Would you date/marry someone who makes less money than you or is less successful?

[Anonymous]

I would

I wouldn't

[MementoMori_]

Study after study shows that women aren't interested in marrying men who earn less than they do. It's a national crisis that no one wants to talk about. It has to do with why the out of wedlock birth rates are so high in minority communities and the subsequent crime and depravity in those communities caused by this phenomena. The men in those communities aren't earning enough and the women aren't interested in marrying them.

Women like men to be the primary breadwinners in a relationship. They may say they don't, but reality proves otherwise.

We are going through this silly period -- a mere speck of time in history -- of thinking that we can somehow ignore biology, DNA and 200,000 years of the evolution of modern man, and that women and men are identical. It's a farce, a flash in the pan fad. What turns women on is a man with power... and power is another word for money. Either consciously or subconsciously they want men to be the breadwinners -- to bring home the woolly mammoth. It's just that some are so brainwashed by this faddish misnomer that men and women are identical they are too lost to be self aware enough to get it.

[CallMeDave]

As long as she's a good person and we get along well and she's making a serious effort to contribute to the relationship in some way and is financially responsible, then I don't really care much about her income or status level.

I wouldn't want someone that just want to sit around and have fun all the time while I work and I wouldn't want someone that can't manage money and spends more than necessary or than she can afford though especially if it's money I've earned that she's spending foolishly.

[btbc92]

It's not about the money. But whether or not they are going to college and is going to work hard to take care of the family. As a rule, if they don't have their own place, make a certain amount to take care of themselves and possibly others, if they have no room for YOU, can't or refuse to advance, do NOT get married to them. Don't even shack up with them before marriage. Not that you should do it period. They have to be prepared to take on another person. That is one of the main reasons that affected one of my friend's marriage now. Prepare EARLY while you are young! Stop waiting till late 20's or over 30 to get your act together, nobody is going to wait for you to get with the program. That is my advice.

[xellax]

This is likely inevitable for me eventually. Currently my boyfriend makes around 80k a year, and I’m living the student life with a part time job while I complete med school.

Once I graduate I will surpass my boyfriend’s earning capacity pretty quickly. I have no problem with that, as long as he isn’t just being a bum and not contributing at all.

[nathanp97]

Are you sure about surpassing him quickly. When you first start you will likely be making around 40, 000 and working an insane amount of hours. You also likely have some serious student debt. Maybe I'm wrong and it likely depends on where you live.

[xellax]

I’m in Australia. Base salary for an intern in my state is 76k not including rostered and unrostered overtime, weekend, public holidays etc. Most of my doctor friends made >100k in their intern year.

[nathanp97]

Dam, in the US and Canada that isn't the case😂

[BeMuse]

@nathanp97 Average U. S. medical resident earns $59,300 (USD). She's most likely giving you the salary in Australian dollars so 76k = $52,620.88 (USD).

If she means

52620.88

[BeMuse]

lol guess that last part got pushed out of the textarea...

[BlackCatxD]

I would never in my life be with an idiot who's only after my finance anyways. This is why i'm picky af. If a girl likes me for who I am and not care whether I'm broke or a billionaire, I'd literally give my life for her. Most men don't really care about women finance even if they make really low income themselves but for some reason there are "some" picky lazy bitches who only see men as paychecks and not actual humans. This also applies to BOTH genders, if you're gold digger you're a piece of shit.

[Spawnface]

At this point I feel like producing anything great in myself is a bust. Money has never played a role in developing great people. I'd be solely concerned with having a good mother for kids I would wish to shape into great people, so. Money means very little to me, in fact because of that I don't have much anyways. But nonetheless, the only purpose of money is power, and that power is ultimately useless in proper spousal relationships.

[RetroAlpha]

You do realize that pretty much EVERY marriage has one partner that earns more than the other, right? Male or female, it doesn't matter. Unless you both work the same job for the same employer, odds are, one of you makes more than the other.

[Mya_petrop]

To me it doesn’t matter or ever cross my mind about that. I wouldn’t care if I made more money or if he made less money than me. What really matters to me is if I love him. If I have to make the money, I will.

[Walkerrose]

I would just leave my SO just cuz he would get paid less than I would. Though if he's gonna slouch around and do nothing , like no work nothing, im would give him chance to get back , if he doesn't then we would end.

[Grimoxford]

More then likely I already make more money a year then probably 80% of the users that have a job on this app. So why would it be a problem for me if she makes less then me?

[alice55]

I wouldn't, I only earns 500 euros and I'm at the bottom of the job stuff so we wouldn't be able to live at all.

[NekoTheCookie]

Who gives a shit? You love them they love you. The relationship is healthy. You guys get married and done. Money isn't everything my guy

[Phanta]

Yes absolutely. I wouldn't want my wife to make more than me. I'm the man, and it would be humiliating.

[spunkygiraffe]

Well, its a 50/50 chance, one of us will make less, and it won't make me upset if it's them, as long as they're trying!

[sassygirl13]

He is already working many years before me and would assume he would make more money or he is settling for mediocre jobs

[Anonymous]

it really depends... in general, i always seek out partners who i admire (either it being a quality they possess or they are more successful then me). so, as long as i still could admire them and aspire to be mroe like the, i would.

[Bananaman177]

Like a struggling artist who's so ahead of his time that marketability is eluding him?

Every guy is like that to a certain extent, though. I mean unless you win the genetic lottery or your last name is Rockefeller, every guy has to struggle for a long time to get anywhere in life, and when you start out at the bottom, everything is hardest.

You can't tell where a guy is gonna be in ten years by where he is now.

