Why do men let a woman get pregnant knowing she wants engagement & marriage and he's making her "wait"?

[Anonymous]

What type of guy is that normally?

[misogynistic_pig]

There are many reasons why a man might let a woman get pregnant knowing that she wants a commitment and marriage, and then make her wait.

Some of these reasons could include:

Different goals: Men and women may have different goals in the relationship.

The man may be enjoying the relationship and not ready to commit, while the woman may be looking for a serious and long-term relationship.

Fear of Commitment: The man may be afraid to commit or may not be sure if he is ready for marriage.

Instead of talking about his feelings and concerns, he may be avoiding the subject.

Lack of communication: The man and the woman may find it difficult to communicate and express their needs and desires in the relationship.

This can cause the man to not realize how important commitment and marriage are to the woman.

Manipulation: In some cases, the man may be manipulating the woman into getting pregnant in the hope that she will stay with him and commit to him.

[OlderAndWiser]

What type of girl is it who doesn't want to get pregnant but leaves contraceptive control to the guy? Leave him if you don't like how he treats you but he doesn't get 100% of the blame for something that you can control. . . but didn't.

[Asker]

Oh he's taking accountability and responsibility no doubt. It doesn't mean cause he got me preggo he HAS to marry me. It's I wanted marriage or a ring before the baby. So knowing that I feel he dropped the ball. But he says he will propose I just have to be patient.. but that's a HARD I don't know how to feel

[OlderAndWiser]

"I feel he dropped the ball." I feel the ball was dropped by both of you. I would never want to marry a woman who doesn't accept responsibility for her own decisions.

[Asker]

Lol who said I wasn't taking responsibility? It was an accident I got pregnant and I'm carrying my unborn not like I had an abortion? Tf

[OlderAndWiser]

You bega your question by asking why HE allowed you to get pregnant. This has nothing to do with him giving you permission to get pregnant.

[Asker]

You misunderstood my persepective on things. Why would a man not take percussions. Even if the girl said cum in me all you want if he didn't want any further commitment he should of wrapped it up and not let the girl believe it was something when it's not. No, he's not the only one to blame because it's also the girls responsibility... I was just saying

[OlderAndWiser]

Okay. You just didn't phrase it real clearly. For a guy, using a condom is like kissing a girl on the other side of a heavy blanket; most of the sensation is gone. And he clearly wasn't thinking once he was inside you. He just did what felt good at the moment.

[OlderAndWiser]

I'm glad you explained what you meant.

[Asker]

And I'm glad I'm carrying a kid out of Wed lock lol

[Asker]

Again, no one's fault but mine? As if the guy sexually satisfy me. Anything for a ring lol

[OlderAndWiser]

His responsibility, too. You can't force him to become a good father but you can force him to financially support his child.

[Asker]

That's why I chose him as a father. He does both very well without me having to force anything... it's him putting a ring on it lol. He's the one who "courted" me unless that's utter bullshit. Anyway I'm sure I'll move on soon

[OlderAndWiser]

Talk to a lawyer in your area, or the local chld support enforcement office, about your circumstances. They can advise you of your legal rights and the steps to take to get support.

[Asker]

? Why would I do that? I'm not going to keep our child away from him all because he won't marry me? Someone else will... not a big deal buddy

[Asker]

Again, you misunderstood

[OlderAndWiser]

So you don't want him to pay child support?

[Asker]

Nah he will be in our kids life whether we married or not.

[Asker]

I know that for a fact. Even if he passes on God forbid... he's already made me a beneficiary so I'm never tripping

[Sweetener_]

Lol, I blame both because they both have no direction for their life. But still, I believe every woman should set the standard and make these men understand that they have to put a ring on her finger before she starts popping kids out.

[RandomGuy1030]

Why? A marriage isn't even real if the woman's parents don't agree to it, and if she doesn't pay up and buy the man something for his investment

[Asker]

@RandomGuy1030 so a woman's vagina isn't enough? And all the other shit she does for said man? And in what world is your statement rrgarding? Like I need to know the religion.. so I can stay far away lol

[RandomGuy1030]

Pre feminism. What you call marriage today is an elopement. Marriage without anyone's approval or arrangement except the woman's. There's a differentiation because everyone knew women can't choose.

[LazerBean]

Because women these days are so easy and gullible, so men have realized that they can easily get what they want by just not communicating their intentions.

[Asker]

What if the men do but it seems like a lie?
Just sa w a video about not trusting a man who gives a time frame because "he will know then" many women/men say and will know right away when to put a ring on it.

[LazerBean]

Pretty much all of those problems are solved by not being easy and sleeping with men before you are married.

[Asker]

Smh true. Baggage dawg.
Tons of it. I respect it though. Now I'm being punished because I seem or am lose and easy and no one will ever take me serious. Got it. Sad but aight

[Anonymous]

I don't understand legal marriage. I want marriage but not legal marriage. I'm not about to copycat tradition. I'll make my own tradition and culture. And it will be better.