Would you cancel your wedding if you learned that your future wife/husband had a stripper for her/his party without asking you beforehand?

[Anonymous]

Yes

No

Updates

+1 y

There wasn't any sex nor any preliminaries. Just touching of non genital parts.

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+1 y

Posting my opinion : I would cancel the weeding. If she asked me beforehand and promised she would not touch the stripper and keep her hands to herself, I would be okay with it.

[DizzyDesii]

I wouldn't cancel it but i’d be very mad. Now if he slept with a stripper or allowed them to give him oral or something (basically some sexual activity aside from dancing/grinding against him) then... I’m not canceling the wedding. I’m still walking down the aisle. I will not say “I do”, i will instead embarrass him in front of the guests. And then i will allow him to get a to-go plate from the reception and get tf outta my face. Im gonna eat and dance with the guests lol. Im not lettin money go to waste

[Asker]

The question has an update saying there was touching of non genital parts. Does it count as sexual activities?

[DizzyDesii]

Im assuming its like i said above as in grinding/dancing on him.

[Jersey2]

I had a wild party. My friends picked me up at the airport and it was on! My wife knew my friends she said so it had to be days before the actual wedding, not the night before. We were asked to leave 3 bars, one of which was a strip club. We were drunk and rowdy, I was starting fights, my friends mocked customers in the club that were there alone and we boo’ed off strippers who weren’t to up to our high standards… they tell me they cried. Bouncers asked politely for us to leave, no one that night without a SWAT team would dare try to physically throw us out. It was epic and yet not that different from 5 or so years earlier when I was single. My wife didn’t bat an eye about a strip club and I didn’t know before hand. What she cared about were the bruises and cuts I had but most of those weren’t visible at the wedding except on my hand.

[Unit1]

The relationship would be downgraded to sex-friends only or terminated altogether. No discussion.

They say what happened at bachelor/bachelorette/stripper parties stays there.

My fiancé went to her bachelorettee party and she had a stripper there?

[Unit1]

I get the feeling, that whoever lets this slide has a little cuck (cuckold/cuckquean) emerging in themselves.

[Asker]

I agree. Particularly men. Male strippers are not innocent fun where you oogle a bit. The girls are not just looking and grope a lot. I advise men to be careful.

[Unit1]

Most men won't resist if they get the chance to have sex with the girls.
You and I both know that.

[Asker]

But that never happen because female strip clubs are not lawless places like male strip clubs.

[Anonymous]

Cancel the wedding. That's a tough choice. It would depend on his reaction about being called out on it.

WHY?

If it comes across as you're hiding it well then how exactly can you be trusted?

If you can't be upfront about something that is by rights typically an innocent bit of fun in just having a stripper for EYES only entertainment you're not trustworthy period.

Particularly when strippers can and do perform sexual acts and the most likely person that'd have a sexual act done is the future husband. And while the future husband could say that a best mate or another guy sprang it on them unannounced 90% of the events at a bachlors or bachlorettes party are preplanned and well known to ALL members that are going to be involved.

[Asker]

in my opinion, if you did anything you are not willing to tell your partner or willing to do in front of him, it is cheating.

[TrueConfection]

Nope. I'd be fine with it as long as there wasn't any sex.

[virtue2332]

Has anyone noticed how different this younger generation is about sex. Have we turned them all into confused prudes. It's a stripper get over its not like he is running away with her. The real risk is the other people at the bars they have a higher chance of meeting someone and doing something there.

[Asker]

@virtue2332 So what, your partner can have sex with others as long as there is no chances of her running away?

[Miristheiss]

Yes.

I'll leave them today if they get a stripper.

Going to bars, clubbing, getting strippers... if this was her desire and plan to celebrate with "friends" then there wouldn't have been a wedding.

[Miristheiss]

Per your update:
"just touching of non genital parts"

I didn't ask my wife to marry me so she could run out drinking before the wedding to have some man touch her with non genital parts.

