Help, I just sat down with the other chief bridesmaid (hope that is translated correctly) for the planning of the bachelorette parties?

[msmissydc]

So for context we are trying to plan the bachelorette parties of our brides as chief bridesmaids. Lesbian wedding if that wasn't clear. A few problems that we encountered compared to a straight bachelorette parties.
- They have a nearly identical friend groups, yes that can happen anyway but, we can't just send guys with one and girls with the other nor exclude any gender for that matter.
- Is one party together even an option? Maybe getting together later after doing some parted activities?
- Aside from the usual any cool and fun ideas?
- Any additional tips are greatly appreciated please.
- Also not a lot of LGBTQ+ members in the guests. But as the evening is mainly about the brides that shouldn't matter really. All of them are allies or at least open supporters.

We are in the early planning stages nothing is set at this time. My own bachelorette party is also coming up and I liked their way and amount of including me into the planning so we will probably do that similar.

[caring__1]

I understand you have two Maids of Honor, and the two of you are planning the bachelorette party/parties. You are planning this for the brides, so it's important they're part of the decision making (other than special surprises you plan). Discuss with them what they view as the purpose of a bachelorette party and what they'd like to see as their ideal. Based on what they share, you can determine if it makes sense to have one or two parties.

Many people who choose to have a bachelor/bachelorette party view it as one last fling before settling down. If that's the case, they may not want their partner to be present during the fling. Just be respectful of their wishes.

[msmissydc]

One maid of honor for each bride. But this is one friend group so we talked about it. Also the brides wished that we coordinate.

[caring__1]

Since it's one set of friends, excluding any from either party can be seen as a slight, and expecting them to buy 3 gifts (one for each bachelorette party and one for the wedding) can come across as greedy and insensitive. If there is no purpose in having separate parties, just make it one big hurrah for both at a single party. Each Maid of Honor can personalize something special for her bride to be.

[Jennz6]

Yeah that’s true

[Jennz6]

Best wishes for a great party and enjoy everyone girls 💃

[Jennz6]

Thank you 🙏 for the MHO 💃