It’s a feeling you both get Simultaneously, I don't know about others but for me it’s like you agree on most things if not everything and you love everything about each other it’s like they were made for you the moment you meet. However I don't know I feel like under the right circumstances a spark could be made it isn’t always instant and besides I was wrong with my “she’s the one” moment so I guess the certainty of it all will always be a mystery.
You both fall head over heels in love? And always keep the lady happy in every way?
The Lord Buddha Shakiymuni taught and it is still taught today that all girl, s and women must be respected, admired, loved and cared for and cherished because they create magickal mystical life and worshipped as Goddesses and as a Tibetan Buddhist I always do this respectfully x
You can't really until you fully commit to the relationship and go all in and making it work. I usually try to hold to a few rules,
1.) We need to date for at least a year, before we talk about moving in together. 2.) Then we need to live together for a year before I will talk about marriage.
By then it's been two year and I should know what I need to know and marriage at that point should be on the table. I have meet plenty of women that 6 months in I am thinking I would totally live with this woman and probably marry her at some point. But being victim to myself in my youth I resist these things. Let be honest most women are not even talking about moving together 6 months in and those that are, are a RED FLAG to me.
But usually around the 6-to-8-month stage the honeymoon period ends, and that when things start to get serious, and that is usually when all the things you didn't really know about the person tend to surface. So since divorcing 3 years ago I never reached that lets move into together phase. I have had two relationships that petered out between the 8-to-12-month stage, for reason I never saw coming 6 months in.
In my case I was glad I waited... because had they moved in with me it would have ended terribly and been very dramatic... and thank God we never go to the let's get married stage.
Two things, they are right for you and you are right for them, cause I’ve been in situations where I really cared for somebody but the feelings were not mutual or they cared for me but did not have my care in return.
Yes, but not really honestly. At some point something has to happen, and someone has to take the initiative, but you are right to the degree... that at some pion it just becomes the right thing to do, and you both feel the need to take that next step together.
@DaveJord No, I mean that BAM…damn she is the one sort of just happened. For me, Lust, overtime sacrificial and gracious with all, and etc… with personality and character then 🙄 before you lose her “thing”
I don't know the answer to that but I know how to know they aren't the one, when they're actions don't match they're words... example they talk to you and tell you how much they love you but then you talk back and tell them something real but look at them and they are messaging or so. ething on they're phone phone... see how they love you so much that they camt even look you in the eye. If they won't except responsibility for they're own actions or you say we don't understand eachother they try saying that's because you this or you that, this is them trying to blame you because they camt even except shared responsibility. If they shut down when confronted or your trying to have a serious talk and they just mess with they're phone not looking at you it's because they are not hearing a word your saying because it doesn't matter to them if they make you look bad. It is called stonewalling. I believe when you find the one you will know because they will make you feel special and love you know matter what, they won't let little things get to them that another another does which they find annoying, you will be going through they're head all the time so if they are messaging you everyday at work to ask about your day, or text I lobe you every day, if you get random gifts all the time it's because they are always thinking about you.
Speaking from experience of those around me, those who are with 'the one' often have the following traits:
1) They finish your sentences pretty much after you started yours 2) They understand you totally as a person (ie. know the reason you do certain things) 3) They'll know your likes/dislikes and will work along with them 4) You'll find your personalities and maybe social circles are highly complimentary 5) You may experience a lot of coincidences like they may call you or think about doing certain things at the same time that you do
LOL... I love it. But honestly you never really know until you know... and even then, people, circumstances, and expectation change of time. So honestly the "One" today may not be the "One" tomorrow. But if you want something then you have to commit to the process and hopefully figure it out in time.
You really never know? There is no magical thing that happens except for shared emotions, that are subject to change.
You could both fall in love, have very deep feelings. Love with each other. Get married, and then months or years down the line, a partner realizes that they are not suited for the relationship.
When you know enough about yourself what you actually want that isn't generic and know it's what will keep you going without petty arguments over things you though you could ignore... well there's a lot of things but sometimes too it takes being with the wrong person to know. Or just interacting with a lot of people and not being swayed by anyone who compliments you etc... anywho
I can't speak from own experiences but I always get told that you just know without doubt when it happens
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On our second date, she wanted to take me out for lunch before I had to make my flight. We sat beside each other in the restaurant and I realized that even though it was a boring date, watching her quietly munch on her food brought me a greater feeling of peace than I had ever felt before.
You don't. Because the one is a myth. If your playing it smart you find someone with the same values who likes you. It won't always be butterflies and rainbows, the human condition will always prevent that.
Most people assume ‘the one’ has got to be your forever love. This isn’t the case. You can meet ‘the one’ and be together for just months or years. It’ll last as long as it lasts.
When I met my wife, I was able to be myself and be funny in front of her 100% of the time. It took no effort and never out of place. No conversation is ever difficult with her.
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