Would you date a person who has been divorced twice?

[Logorithim]

This isn't applicable to me, by the way, just asking out of curiosity.

[Alwaysthinking14]

I think it would be silly. I know people that have had six or seven failed long term relationships in a 20 year span that never made it to marriage. Yet I know people that have been in two marriages in that same amount of time. Does that mean you won’t be with the divorcée because they actually went through the trouble of getting the court papers? Relationships fail and to me a person that has had six or seven long term partners is much worse catch than someone who actually married two of their partners and failed.

[Alwaysthinking14]

Thanks for the MHO!

[StingRayxoxo]

I'd be very interested in the why. I wouldn't completely rule it out though.

[StingRayxoxo]

Thanks for MHO

[hellacray]

Well does she have kids?

I mean I'm only 29 if she's around my age and already got divorced twice that's a really big red flag.

If she also has kids with the two guys, then that would be a resounding never.

I mean hell I do not want to deal with that kind of a head ache.

[Logorithim]

Kids, especially with two different fathers, would complicate things.

[hellacray]

Yeah no... That's not gonna work for me.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

It would depend.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Thanks for MHO!

[Iwant2kno]

I don’t think so, I think that serves as reference that that person has failed to maintain a relationship and has made “poor decision” in the past and they might be carrying some luggage from those past relationships too. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[ChiTown33]

Just curious. Does this opinion stand with you for both genders. Or just guys?

[Iwant2kno]

I think it’s a statement that can apply to both genders.

[Logorithim]

You also don't want to stay forever in an unhappy relationship

[Iwant2kno]

@Logorithim I totally agree with you. In the relationship there is always the good and the toxic, let’s just say that the toxic is the most difficult to date especially if he/she has divorced twice and have not changed their learned behaviors. It’s only natural that everyone seeks for a healthy relationship and happiness, but it’s also natural to avoid those that don’t seem to change their habits or that simply don’t learn from past experiences.

[PrudentGuy]

If there are kids or baggage that came with the divorce, then no. I'm simply not ready for those burdens.

But if no kid and just a little legal baggage that I could cope, then why not if I love the person? That divorcee is probably wiser now and our future may work because I'm different from her ex.

[Ellie-V]

Usually by that time the person would be older than me 😂 so hell no on the simple fact that I only get with people my age.
But hypothetically, if the person was my age, I’d think that they have shitty taste in partners and that I’m the improvement 😉 so it’d be cool with me—unless they are shitty themselves of course

[Miristheiss]

No. I wouldn't date a person who has been divorced once.

If I ever end up divorced myself and was looking again and was in an older dating bracket than I'd open it up to divorced people.

Up till now that has always been a deal breaker. I've turned down dates over this before.

I've never been married, my fiancé has never been married which is the only way I would have done it.

[taco_truck]

Maybe depends on why they divorced.

I would say yes if they got divorced because the partner left them for a younger girl. Which means she will most likely cater to you and try to please you more. Which most likely she will not cheat.

No if they divorced because she kept sleeping around or was abusive to their significant other.

[BrittBratt2416]

No, that tells me something is seriously wrong. If you can't make it work once or twice then marriage might not be for you.

[ChiTown33]

He said daye not marry

[BrittBratt2416]

@ChiTown33 yeah i know, I'm saying i would not date them if they been divorce twice. That's two major failed relationships. If im dating you the goal is eventually get married and sense this person has already failed two marriages there's no point in even dating them.

[ChiTown33]

How bout a guy who takes that attitude with a woman who's been married twice? That she's not worth the gamble?

[BrittBratt2416]

@ChiTown33 Sure. Avoid anyone who's been married more than twice or has a track record of failing relationships.

[ChiTown33]

Lol that's a pretty short list at my age. I hear what your saying bun some women make the same miatakes over and over again. Doesn't necessarily make them bad people.

[Logorithim]

@ChiTown33: I'm of the opinion that we all have a past (of course that doesn't mean everything goes). Not sure I would have said that in my 20s, though.

[ChiTown33]

Agreed

[BrittBratt2416]

@ChiTown33 Not a bad person, just not responsible or avoids learning from the past.

