted to other people but they just don't act on it.
I have a lot of experience in dating scene, here's some reasons why married men cheat:
1. he wants attention, that his wife is not giving him. 2. he's been married way too long and is looking for some excitement on the side. 3. he's born a cheater. (rare but it still happens) 4. there are major problems in his marriage, his wife is unwilling to fix those issues.
Never date a married man because his heart is almost always on his wife's side. Trust me, if he didn't love his wife, he would leave her for you. He wouldn't still be going home back to his family every night, he would want to be with you. There is a saying "If a married man doesn't leave his wife in a month", that means he still loves her.
If you ever have a relationship with a married person, there is a good chance they are just stringing you along or playing you for their own selfish needs. They like you but they don't like you more than their spouse.
Generally married men who cheat are extremely selfish and don't give a crap about their mistresses. They're just using you. They don't care about your welfare. Their first priority is themselves then its their spouses. They tend to be good liars too.
What world do you live in where you think a man needs more than one woman? Men can hardly handle one woman at a time, much less two. All you are suggesting is "Double the fun, double the baggage". Besides, dating a married man is mostly going to be just for a hook up since he is already married. Or do you want to make him an adulterer and yourself a home wrecker? Because I'm not sure a married woman ( women being a bit jealous) is going to put up with it when there is a chance she might lose him to another woman
Unfortunately, I dont know very many family/wifes that would be alright with their husband having a "girlfriend". Then again that opens up the possibility of them having a "boyfriend". If it's an open marriage, that may be the difference between wedded bliss and a humdrum day in day out scheduled tue night "date night sex" . If all are in agreement and it enhances a regular relationship into a fantastic one, by all means, yes!
Nope that just doesn't seem right at all. The purpose of marrying a woman is because she is special to you and there is no one else out there like her in a way you complete each other and don't need anyone else.
Being married just doesn't mean you tie her down so she can't run as easily just for you to have multiple side chicks. Think someone need a reality check 🤪
Some people are poly or open, and it really is up to them how they see fit for their relationship. I resepct what you're saying, most marriages are seen as monogamous or sacred, but, each to their own. Who is anyone to judge?
No. I doubt I would date again anyway, but if I were to, it would be with a single, monogamous man only. If I couldn't find that, well, then I guess I'd stay single.
I’ve been married a couple of years now and we do pretty much this. So I’m in the Army, since I am in a combat trade I get deployed regularly. My husband isn’t in the army and is also unemployed (the company he was working for closed down). Rather than leaving for long periods of time and hoping that he doesn’t cheat we allow each other to see other people while I am away. That being said we don’t act like we are single and we do have rules about this such as you can’t see the person more than twice (ect). This isn’t something that could work for everybody though, it only works for use because of how open and honest we are with each other. We tell each other about every encounter and don’t hid things from one another. For us this is the only way in which we can make our relationship work as well as it does
I'm unsure of what culture you're living in. I've never heard of a wife who respects a man's woman on the side and whose family accepts them. That would be the most unusual open marriage I've ever heard of. It sounds more like a sister wives arrangement. I think it's incredibly complicated. Hard enough with just two people involved and their limited time schedules...
The idea of having that second woman is appealing, but I honestly don't know if I could handle it. I've dated two at the same time, (not with the intention of that happening, but it just did. (No sex involved)) and I've also been the other guy to a married woman. Absolutely terrible idea. Unless all three parties are alright with the idea, someone or all of them get hurt.
No. And I don't believe in polygamy nor your views that men need more than one woman. And by which law are you citing from saying that it's a man's job to provide? So, if a woman decides she will be the breadwinner of her family, who are we to deny her that right?
No matter what feminism says? If anything, they would be the one for multiple people in a marriage as its freedom of choice and isn't restricted. Personally, I would never. Dating more than one person at a time feels wrong to me and at marriage, you make a vow to love and treasure only them - how can you do that if you're splitting your time with another woman?
Nope sure wouldn’t. I don’t want to be with an attached man. I’d want him to be single and have him all to myself and vice versa. Plus it’s just really disrespectful to the wife, the idea of being with her husband and being a home wrecker.
@anon1903 sorry, she's in for a rude awakening and the saddest disillusionment. The married man may tell her that all the time, just to get sex from her, when he knows it's far from the truth; unfortunately, sometimes she gets pregnant for him and may still end up abandoned.
No, for the simple reason: what kind of married man dates another woman (besides the fact that it's wrong to be the "other woman"/"other man")? Who wants to get involved with a player? What's to stop him from playing with your emotions, dumping you when he no longer has any need/use for you (like it says in "Are Women the Stronger Sex?", free from obooko)? Who needs the drama?
As a straight, married male, not sure if this question applies to me but I don't get why a woman would date a married guy (putting aside open marriage type deals). Why would she date someone she knows to be a liar and a cheater?
Loads of married men fuck with prostitutes. Men going on business trips fuck prostitutes. I am just talking of a better option where a man who provides everything for the family, his needs are taken care of and he gets love from his girlfriend and not a prostitute.
Men from across the globe visit cheap ass countries like Thailand Philippines Malaysia Indonesia Dubai Bahrain Uzbekistan Ukraine Russia Brazil for sex. And they happily pay those girls. They lack some thing in their relationship with wife so they take service of a prostitute. What if the man is allowed to have some girlfriend and society gives the girlfriend same respect as wife.
So those sorts of weak minded men can't go a few months without sex so they risk breaking down an otherwise healthy relationship because of sexual greed? I'm sorry but the argument of "well, some guys visit hookers" isn't a very valid one when the issue is mostly with the guys.
Everyone is entitled to their opinion. But I see it this simple - If a man says - I want a poly relationship and a woman says she wants one, and then they have one. That's a commitment they agreed to and consented to. To say other wise is just silly.
@KaraMcNulty I look at it like this, consent is not permanent. There are a multitude of reasons why someone may enter and leave a poly relationship and far too many people are going to be too scared to speak up. So I prefer to blanket the whole idea as cheating disguised by disingenuous intent.
If it works for them and they are happy, that's all that matters. No matter how you sum up someone's relationship, it's theirs to deal with. Not for people to assume about. Poly or open relationships work for some people and that's up to them.
I only dated again a week before my divorce was finalised, we'd already signed a settlement agreement and I'd already got a court date. I was asked which was a huge surprise. She already knew I was getting divorced as my wife had an affair with one of her colleagues. The divorce was public knowledge.
I wouldn’t intentionally go into a relationship knowing that a guy was married. I want to be the only one so if I found out, I probably wouldn’t stay unless I knew he was going to leave her. I believe in karma and how you get them is how you lose them
Lol there were less men in comparison to women and since women didn’t have the right to own their own living, they married someone who did. Marriage was about money and resource access.
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