Would you leave your partner if they weren't ready for marriage?

[Anonymous]

So my boyfriend and I have been together for 7 years we're engaged now. He wanted to wait til I get more money to get married so now I do (a lot more + a house) and he claims he isn't. This is frustrating and feels like he's wasting my time. Marriage is important to me, it makes me feel bad when friends and family ask when's the date and I don't even have an answer. I don't see the point in getting engaged if he's still skeptical.

[Heartache0405]

If you really loved him, truly loved him, then marriage wouldn't be so important. Because if he didn't want to get married but you did than clearly you two aren't meant for each other. If you actually loved him you'd stay regardless of whether you end up married or not. Seems as though there's some kind of benefit you've been waiting for that will come with marriage... That he isn't sure whether you'll utilize for your own gain or not. I think he's being smart by stalling. You clearly care more about the benefits of marriage than who you would be marrying

[shaysh87]

Listen girl , if a man truly wanted to marry you, he would MARRY you. It won’t matter if he can afford a house , car , etc. i have seen poor men marry their wives at 23, can’t afford an apartment so he moves in with her parents. If a man truly wanted to marry you, he would marry you.

this so called “boy” of yours is just looking for excuses to not marry you. He probably is still very young and wants to enjoy his freedom of hanging out with girls before he gets hitched. He’s not ready to take on the responsibility of marriage

7 years is more than enough to figure out whether or not you want to marry someone. I advise you move on

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

No, I wouldn’t, and it wouldn’t happen because we have previously discussed in the very beginning that we both want our relationship to progress into marriage. We have shared morals, values, and outcomes for our relationship. If we did not have the same view on marriage, I wouldn’t continue a relationship with them.

[UniquelyBasic]

Marriage is a huge deal to you and not for him given youve been together for 7 years. Id say call it off with him if he doesn't want to marry you but that doesn't make him a bad person, he just doesn't want that right now.

[Asker]

That's fine if he's not ready, I am. I'm just tired of waiting

[UniquelyBasic]

Both of your values dont match up in this point in time. If you can't live without being legally married to your partner then its time to go your own ways. This will help you both avoid a unhappily ever after situation if he goes against his core values which will leave both of you unfulfilled.

[AwesomeCookie]

I think you both need to talk to make sure you're on the same page. Marriage is nothing if you both do not have the same goals or vision for your future

[CelineBV]

Have you been living together? If so that's your main answer why he's postponing marriage forever. 7 years is too much and if you don't watch your timing, you're soon going to be 25+ years old and have less time to have kids.

[Anonymous]

of course id throw away 7 years because my partner won't rush into marriage. everyone knows being married instantly changes everything, that little certificate will change your lives, jk you're impatient, and a little immature. if you're 18-24 and trying to rush into marriage simply because "weve been together for 7 years" then you have a mental issue, you waited 7 years, wait another 7.

[honeynut-scenarios]

7 years? Have you asked him if money is the real reason, or if he’s just buying time.

[petitedollbabee]

Nah, neither of us want to be married. It’s just an expensive slip of paper and ceremony of PDA in our eyes.

[AlwaysBelieving]

This reads that you should stop this dating relationship.

Side note, 7 years is a long time, especially since it shows you're in the 18-24 age range.

[Alyssa_11]

After 7 years then yeah probably. But also depends how old you are.

[jahaims]

That wouldn't happen. We discussed all of our values, morals and goals prior to being in a serious relationship.

[YoitsEl_Baby]

yessirrr

[myabe123]

I know how you feel. But we must remind ourselves the average age to get married is now 33.

[myabe123]

i was almost married twice... but could not do it cause i did not love them... and it was somethinq i desired

[Anonymous]

He wanted to wait until you had more money? He’s a man, correct?

[Jltakk]

Naw, I'd stay with them.

[Anonymous]

end it then.

[moonpie89]

Honestly? Yes.

[Henry_-_Blakes]

Yes.