[Opinion Owner]

@Bananaman177 yea, i really agree with you. and the same is true for me. that's why i look more at how they behave in general/what their aspirations are. either way, i would never stay with someone who didn't make me want to improve myself. so, they have usually have to bring out that drive in myself in a sense haha

[Bananaman177]

You know, I've been working steadily the last 12 years or so and right now, I'm working five hours a day, making twice as much money as I used to make working 8 hours a day, and the hardest thing I do right now is easier than the easiest thing I had to do when I started.

But the guy who I am, the beating heart inside of me, what made me work to achieve this success, is the same now as it was 12 years ago. It's just sickening to me how many girls treated me like dirt because of my lowly station all those years, but the guy they were looking down on is the same guy who now makes way more money barely doing anything at all.

And my trajectory is still upwards, it's starting to rise much faster now, I don't have to wait years and years of struggle before every success and every benchmark, everything is coming together by itself and I'm mostly riding the momentum now. And all the guys my age are pretty much in the same boat. And when you talk to anyone of us, all we think of women is that they're golddiggers and they don't want to build a winning team when they can just team up with a winner.

That's sad. You've created a whole generation of young men coming into the flower of manhood and already completely and totally jaded and cynical about love and romance. That's the saddest thing in the world, and it's women who'll be the saddest for it.

[Daniel3035]

No and can’t afford to. There would never be closure on whether one day she’ll leave me with the kids and get child support and go for the real man she wants.
If she’s similar or richer than I will say yes because why would she has money herself.

[Kayla45]

Not really about money, that doesn't matter, I wouldn't if he had literally no goals to improve though.

[Robbey]

I make quite a bit more money than my husband does.

It's a non-issue.

[Anonymous]

Yep! I'm in college and on my way to a higher paying career (computer science), and dating a guy who is aiming to become a teacher. Nothing wrong with that.

[jessture]

Depends on how much and why. Is she passionate about a career path that pays less? I'm fine with that. Does she have no more aspirations than being a cashier at WalMart? Bye Felicia.

[TacosRAwesome]

Depends on how much I'm making. Currently I wouldn't because I make the minimum amount to be comfortable. If I made more I might.

[Asker]

Then pls click on the " I wouldn't " option.

[itsaniaks]

I don't care how much money my girl makes. I just want her to be happy and proud with what she does.

[Pink2000]

I already know my boyfriend won’t make anything close to what I’m making in the future so yeah. I’d marry someone who makes less than me.

[midnightmoon05]

I have... its not an issue
i look at the person as a whole...

[Anonymous]

Yeah I would and I always have made more, any woman that makes more than me is never interested in me or out of my league anyway

[Dark93]

Yes. Even if it's not as much as I make or more than I make we can use our combined income to eventually get an apartment or house without struggling to buy food on our own every week.

[Anonymous]

Yeah but I’d just feel insecure. I hear people use others for money and I’m honestly kinda naive sometimes so...

[Bandit74]

Not unless the laws change so I won't get fucked over in divorce court.

[Lightning8]

If you need money for sex/relationship that's prostitution. Just make it work and make commitment a value again.

[clampfan101]

It would take some hard work to be less successful than me in any way. lol
But seriously, I wouldn’t care.

[Lance1965]

Yes as long as she is doing something. Welfare moms are the worse if they are capable of working but choose not to.

[KiaTate]

As long as he is putting in the effort and actually going to work I would be ok with it.

[pleasestopthis]

Well... I don't measure success in terms of money, so yes I would marry someone who makes less.

[Anonymous]

Ya do not care about that. If the person is happy doing their job--that is what counts.

[Locha037]

What has someones personal income have to do with dating?

[Anonymous]

95 percent of guys are stupid lol then with a divorce rate that's 50% on average guys really like setting themselves up to get taken to the cleaners in divorce and alimony and child support

[Millesa80]

Normally people making little money have little education so nooo

[Lightning8]

If a bachelor's degree is "little education" to you then I can see what you mean

[Millesa80]

@Lightning8 where was the bachelor degree

[CoffeeWC]

I would. You can't reach for something that you already have. I can help her reach that.

[Anonymous]

No, because you don't want someone who will sponge off you.

[Praec]

That's a diplomatic way of saying "I want to sponge off them" lol

[Opinion Owner]

@Praec No it isn't - I will soon be in a high paid profession, I want to date someone on the same level.

[Anonymous]

No way. Now that women are more than equal to men, I expect women to support me

[NicolaD]

Money isn’t everything love is

[MayBlythe]

I'm engaged to someone who makes less than me

[ArrowheadSW]

If I were the marrying type, I would consider it.

[CT_CD]

Most men would and most women wouldn't

[Poormanscomedian]

Yes, but most women marry up

[magzz]

no it doesn't matter at all to me

[John_Doesnt]

No, I want a sugar momma because I hate working.

[jacquesvol]

She makes less but her pension will be higher

[Anonymous]

Not a problem with me

[Anonymous]

Does not matter to me.

[Sha84]

never have yet probably never will

[Iron_Man]

Yeah that's not a problem

[1828avaava1828]

Sometimes I think it's haunted inside this house

[blackassasin123]

Money is money. Love is the strongest.

[MarketData]

Actually I'd prefer it. They could be my slave.

[Muhammad1999]

I have no problem , even if she had no job at all

[Anonymous]

Money isn't the most important thing...

[Pex1993]

As long as we love each other it doesn't matter

[Slim57]

Yeah of course or more money doesn't matter

[BeMuse]

Sure.

[SarahsSummer]

Of course.

[Anonymous]

my booty call makes more than me rn

[AngelLily]

Ya definitely.