If that was her idea of the relationship boundaries, what she considers fun and appropriate and respectful to me as her life partner then she needed to go back to the streets. She is not worthy to be my wife.

[Simslover92]

No, I would be understanding and probably more than likely would have been his best man or groomsmen that put him up to it so I wouldn't feel too bad about it. As long as there's no sex or nothing too outrageous that happened, I'm fine with it.

[Asker]

What do you consider "too outrageous" ?

[Simslover92]

Like kissing or touching on female parts. Getting his dick sucked by the stripper.

[FinalFantasyBro]

I don't think sure personally I wouldn't hire one myself I go to the beach and have people have a beach party and plus women wearing bikini seems more sexually appealing to me compared to straight up stripper but that's only me. So no if I had a fiance and she and her friends order strippers I won't mind it if she doesn't mind a possible beach or pool party and actually seeing other women possibly there

[Nikki1989]

I would be hurt I wasn't asked about it, but if I was asked, I wouldn't have a problem with it. It is tradition for many people, after all.

[D_Bone_Steak]

I picked yes... because if she's going to hide something that mundane... It kind of predicts what else she's going to hide.

Lying by omission is still lying. And just nothing I hate more than liars.

[D_Bone_Steak]

After the 2nd update: I feel exactly the same. Her being a liar though proves she's going to lie and I wouldn't want to be married to someone like that. The type of lie it is also shows she's manipulative, which I'm pretty sure I'd get a glimpse of that manipulation once I break the news that I'm out. I mean you just know the chick will beg and plead, probably use sexy time, anger stuff... all the tricks women use to manipulate.

[SeriouslyFunny00]

Oopsie. It wouldn't be kept a secret if it were truly intended to be "innocent". I'll call off or delay the wedding or, to be fair, I'll throw my own party with guy strippers too. 🤭😂

[LazerBean]

Yeah, all future interaction with that person would have been cancelled.

[FreyaRed]

Depends on circumstances and my long term goals of this marriage. However if I liked and respected him before, this event would show me it's wrong to like and to respect him any further.

[Paris13]

Probably not. But it Would be Hard to Trust Him anymore doing this Stuff Behind my Back. I'd go Bonkers on HIM for a long Time. xxoo

[jshm2]

Why the fuck would you not ask these sorts of things beforehand though?

It's on you to find out everything before marriage, it's not on them to tell.

[Apple1996]

100% cancel it purely cuz strippers are gross and I wouldn't want to be with a guy that was into them on any level

[Drumlin2001]

As long as nothing too untoward happened it wouldn't be an issue. I'd problem have strippers at my stag so would be hypocritical to be upset at OH having one

[snowboarder720]

If I’d trust her enough to meet them then I’d trust her during her bachelorette party.

[Asker]

Well it is not really about if she had sex or not. It is more about you feeling comfortable with your girl seeing other men with Holywood actor body naked and groping them.

[imawfulatusernames]

Yes, I would probably leave if he asked for a stripper at all if he had one behind my back yes most definitely yea.

[TrillXHippy]

She wouldn’t need to ask me cause I’m not her dad, if she wants to have a stripper then she’s going to have a stripper, maybe she just doesn’t like strippers at all and strippers won’t be anywhere near her party

[DizzyDesii]

You’re very nice but nah he would know early on that neither of us are having strippers

[Adam1978]

No it's all about what they did with the stripper. Besides a stripper isn't necessary a prostitute.

[fonduegirl]

Yes. Because I probably would have said yes to them. So why keep secrets?

[mattclark242]

I think it be ok I call it tradition. The going going behind your back is a bit much.

[Johnny4473]

How do you reach the marriage stage without evwr discussing something like this with your partner?

[elizamichale1]

No not at all... thts not a crime...

[exitseven]

no, it is just a bachelor party

[northerngal]

Frankly i would expect it!

[TheSpaceGnome]

Yep I'd cancel it.

[DermalPunch]

Did you seriously do that you ass?

[worldscolide]

No, but I also trust my wife implicitly.