How do you know he/she is the one when you yourself change every year?

[Drakinaa]

marriage

you live unmarried

you let it be

[LazerBean]

People rarely change arbitrarily, they just continue down the path they were already on. By looking at their family, their values, their goals, their habits, and just generally their experiences and values, it is almost always pretty predictable how someone will turn out.

[Drakinaa]

love this <3

[Drakinaa]

but can you really predict? when predictions work out i think its coincidence not my ability to predict

[LazerBean]

Predict is kind of a poor word for it, but I don't really know what a better word is at the moment. When you look at a healthy tree, You can "predict" that it will continue growing in the same way throughout its life cycle, based on how healthy it is, it consistent circumstances it is under, and what sort of tree it is. Not really because you're predicting, but because that is the logical order of how trees are. Of course there will be rare exceptions on occasion, but in general all things follow an order. It is the same with people. I have rarely seen someone stray from the path that they were on. Most people I knew 10 years ago are still today heading in the same direction that they were back then. I know two or three people who either had to make an active decision to change, or some freak situation happens that alter their path. But a good 95% of people I have ever known are exactly where I would have "predicted" them to be.

[devilish-cutie]

you dont change that much, not your core self really ever

[Guy13]

You get married and stick to it. What's the problem? As you say, people change but so what. Marriage is a contractual obligation and commitment...

[Drakinaa]

i dont like to stick if im unsure, lots of waste of time you know

[Guy13]

I'm the other way around. I would rather waste time on a 50% chance than a "don't know anything" chance.

[SnowedIn]

Among 1,000 other things: they're willing to change with you and accept the changes and flaws and awesomeness that comes with that change.

[boggboss]

I dont belive in the one which makes things easier I understand to make things work requires both to try and both to compromise

[In_Trance]

you give it time