Guys would you want to marry a woman who doesn't want children?

[Anonymous]

[Fireguy17]

Yes, and only because I couldn't have children.
I have lost many relationships because of that.
At first, they were fine with it, but then as the clock was ticking, they decided that they wanted to have kids.
I get it.
The odd thing is that when I met my wife, she was past the age of being able to have kids, and it turns out that she couldn't have kids either.
Go figure.
That was not something I put in my dating profile.

[Miristheiss]

Hmmmm.

In theory it wouldn't matter. I was always 50/50 on kids and was always planning to just do what my wife wanted. So if a woman didn't want kids then that would have been fine.

My wife wanted kids. We had 2 and then I got a vasectomy. She is not on birth control.

In this scenario I'd just get a vasectomy. If she was planning to stay on the hormone pill all her life I'd not go along with that.

[DiegoO]

Can't be 50/50 on kids. Or you either want kids or you don't. Is an absolute decision, because having kids takes an absolute dedication to them.

[Sirenboobzilla]

@DiegoO Only a sith deals in absolutes... couldn't help myself 😆

[Miristheiss]

@DiegoO
Of course you can. Don't preach to me how I should feel.
I was never against kids but I also wasn't dead set on having to have kids.
My opinion was... if I'm with a girl and she wants kids, we'll try for kids. If I'm with a girl and she has no desire for kids, I'm fine with having no kids.

She was dying to have kids and already had a girl's name picked out. We had kids.

[DiegoO]

Just saying, having kids should be a yes or a no decision, "maybe" doesn't fit with the responsabity and consequence of having a child.

[DiegoO]

@Sirenboobzilla I am usually not in favour of thinking in absolutes, but bringing a child to this world should never be taken lightly, or with ambivalence.

[Friendlybro79]

@DiegoO Tell that to my Dad. Lol. I agree with you and unfortunately can tell you from the kids perspective that not all people truly get that and still have kids.

[Friendlybro79]

I should clarify I agree that you should take absolute dedication. You don't have to know what you want yourself and then figure that out when you're in a relationship. I'm more for saying even if you think you want kids continue to talk to actual parents and figure out if you truly mean it. Too many people think they have to have kids and don't want them.

[DiegoO]

@Friendlybro79 That's my point. My "dad" is possibly one of those who goes with whatever. Having that type of "dad" is disappointing. They are just their because, they feel they gotta be there. At the same time, they don't show much affection.

[petitedollbabee]

I’m interested in the opinions given. I don’t want children (or marriage) and I’ve found a great partner who also doesn’t want either of those. But I know that not every man will feel the same way that my partner does.

[peterrezeeek]

did u think at least once about ur future when u become old... who will take care of you? Isn’t children necessary?

[petitedollbabee]

Ofcourse I’ve thought about my future, if I even get to have one. No, children is not necessary just for taking care of you when you’re old.

[Friendlybro79]

@peterrezeeek That's a selfish reason to have kids.. Take responsibility for your own life and get long term care if you're worried.

[peterrezeeek]

not just to take care of u,, u don't like to make a family? if ur parents were thinking like u then u will not to be now..

[petitedollbabee]

I said I don’t want kids, that doesn’t mean I don’t want a family. You can easily have a family without having kids. And if I wasn’t here, I wouldn’t know that I’m not here. So that means nothing.

[Friendlybro79]

@peterrezeeek I wouldn't know the difference. You gotta love your kids or don't have them and not every kid has loving parents. The other side of it is don't worry about your opinion. You're allowed to feel how you do but if you can't understand how others feel differently that's ok. There's no reason to continue asking why not in different ways.

[Faith18letsgo]

I’m not a guy but I’m gay. I would marry a woman who didn’t want children but that would be the number one predictor I’d have for the reason of our divorce.

[Guy13]

I don’t want a No Baby producing “woman” because I want a well trained lineage grounded within the household, critical thinking, by God’s Grace houseful.

[Friendlybro79]

Catch of the year goes to...

[Guy13]

@Friendlybro79 😂 🤣

[musicbrain5]

I’m sure there’s guys out there who also don’t want kids. Men who want kids are not a good fit for you.

[Backnforth]

Neither me or my wife want kids, not even when we were younger. She also can't take birth control because she's sensitive to hormone changes, so I just got a vasectomy a few years ago. Vasectomy was way easier than her getting her tube tied too as it's less invasive and doctors never asked me a million questions or told me no haha I was 25 when I got it. Best decision of my life, and we couldn't be happier.

[RavVid]

Some guys do really want children but I think most guys just accept children come with marriage and go along with it. I just don't think guys regard children as that important in the same way that most women do.

I would regard a woman who doesn't want children as perfect for me.

[420Rachel]

Well I have a child myself, and I would like another baby someday so I would hope that he wants a baby lol. Of course not everyone wants kids and that’s ok!

[nitsuj86]

Marry no. Probably not.

I have always wanted kids. My own kids, not someone else's. So it has been a deal breaker for me in the past.

Now, if I was unable to have children myself, then sure it wouldn't really matter to me then.

[BCA6010]

That would go against my primary motivation for dating and hopefully getting married in the first place. A woman who can't have kids but wants to adopt is a different story.

[OfMiceandMen]

I would be fine with that at my age (even if I was 40 or so). I am not interested in having any babies. Don't get me wrong, I love kids just not interested in having a newborn.

[ShadezMcgee]

That is a major reason why I would want to marry. I want to have kids so my family can continue.

[TheUniqueOne96]

I'd be in a long term relationship with one, but no marriage, as I view it as pointless.

I don't want kids either.

[UmbrusNightshade]

Personally, no. I want my own children. But there are guys out there who don’t want kids so they very well might.

[Avcfhcic]

If we had a great connection of course!
I don't know if I want kids or not yet but I'm not very good with children anyway

[nrm736]

I don't want kids either so it's a big up for me. But I'm not a fan of marrying either. Maybe I could be convinced about the latter if our relationship stands the test of time.

[Twalli]

I plan to, and it's pretty easy to make that choice because I got a vascetomy to ensure that any woman I have sex with cannot get pregnant from me. I am open to adoption if she still wants to be with me, but wants to raise children.

[HighValue]

I have no interest in a woman if she doesn't want children and to raise a family together.

[Lynx122]

I don't want children but I don't want to get married either. At least atm.

[Anonymous]

If you truly don't want children, and she's sure she doesn't want children, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Not everyone should or can be a parent.

[Lionman95]

Yes since I´m not good with small kids I surely would.

[dustybiker]

When you meet a great person reality effects theory.

[TheVigilantFox]

If I loved her then yes, I don’t want kids anyway as they’re to much hassle.