I don't want to invite anybody for my wedding. Is this a nonsense idea?

[sheikalana]

I plan on getting married in the future. However, I'm not planning on having a wedding ceremony nor a very expensive wedding dress. The main reason is because I want this day to be all about me and my husband and that's it. No guests, no strangers, just us two. I'm planning to announce my engagement but I'm not planning to announce when I'm getting married or invite anyone to my wedding and this includes not telling family that I'm getting married until we're officially husband and wife. Is this a non sense idea?

[talka20]

I won't say it as nonsense for abvious reason that u just want u two n thats it on that day... but not telling your family n really really close people is kinda not right thing to do in my opinion... they should know cuz its (your wrdding n you) part of their life too i believe... they should be told n spent time with even if its for very less time but still... there presence is important in my opinion when u are getting married... im not saying it should be so much money spent or gifting or calling so mny people... just at time of getting married they should be there... maybe like only the main moment n then after very small celebration they can leave.

[sheikalana]

The thing is that it won’t even be possible for them to be present because we live in different countries and I know my family can’t afford a trip to the US (where I plan on getting married) so even if I wanted to have them there I’m afraid that wouldn’t be possible.

[talka20]

But what about letting them know and facetime if possible?

[sheikalana]

I don’t want to do that. I just want to enjoy the day with my husband and no one else. Is that selfish of me?

[talka20]

Yea i feel so... to some extent

[chriss]

Everyone does it the way they want, some people do this to save money and it makes sense. It depends on the couple and every culture does it differently

[AmandaYVR]

I think not telling your family is not a good idea. It seems a bit... unkind.
Have they caused issues in the past, not allowing you to make your own decisions, live your life?
Almost all parents would be upset, feel excluded.
But as far as not having a wedding, it being just for you two, I think that's perfectly fine. It's the smarter financial decision too.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Not nonsense at all.

I'm going to do something similar. A very small, intimate civil ceremony and then a larger reception that's more of a big, informal celebration.

It's your day. Do what you want to make it special for you and your husband to be.

[Justme1533]

That’s the way I went and it was lovely. It’s still your day, you and your hubby to be 😉. Besides, you can always have a party later! Or a small vow renewal if you feel like you missed out on the “wedding” experience. You do you!

[Anonymous]

That actually sounds like a good idea; not spending all that time planning it out and not wasting all that money. Though I thought you were supposed to have witnesses? So maybe just your parents and his.

[sheikalana]

Then I might need to find somebody else as witnesses. If my parents are supposed to be there I know the rest of my family would want to be there too lol.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Call your parents at least lol so they can make signature during register marriage as proofs..

[sheikalana]

I'm planning to drop the bomb either a few hours before the weeding or immediately after the wedding lol.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Conservative parents?

[sheikalana]

A bit. But they're also living in a different country.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

It would be heart breaking afterall they gave birth and raised you, every parent wants to see there child's marriage it's like there dream lol so why not invite any reason in particular asking not to be invasive but curious

[sheikalana]

Because honestly and as I said I want this moment to be just about me and my husband.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Enjoy 👍🎊

[sheikalana]

Thanks.

[codyccc]

You will need two people as witnesses for the paperwork

[sheikalana]

One of the witnesses will be the photographer the other one I don’t know lol.

[codyccc]

That won't work your witnesses must know you really well because someone wear in the paperwork it will say something like do you know of any reason why these two can't be married and a witness you don't know wouldn't know that

[sheikalana]

Oh I see didn't know about it.

[Sargentcaptain]

I agree that involving strangers and distant relatives in such things is stupid, but you should really be there with you parents and a close friend or two.

[Madhatter920]

Not at all. It's your day. Do with it as you please.

[humanearth]

I love the idea, but you do need two people for wittinesses

[ChocoBrownieMonster]

uhhh i wanted to be a bridesmaid, so dissapointed!

[shortster]

I hope I marry a girl like you.

[In_Trance]

It's your wedding; do it your way

[Lynx122]

Do what you like :)

[jimmy2]

Well go to a judge then

[asshole_]

Yeah