How hard is finding a man to marry in your 30's?

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caring__1 · Accepted Answer

This all depends on what you're seeking, what you bring to the table and what you're willing to do to raise your odds of it happening. Unless a guy is looking to use you while you're new and then toss you aside, most guys will avoid women who feel entitled to receive from a relationship. Superficial specific physical characteristics often lose their value when they become familiar, or they may change in time. I'm talking about things out of a person's control, not their pattern of self-care.

Never assume what you see as value in yourself will be seen as valuable to a partner. You may believe you're bringing value with your OCD tendencies to have a spotless house, yet he may prefer the house looking lived in and you enjoying time with him. Choose a partner who values what already exists in you rather than mold yourself into what you believe he wants.

How often has Publisher's Clearing House knocked on your door and told you that you've just won multi-millions of dollars? The likelihood of your ideal partner knocking on your door is just as remote. Make yourself known to others. Get involved in organizations that promote something you feel strongly about; volunteer to help others; share your creative talents; promote community activities (community gardens, cleanup activities, enhancement activities, hiking trail construction or maintenance, etc.).

Though guys may like looking at you, looks alone can often be just as likely to be a liability as an asset. If a guy believes you look out of his league, he may pass on the opportunity to connect with you. Focus your energy on showing people with your actions rather than prioritizing how you look. Portray yourself for what guys can expect as the norm for you, not what they'll see on special occasions.

Age has nothing to do with the challenges of finding a special partner to connect with. Connecting is challenging at all ages, as people tend to be too self-focused to be healthy partners. Learn the signs to look for and stay observant and realistic. See people as they are rather than the potential they can become. If you just want someone with a penis, there will always be plenty to choose from at any age. Finding a special connection requires more effort.

virginloserguy · Accepted Answer

I do not think it is any more complicated than getting a man in your 20s. When they say that, I am guessing they mean rich men or very successful men. Like you will be left with less educated men. Or men who women do not desire. I think that is what they mean.

I am guessing they are trying to say like a woman's standards are so high that they will end up with nothing because the type of guys they seek are not interested in them at the age of 30. They want a young model.

Again I do not really understand it either. I am just speculating.

Literalbillionaire17 · Accepted Answer

HARD. Jk I don't know but I haven’t gotten there yet but my older friends always say that it’s better tbh. Bc like people are more mature at that age and they are looking for a more mature woman but that’s but what they’ve told me, it’s different for everyone else.

midnightmoon05 · Accepted Answer

Depends how difficult/easy you make it.

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

In India? Pretty much neutral. Not too difficult and not too easy too. When you are in 21 to 25 years of age, your education and looks are seen.

But in the 30s, not only the above but your salary, literally everything about you is seen and you kind of have the pregnancy pressure on you from the get-go. Which you don't when you marry in between 21 to 25.

Your spouse and you may also need to cater to your ego when in 30s since you both have established careers, or it is expected to have them.

Also, it is especially difficult for girls 30 or above 30. Because, guys do not want a girl who is older than them, and then again, the problem comes with childbearing and other things.

Better get married quickly, and then look at the career options afterward. One headache down for the rest of the life. Job headaches will always be there, but this headache goes away the moment you marry and have one or two kids.

HighValue · Answer

For someone like me that is an actual good man, 6' tall, strong, exercises, no drugs or alcohol, never cheat, trustworthy, is good with kids, has no contact with any ex, never had casual sex, and only want someone for long term and to create a family with, I personally have NO INTEREST in a woman past 30.

Men that either have a bad past themselves and are less valuable as a partner, or are in it for sex and don't care about creating a family together, or are cheaters, THOSE kinds of guys are readily available to women past 30. And yes, I have had multiple women in their 30s be interested in me IRL and I never return the interest.

Haha456 · Answer

best time to date is actually your 20s for both men and women. As you get older, you will find that many people are engaged, in serious long-term relationships, married, or too busy with kids to hang out with you. Do not listen to the misogynists on here who tout around that no man would be interested in a woman in her 30s. Its their way of getting revenge on women for rejecting them. You have the best chance of getting married 40 and under.

WindAtMyBack · Answer

It shouldn't be any harder than at any other age. That will be true even into your 80s and 90s. As you get older, so will the people you match up with. It all evens out.

These days, marrying for the first time over 30 has become very common. In some countries even the average first marriage is over 30.

USLegionary · Answer

Largely depends on what you bring to the table. The issue for women is not finding a man to marry but finding a man they believe is good enough to marry so the reason women find it more difficult in their 30s to find a man to marry is because the men they believe are good enough to marry are less intrested. 20s vs 30s

fbk94 · Answer

My basic condition for marriage is to be a naturally blue-eyed lady In the meantime, I would appreciate it if you could comment on my question.  #Reigner

Pudsmucker · Answer

My youngest child did not get married until her 30s. She chose her career over having a family. I have my middle daughter who has not married and she's almost 40. Some people and some nationalities Phil that is a shame upon a woman if she's not married in her late teens some places it's later. Some countries have arranged marriages and they are married at a very young age.

Paulalove98 · Answer

I mean it wasn’t hard for my mom. Just a real example. She met my dad when she was 38, got married and had me the same year.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Can’t be difficult if you don’t mind dumb dudes with no standards. If that’s a problem, it’ll be tougher. The bigger a problem that poses, the tougher it’ll be.

Bethany22 · Answer

Possibly all of the kind yet low self-esteemed men that most women wouldn't date because they thought that they preferred a challenge.

Adam1978 · Answer

The odds are getting worse, but they are still better than you had in the past, because they would already had married a girl back then.

God_of_Thunder · Answer

Probably not very. There are tons of men out there that would be more than happy to marry a woman in her 30's.

devilish-cutie · Answer

A lot of men mature after 30 so actually more than one would think

Danny_dan92 · Answer

You have to know where to look and what qualities to look for

Likes2drive · Answer

Shouldn’t be hard at all but it really depends on how picky the woman is

BLP11520 · Answer

I wouldn't know , but ladies should still be careful in choosing a mate. There is a lot of life after your 30"s

Zolly99999 · Answer

I'm sure there are plenty of great guys out there.

LifeBeautiful · Answer

I dont know. Im 31 and dont know how to find

insteadfew · Answer

Till mid thirties it's not difficult at all these days

NathanDavis · Answer

it'll be at Costco, tomorrow...

Iron_Man · Answer

Women shouldn’t have a problem

Lyndsielee666 · Answer

It’s not 😂😂

jimmy2 · Answer

No honey you very young still

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