Would you date a divorced woman/man?

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CallMeDave · Accepted Answer

I would and I have - and not just once but twice. There are a lot of reasons that people get divorced and many of them don't mean that they can't be a good partner for someone else.

Sometimes perfectly fine people get divorced because their partner cheated on them or mistreated them or even abused them. In that case, there might not be anything wrong with the person that was cheated on or mistreated (other than that they were a bad judge of character when they chose their spouse).

Sometimes people get divorced because they married the wrong person and they find out in time that they just aren't compatible and aren't happy together. In that case, there might not be anything wrong with either of them and they could both be a good partner for someone that they're more compatible with, but they just aren't a good match for each other.

My girlfriend and I are both divorced. We were married to the wrong people and even though we made it work for a long time, we were incompatible with our exes and they didn't treat us well and eventually we left. We're a pretty good match for each other though and compatible in many ways. We both feel that we got a significant upgrade when we found each other even though we were both divorced.

In the case of my ex-girlfriend that was divorced when I dated her (long ago before I got married), she was a decent partner even though things didn't work out with us. (She ended up in a long term happy marriage later on.)

I think that in some cases someone that's been married before might actually be a better partner than someone that's never been married because they have experience with a marriage relationship and have seen what can go wrong and probably learned some things that will help them in future relationships.

A lot depends on the reasons for the divorce and how many there have been (more than one would concern me), but I certainly don't think that a single divorce that is not the result of a significant character flaw in the person I'm considering dating is any reason to reject someone.

curiousscorpio89 · Accepted Answer

I'm surprised how many woman say no, they wouldn't. A guy being married before means he's not scared of commitment. Also, I think there are other benefits that are worth noting. He has likely learned some tough lessons (we learn and grow the most from our failures). He's likely house broken. As in he knows the dynamics of having lived with a woman long term and that experience is invaluable.

50 percent of all marriages end in divorce and as you get older you are more and more likely to meet men/women who have kids and/or have been through a divorce. Why would you limit your dating pool to only people who haven't been married. Another thing worth pointing out, just because someone hasn't been married doesn't mean they haven't been through a traumatic breakup or have emotional baggage.

InventorofWarp · Answer

Um... yes.
I mean why WOULDN'T you?
I'm 24 and still a virgin waiting for the right woman and no matter what I'm gonna have my hang-ups that she didn't wait for me and dated around let alone married so who cares? Either way I'll have my own insecurities and baggage to unpack with her just like she will with me.
We unpack our shit together.
Plus I'd have to imagine a woman who's been married before would probably know how to suck dick and fuck like a champion and I'd be immensely happy to get to reap the benefits of her experience at the end of the day.
Hell I have a crush on my best friend and she's married, only way anything would ever happen is if she divorced.
But we're not gonna focus on that we just like things how they are.

Rab1901 · Answer

I said yes, meaning I technically would, but I definitely would have to know all the details about the past marriage and why and how the divorce happened as well. Since that would also take a lot of time, I would have to have a really good vibe from her and she'd have to confirm that she is absolutely spectacular in just about every way! No shame on divorced people but there are just so many nondivorced people out there that I feel like I'd be taking a big risk with my time, my money and my heart with a divorced person especially if she has kids. If she's been divorced twice, uhmm hmmm she'd basically have to have no flaws, not literally obviously but you get what I mean. If she's been divorced three or more times, yeahh you can forget it. I'm sure some may consider me shallow but I have to have these standards to weed out those who have terrible character and/or a terrible judgment of character.

Nawlins34 · Answer

The woman I'm engaged to, we both divorced our exes. It works because we were both able to accurately explain why our marriages failed. We were also both able to acknowledge that it wasn't entirely the other person's fault; we acknowledged how we messed up as well. We also showed how we corrected out own faults in failing those marriages.

If I were single, I'd be open if she could do the above.

1.) Explain why the marriage failed.
2.) Acknowledge she did something wrong to contribute to it failing
3.) Show the growth from those mistakes

I think the aforementioned are reasonable and if the person can't do those, they shouldn't be entertaining dating again until they can.

