What do you think about married women letting their husbands mess around?

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There are guys out their who are married and still go on dates with other women and their wife puts up with it. I don't get it. Usually they just say just don't bring nothing home. (Stds)

bamesjond0069 · Accepted Answer

I'm not married (because I'm not stupid) but this is how my girlfriend and I are. She remains faithful and I can date and sleep around however I want. She gets a lot of benefits for it though is why she is ok with it.

1. I'm out of her league. Even though she's great, a top male is more valuable in smv than a top woman. Honestly I can pull young 18 year Olds, strippers, models, tatted up girls, girls from church. I have an endless supply. How can any one woman compete? Boom.

2. She's bi. I let her fuck girls with me once in awhile.

3. I'm very sexually difficult to handle. I'm large and have crazy stamina and drive. She truly appreciates a break once in awhile but also feels bad getting a break while leaving me unsatisfied.

4. I'm awesome to her in general like perfect boyfriend, we both believe men and women are different, so she believes this is what an awesome girlfriend does and is happy to match my effort to hers.

Hope that helps you understand.

Sun_Kim-Ai · Accepted Answer

I think it can be mostly a cultural thing.

Like I've said in my question Why it is considered weird for a man to ignore women that are not his wife or girlfriend? in my country it is considered normal and even expected for married men of a certain status to have a mistress. It's not encouraged or accepted, but such affairs are tolerated as open secrets.

Here it is somewhat normal for a married man, naturally if he is wealthy or holds political power, to frequent women that are not his wife. Both my grandfather and my father had mistresses and their wives more or less tolerated that, because they reasoned that "they were men".

TrueConfection · Accepted Answer

I think it's sad and that there must be a good reason he isn't locked out of the house.

Just a few examples I have heard of;

1. He's physically abusive/threatening.

2. She doesn't want her kids around a bunch of sleazy women if they divorced.

3. She is financially dependent on him and doesn't want to end up in the ghetto.

4. She doesn't wan't her children to find out that their dad is a dirt bag.

5. They are a high profile couple and a divorce would jeopardize their status.

DubiousIntentions · Accepted Answer

They are, to be honest, stupid. If you want to be a friends with benefits why even bother to get married?

Guy13 · Answer

Men are stupid. Poor idea. Quickest way to great alimony check.

Avicenna · Answer

Seems dumb to me. And I wouldn’t believe them in most cases.

Finchie40 · Answer

Means she doesn’t value him and is probably spreading her Legs for someone else as well, She doesn’t hate him but she is not in love with him , They are Both selfish people that only really care about themselves that like the convenience of each other , because if someone truly loved you they wouldn’t want you screwing anyone else bottom line , They hold on to each other because what was invested in the marriage , House, cars , finances , kids etc. So instead of letting that go and sacrificing everything they invested into the relationship they hold on to each other for the convenience, but they truly don’t love each other They are basically just roommates that are using each other as a safety net. When you can’t avoid temptations and can’t sacrifice for your partner and remove selfishness for each other there is no love just convenience

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Honestly, those women sound smart, to me. They know that their abilities to keep up with their husbands’ desires totally drops off after they have kids. Why bother fighting it? She gets her life needs taken care of and he gets sex.

DermalPunch · Answer

It's disturbing. There is no respect. Such people have no respect for themselves or each other. Sad.

SnowedIn · Answer

If both parties in the marriage talk about this and agree on it and everyone is legal age and consenting, what's the problem?

UniquelyBasic · Answer

I personally feel she doesn't have much self-respect. Again, if she's fine with it then go for it but I still find it kind of weird.

Anonymous · Answer

This is pretty much my situation he would do it if I want him to or not and my children are not the same citizenship as me and I am dependent financially so it would be a complicated.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

I don't approve of it at all, but I don't shame it. It was already understood that he was like that from the very beginning.

Anonymous · Answer

My husband and I see other people, but it is not a random thing. We always discuss it beforehand.

Sparkie460 · Answer

I think it's disrespectful on his part. If he wants to sleep around he should get a divorce.

_hislonelystar · Answer

Because he’s gonna cheat regardless I guess that’s their view? I wouldn’t tolerate it but I get it.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

The thought makes me sad :(

Anonymous · Answer

Hell no! At least not with me!

justFriend · Answer

i dont know man

Anonymous · Answer

Pathetic.

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