[Logorithim]

Once you reach a certain age you will usually have some failed relationships

[Bluemax]

Perhaps. It does raise certain flags though, doesn't it?

[Logorithim]

It would definitely be something to discuss with her in great detail to ensure you are comfortable getting into a relationship.

[greengeese]

I feel like it would definitely make me more wary in considering the relationship, and I probably wouldn’t get involved until I talked to him about his past relationships.

[spartan55]

Lol you are Mr. Set the Record Straight!
I would have to consider the circumstances of her divorces. I wouldn't rule her out automatically without discussing what happened etc.

[Nataliewin]

Lmao depends on what date implies. I would probably not expect anything long term considering his "record " but if I was attracted to him sure I would see him. And who knows... he could've just been unlucky and met wrong girls

[GuidoThePizzaMaker]

This is tough. I think at my age its a bit ridiculous lol!
But assuming I am older and the woman is, I dont see why not. I would be open to dating her if she showed some genuine qualities, but I definitely wouldn't be in a rush to marry her lol.

[Sonorous]

Yeah! Just wouldn't get married...

[SongBird3]

If you get divorced twice, your more than 90% likely to get divorced again. Not gonna take my chances

[MissKittyz]

Nope I wouldn't unless I'm like in my 50s lol so guess it really depends. One divorce is fine but 2? I don't know.

[Agirlcalledkill]

It depends on the age. If we're 50 or 60 and he has divorced twice yes, if he's 30/40 and divorced twice probably not

[ChiTown33]

I love how many women have answered "no" here. And for the record i don't blame them. If he' had 2 failed marriages then why wouldn't you be the 3rd. The funny part is i'm betting most of you don't hold women to the same standard. The guy risks just as much if not more everytime he says i do. I'm sure by a guy passing on a woman of the same situation you'd say he's being ridiculous.

[Mickey9999]

Yes. I’d like to know the reason behind the divorces but unless cheating is involved, it always takes two to make a relationship work...

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

No. #1: Is against my religion of Christinity to mess around with a divorcee.

#2: Even if I wasn't a Christian I still won't deal with such a woman. Obviously the writing is on the wall that woman has problems where she can't keep a man.

[BlackRoseFairy]

I will only say that you shouldn't judge a book by it's cover...

[Ámayas_20]

Depends on the situations of the divorces, but it's unlikely.

[TheBlasian]

That's a pretty good indicator that something is wrong with them

[Tannhauser]

Would you buy a car that's been in two accidents?

Well people are more complex than cars. Lots of things in life happen. I think I would give that person a chance, but it would raise a potential red flag

[Anonymous]

Nope.. my cut off is once.. the way I see it once it could have been either persons fault, twice it's likely their fault.. and they need to reflect and see what they are doing wrong in life.

[StellarDrift]

Would depend on the circumstance. Probably not though. I've seen where that goes. Also, alimony sucks. I won't be their casualty of war.

[Lance1965]

Nope, that is another lesson I learned the hard way. Even one divorce can be a red flag.

[pizzalovershouse]

can't say I usely date oeople who are in a good state of mind

[Anonymous]

Nope. Wouldn’t even date a guy who’s been divorced once.

[Argyro00]

I’d probably date her depends on her age to. If there divorce twice before 30 probably not.

[Cokebottle2]

Are you bi or gay?

[Heygirl124]

I think it would depend as to what caused the divorces. But chances are I’d probably steer clear.

[xkforcesc2]

It depends on why. That said, the best predictor of the future tends to be the past.

[Secret6620]

Yes I would date 👍😇

[Hurdleez-Swampede]

Most likely not. I could be one of her divorced men later.

[PoohBoy38]

I think it would be really silly to date someone whose been divorced twice!

[DECENTSCOTTISHLAD999]

l would not date a woman like that that's just my choice

[Anonymous]

If I was older, obviously, I wouldn't be opposed to it.

[stf75013]

No, to much emotional baggage to handle.

[owens97]

it depends how long i already been dating them

[Pulimuli]

Date? Sure
Marry? Hell no

[LuvAsh]

Nah.

[codycccccccccc]

Nope

[Wowgirl30q]

Sure

[ChiPaPa]

Probably not.

[Twalli]

Not one who is near my age.