Just my opinion, thanks for the question. Be safe and good luck

Floppy2112 · Answer

This is really age and circumstance dependent. If I were back in my 20's I wouldn't even consider it. But now I expect it. I will actually be more suspicious of a woman who is 40, has never been married with no kids. Unless she came from some horrible situation where it just wasn't possible, what makes a woman start dating for marriage in their 40's. What kid of values does this woman have? I am betting it's not terribly person friendly. And if nobody wanted her before, why now? And exactly how high is that body count?

Anonymous · Answer

Would you with a guy? My guess is women grade harder in this area. I'm a firm believer in the marriage vows and i've said i'm taking that walk once and only once. So i'm going to be pretty damn sure when i marry hete she's the ine for me. And if she divorces me for whatever reason i will never marry again period!
The amount of relationships a woman has had says a lot about her. The more she's had the less likely i am to date het. Because i'm serious when i do it. If she's a serial dater she's not for me. And if she's been married before we don't view marriage the same already.

Dazed0N0Confused · Answer

I'm divorced, it would ve wrong of me to say "no" to someone else who is also divorced.
Sometimes people marry & things just don't work out.
I just don't go for people who have kids, nothing against them, I just am not ready for children, or the drama if guy & momma aren't on good footing...

HawkPerception · Answer

I wouldn't as of right now, however I'm 27. I'm sure later in life it would be much harder to find a woman that doesn't have kids so at that point (probably around when I'm 35) I may just embrace the fact that I most likely won't have kids of my own and I'll be raising someone else's.

alexander3244 · Answer

If she admits that she did something wrong in the previous marriage (s) and convinces me that she learned from it (showing how mature she is) then I probably would be interested if her ex husband won't murder me. But if she's like "I'm so pretty, I'm so beautiful, I'm a victim, it's all his fault!", even if that's true I'll probably pass on her or perhaps demand direct answers from the start on what exactly she wants and how she sees future with me and then we'll see.

Miristheiss · Answer

Well I am married, hence I would only be in that spot if I were a widower or I become divorced. In that case yes.

When I was single still looking for a wife...100% no. I was never going to marry for the first time and be her 2nd or 3rd husband.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

I have many times. From about 19 on the number of divorced women I met seemed to out pace the number of never married women. Then in my late 20’s to early 30’s the number of women with multiple divorces I met began to out number women with only one divorce and the never married woman was added to the endangered species list. Even rarer is the never married woman with no kids. The only one I know was my last ex.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes and IF with a kid (prefer not) it depends how the kid is raised. If is a trouble maker nope not going waste my time. If is a kid that is sweet and comprehensive. Then yes. Yes if is a baby.

I swear there is moms dont pay attention to thier kids while texting or selfies, the kid crossing the street or throwing rocks at cars or people.

Also, 4 little kids and single mom. Varies but I wouldn't even bother.

DiscomfortZone · Answer

I'm happily married, but at the time we met, had my wife been a divorced woman I couldn't have cared less. I honestly don't understand those weirdos who think being divorced makes a person "damaged goods" or in any way lowers their value.

MillenniumBill · Answer

Probably not. Stats show divorcees are several times higher to separate sooner in relationships than those who are single to begin with. I probably would but not get my hopes up.

kboy808 · Answer

Of course! Why would you not! In my eyes marriage is just a piece of paper that legally bonds two people for tax purposes. And That's it, no more no less. Are you interested in someone that's divorced or getting divorced?

Ace_Chidorigafuchi · Answer

Of course. my dms are open.
To be frank, let's narrow it done to what really the question should be... Does the divorced woman have children? If so, still yes. If she takes care of herself and handles her business I am about that cougar life.

menina · Answer

Sure, why not? I have nothing against divorce and just because his last relationship didn't work, it doesn't mean that is not going to work with me.

shade_19 · Answer

One of the most foolish thing is to judge someone on their r past

Whatever2929292 · Answer

It would depend on who she is now and WHY she got divorced. If she cheated on her husband... Not a good sign not going to lie. But if she was the one cheated on then yes.

FatherJack · Answer

No , and separated , but not divorced for years. I don't want to date at all , no bitterness towards women at all , I have a daughter I adore , it's because peace is more important now , prefer own company & no real desire to " date " .

erandal · Answer

I would, I did, and we have now been married nearly 18 years.

Alyssa11 · Answer

I’m still so young with no actual long term relationship experience. My longest relationship was 8 months lolol. I can’t date a divorced person.

volleyball_bigirl · Answer

If they are actually divorced I don't see a problem with it, if they are "separated" or trying "different things" then no

Doctor_Strix · Answer

With a divorce rate of about 50% in the US. It’s a hard thought to think of how you couldn’t date someone who is divorced.

allison368 · Answer

Difficult time sensitive matter; as you get older you have fewer never married people to choose from.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Yes of course lol. sitting that category, I’ve had a fair bit of dating and general fucking around.

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

If they tick the boxes, then yeah. Ideally though, I'd prefer someone who's never dated before, because I haven't either.

Nik1hil · Answer

Sure why not..  If she meets my standards both physically and mentally...  And over her Ex and wants to have a new life with me.

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

No, I feel like I'm way too young to be with a divorced man

scott04sa22 · Answer

I would date a divorce women but they won't date me though because I don't drive and I won't be able for life

FreyaRed · Answer

Yes, If I am divorced.  I'm not even married yet, therefore nope.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

No. Its against my religion (Christianity) to marry a divorcee as long their original spouse is still alive.

Avicenna · Answer

Yeah, but not one who has been divorced three times

Dman19 · Answer

Yes of course! They need love ad much or more then anybody else. You just have to be very careful to not hurt then in any way and you need to watch there feeling and pamper them even more if it was a toxic relationship they came out of.

chukio · Answer

It's all in the past hopefully and we all learn from our mistakes.

exitseven · Answer

Maybe if she had kids it would be a dealbreaker. Also if she had been divorced 2 or three times.

Glasgow55 · Answer

W hy wouldn't you? I'm divorced, as was the woman who became my second wife, 12 years ago. We're blissfully happy and in love.

SirJohn42 · Answer

Well if we get along. We know each other well. We oleach others past. We make a connection and enjoy each others company. Then yes.

GoldenTulip · Answer

No i would not. Only if i was married and divorced myself. But i haven't been married yet.. so i wish to be someone's first and hopefully last bride.

Anonymous · Answer

Probably not. Women file the vast majority of divorces and I think it says a lot about their character. Why would I intentionally put myself in that picture?

Flirt254 · Answer

The baggage they carry... I would just date not seriously though

ioxide · Answer

I mean.. I don't see a reason not to? Just because somone's marriage doesn't work out doesn't mean they can't have another chance with someone else who might be even better for them than the ex spouse

Pete671 · Answer

Date yes, probably not marry they have too much baggage,,,

Cicero79 · Answer

I would. My issue would be if she had kids. That means there will always be another man in the picture.

jakejacobson110 · Answer

Divorced women are great at sex. So much more willing to put the work in.

Tomtom9090 · Answer

Im sure anyone would especially if they are put together.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Yes, but only if no children are involved. Basically I don't date single mothers.

Brownbored · Answer

U need a connection with the partner.. doesn't matter if they divorced before

najekim · Answer

My wife is my third one and I'm her second husband. So yeah.

Cowboy6666 · Answer

yes i would date if we both have some chemistry we might marry too

Juxtapose · Answer

I don't respect people who take marriage vows and then can't keep them, sorry.

krin_m · Answer

Yes. I have in the past and am currently dating someone who is divorced.

lucid_dreamer_ · Answer

Yes. I would love to console the person and to make them smile again.

haiwhw · Answer

Yes I would date her but my age isn't that much so can't marry her 👉👈😐

Elezabeth03 · Answer

As long as they are really divorced I don’t need the spouse walking in on us.

Anonymous · Answer

I would date a married woman, so i know she will be gone in the morning.

supercutebutt · Answer

Is a woman/man kinda like a ladyboy?

burlen · Answer

For the right reasons, yes I would date.

Outofthegrey · Answer

Only if they don't have a child.

VanillaSalt · Answer

Their divorced for a reason.

BobbyC65 · Answer

I would have sex with a divorced woman/man. 💞

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